Author Archives: Mistress Ayn

BDSM provides catharsis and creates inner calm

Atlanta-dominatrixI often tell people that a good BDSM session can be spiritual..  Many look at Me like I am crazy, but for those that have experienced it, you know what I mean.  The ability to truly let go in session can open doorways in the mind that allow a mental processing that is not common in everyday life.  It is not unusual for Me to hear feedback that a sub miraculously had a solution to a problem that had been troubling him or that it felt as if they had gone on a mini-vacation and now felt relaxed and renewed.   Subspace is an altered state of mind and great things can happen in that altered state if you just allow it.

What gets a sub to that place is different from sub to sub.  What follows are excerpts from a review of a session where something magical happened.

” . . .  The first feeling of exhilaration hit me as I lifted my chin to accept her collar and smoothly leaned forward for the buckling . . .

Over the next three hours, Mistress Ayn put me through my paces with an increasingly intense and severe set of implements. They ranged from the traditional to the wicked.  But no matter how intense it became, Mistress Ayn was always intuitive and quick to intervene with a “rescue”: a moment of gentle caresses, a shoulder to rest on, and whispers of encouragement coaxing me to accept more. She had moved me to a place of physical and emotional vulnerability, but never once violated it. She created a safe space for me. I knew that I may be pushed, but not so far as to fall off the edge.

As we progressed to the climax, I was secured to a spanking bench for the final severity. This round of corporal punishment served as the prelude to her legendary strap on training skills. Ensuring that I was well prepared for that scenario, she gave me my first asshole caning.

Yes, she caned me “there”. Outside of the strap on invasion that followed, it was the most potent reminder that a submissive’s body belongs to the dominant, and that nothing is hidden.

She brought me down to earth, holding my hand and encouraging me to take it easy the rest of the day. There’s so much more that transpired, but I can do no better than this: Mistress Ayn successfully weaves together the role of nurturer and comforter as well as torturer and tormentor.

I walked out of her dungeon with peace and inner calm . . . ”

To read the full review, visit Max Fisch.

So the next time you feel the stresses of life are weighing you down, a good “BDSM therapy session” with your friendly neighborhood Dominatrix might be just what the doctored ordered.

AynRules.com now Live!

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I’ve been hinting that something big was in the works and now it’s time for the reveal.  Announcing AynRules.com – a place where devoted subs can belong. It’s My World and it contains “Everything Ayn”.  All My clips, photos, recordings, and other exclusive content.

What’s here:

  • Clips – Why buy one clip at a time when, for the price of one or two clips, you can have then all?  Content is updated at least once weekly.  you’ll find clips here you can’t find on Clips4Sale or anywhere else.
  • Customs – Ever dreamed of a custom video or recording?  Imagine a clip or audio recording that speaks to you, one that is fueled by your fantasies and helps deepen your submission.  Customs are now available to members.
  • Photos – No more scouring the internet and ads for images. They are all here – many you have never seen. All are viewable online and downloadable.

All videos are filmed in HD and content is viewable online or by download.

Low introductory membership.  Join now at the introductory price of only $14.95 per month and enjoy that low rate for as long as you keep your membership active.  Sign up is easy and you can cancel at any time

Discreet billing.  Concerned about charging this to your card?  your privacy is important to Me.  The site is secure and the billing I.D. on your card statement is discreet and does not tie back to Me or the site if you do an internet search.   If you prefer, most prepaid credit cards (Visa gift cards, vanilla visa, etc) are accepted.  To use most prepaid cards you will need to visit the card’s website and associate a zip code (any zip code is fine) and then use that zip code at checkout.

For those in My stable, membership is a must and it is a small tithe to pay for the privilege.  Imagine the assignments I could give you, using this content.   Pre-session instructions can take on a whole new dimension and distance training can be more challenging and real.

For a preview of what’s in store visit AynRules.com.  Watch trailers, view models, then join and start being a part of My World.

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The softer side of domination – sissification.

Mistress Ayn with SissyWhen most people think of BDSM or a Dominatrix, the image of whips and chains comes to mind. However, not all forms of domination require pain or the harsher aspects of submission.    Sissification and transformations are examples of such scenarios.  These scenes can go by many names:  slut training, sissification, forced feminization, transformations – just to name a few.  They do not have to involve bondage, pain or even humiliation.  Some subs are willing participants in their transformation.  They desire to be rid of their male persona, even if only for the short duration of a session.  Others want to be “forced” to let their male ego go and usually find the humiliation of the experience exciting.  There are as many shades to sissification as there are in the color gray.  To each his own.

One sub summed up his experience in a review on The Erotic Review.  Here are some excerpts from the “Juicy Details”:

“Mistress Ayn shows her softer side by initiating and following through with my sissy transformation. From the moment I walked in the door Mistress Ayn began the transformation by stripping me of all male clothing. As I kneeled before Mistress Ayn and was allowed to worship her, she began to explain that I was no longer in the position to make decisions and I was now her property to do with as she desired. She sent chills through my body  . . . “

“The session gravitated to the medical room where I was strapped down to an examination table. This is when I first heard the sound of her skin thin rubber gloves. She whispered to me that I soon will understand what will definitely always happen when I hear the sound of her gloves . . .”

