Mistress Ayn

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Tis the season – Keep your Mistress happy.

Mistress Ayn - DominatrixThe Holidays are upon U/us and instead of fielding questions about what I want, I have decided to make it easy by putting everything in one place.

Wine/Spirits – these are great if you are seeing Me in person:

  • Champagne is a classic favorite of Mine – preferred brands are Perrier Jouet Grand Brut and Veuve Cliquot
  • Wines – I enjoy sweet whites like Rieslings (Spalelase from Germany) or bold reds like Bordeaux from France.
  • Preferred Vodka is Kettle One – I do love a martini from time to time

Wishlists:

  • Amazon – always an easy option.  It’s updated and ready.
  • Etsy – for something a little extra special – like latex and high end toys

I have a tremendous amount to be thankful for.  My subs are among the most generous people I know.  A gift for the holidays is certainly not an obligation, but for those that want to present Me with a little something (or a big something), I want to make it as simple as possible.  Of course, the greatest gift you all give Me is the gift of your submission – and I thank you for that.

 

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Domesticating Washington, DC – December 2nd – 4th

Mistress Ayn DC travel poster

It’s that time again boys.  On December 2nd I will be taking up residence in the Nation’s Capitol and providing a little Alpha Female Leadership.  God knows that town needs it.  I’ll be dressing the sissies, beating the malcontents, humiliating the arrogant and amusing Myself thoroughly.

For those that have not sessioned with Me, here are My interests:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship (Including My Jimmy Choo pumps)
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, sounds, enema play, stretching
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play, adult baby or intimate sexual contact.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done.  I will be hosting in a 750 square foot suite in an upscale hotel in the Pentagon City area, convenient to the Blue and Yellow lines of the Metro.  When traveling I conduct sessions daily from 11am until 10pm.  I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously.  My schedule in DC always fills quickly and openings are at a premium.  If we have not sessioned together before, a reference from a well known Domme or a small deposit will be required.

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Sometimes you just have to “pay the Piper” – new review on Max Fisch

Mistress AynI love long term subs.  When you have sessioned with someone for years a relationship builds that is founded in trust and with that relationship you can take someone places they never dreamed of going.  For Me, that power exchange is what BDSM is all about.  I have been sessioning with subz for almost 4  years and he will tell you that no two sessions are ever the same and he never has any idea what to expect – unless he has been away too long – then he knows he will have to “pay the piper” – in this case his Domme – ME.  That is precisely what happened in our last session.

In subz words:

 ” . . . I’m still in one piece but She had me seriously wondering most of the time. 

Since I had been away for awhile, when I called to confirm She told me that I would have to ‘pay the piper’, which gave me plenty to think about on the drive over . . .  I knew this encounter was headed differently when early on I was strapped onto the bench and my ass was already red from Mistress Ayn gloved hand.  Already well into subspace, I failed to respond properly when questioned, which Mistress Ayn reminded me that after all this time I should know what is required, so the cane (the one most dreaded correction device) came out for some re-enforcement . . . and this was just the start of things.

. . . Just felt like I was 7-8 close when I asked for permission, because I thought things were building too fast. With a sensuous grin, Mistress replied go ahead if I thought I could in my situation, but this only caused any climax to immediately fade away . . .yet.”

Read the full review on Max Fisch.  Is it time for you to pay the piper?

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Invading Charlotte, NC November 12th & 13th

Charlotte travel nov

This will be My first visit to Charlotte in over 2 years, but I have so many subs that make the trip to Atlanta to see Me, that I thought I would return the favor.  So the Mountain is coming to Mohammed – so to speak.  I will be hosting in a Downtown area hotel and bringing a full array of toys to satisfy the corporal enthusiast, the sissies, the sluts and the medical fetishists.  The Venus 2000 will also be coming, so get ready for some extreme tease and denial.

For those not familiar with My interests, here is what’s in store:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, sounds, enema play, stretching
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play or adult baby.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done.  When traveling I conduct sessions daily from 11am until 10pm..  I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously.

Click here to complete an application.

 

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The Best Advice for Contacting a ProDomme for the First Time.

It’s not uncommon to hear a ProDomme go off on a rant about what we call “wankers” (read time wasters), but often I think it’s not so much that the prospective submissive is intentionally trying to steal a Dommes time as much as it is ignorance to the ways of Our world.  I have often thought