“Back to the examination table I went for make up which Mistress applied with care. While all of this was going on Mistress Ayn continued to tease me with the suggestions of how I was going to make a pretty girl who would soon be sucking cock and having their sissy ass filled. She meant it too . . . “

“The session moved in to the dungeon where I was dressed in beautiful stockings, garter belt, a silky top, a wig and high heels. I then modeled and walked around for Mistress Ayn while she continued to suggest that a slut like me needed to be put to good use and of course it was too late for me to decide otherwise. There was a little light spanking as a tease; however, Mistress Ayn did this just so I was sure who was in charge. She listened to my voice and body and made me feel safe and thoroughly aroused!”

“I lost track of time before too long and my head was spinning until the next day from the intensity and carefully orchestrated sissy session that Mistress Ayn provided. I am very afraid of any pain and Mistress Ayn took very good care of me. We have had a second 4 hour session and I give 100 Percent trust to Mistress Ayn that she will and has taken exceptional care of me. The professionalism that Mistress Ayn demonstrates is what I have been looking for. Our journey will continue with some shopping and night club outings and . . . “

“Mistress Ayn is leading me down the safe path to happiness with her care, professionalism and understanding. She is a dream come true. I love what she does for me.” –  sissy crissy

For the full review, visit TER – membership required.

In My experience, subs who enjoy and focus on sissification, typically are not into much, if any, pain.  There are exceptions to that, of course, but generally speaking, sissies love the tease, tactile sensations and visuals.  Activities like tease and denial, strap on worship/training, chastity and other forms of sensual domination are more up their alley.  So it you have been fantasizing about a sissy session, but were afraid, don’t be.  Just communicate your desires to your dominant and then relax and let it happen.  Getting in touch with your feminine side can be a good thing.

 

 

Foot Lust – A treat for foot fetishists

Are you a foot fetishist? Do you stare at women’s feet and long to see them without their shoes? Do you fantasize about touching, smelling, even kissing and licking feet?  If the answer is “YES”, then you have a lust for feet and foot lust is for you.

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Find it here in My Clips Store.

In this POV clip I tease you about staring at My feet and legs all day, then I give you what you have been wanting – almost. Slowly I take one black pump off and let it dangle for a bit before I remove it and give you a glimpse of My perfect stocking encased foot. I hold the foot to your nose and let you inhale its divine fragrance. Eventually I teasingly take off one stocking and tell you to imagine how it would feel to have My feet dominate your cock – pressing it into the carpet until you begged to stop or continue.  The ultimate tease and denial POV for the foot fetishist.

Demystifying the appeal of 50 Shades – Hint: It has nothing to do with BDSM

MistressAynDec2014--7eI know we are all tired of the hype, reviews and general trashing of 50 Shades of Grey. Personally I never thought I would chime in on the subject.  I didn’t see the movie and I was only able to read about half of the book before giving up on there being anything meaningful or entertaining about BDSM in the novel.  After about 200 pages there had only been one spanking scene and a tour of Grey’s dungeon – hardly what I would call a book about BDSM.

Now that the movie is out, once again My news feed is inundated with articles about it – most of which I dismiss and don’t even skim, but today one caught My attention.  It was titled:  “Forget the BDSM in 50 Shades – It’s all about the money.”  After just a cursory look at the article I could see that it had finally put into words what had been worrying around in the back of My mind, but for some reason I had been unable to articulate.  This is the quote that caught My eye:  “This fetishization of wealth, along with Grey’s whiteness and good looks, also seems to be the only thing that excuses his obsessive, stalkerish behavior throughout . . . Just ask yourself a simple question: Would a story about a poor but psychologically controlling farmer who likes tying up girlfriends and whipping them in a barn have had the impact on our nation’s consciousness that Fifty Shades has?”  Bingo!  This book isn’t about BDSM.  It’s about the fantasy of being “rescued” and living the “good life” . . . about flying in private jets and drinking $500 bottles of wine.  Submitting to a little abuse or swallowing your dignity is just the price for entry.

BDSM was just a gimmick to sell what has been sold to women for ages -your security and success comes in the form of a man.  And I guess if that is what women want to believe, these types of “romance” books will stay on the bestseller list.  (That is a topic far beyond My expertise and pay grade so I will not expound further.)  The book(s) weren’t meant to edify or destroy BDSM.  They were meant to entertain and make money – and that has been done quite successfully.

As much as I wish it were true, I doubt very seriously that after reading the book, many women tapped their partners and said, “wanna tie me up and spank me tonight?” or “want me to tie you up and spank you?”  (For those few that did, kudos to you.)  I just hope they are not looking at their partner and finding them lacking – longing for their prince charming.  Hopefully it’s just a bit of escapism, but I have always thought that these types of romance novels perpetuated disillusionment and set a bar for real men that is impossible to attain.  So in the end, I don’t think this book has set back BDSM.  I don’t really think it has set back anything – it’s just reinforced the status quo.

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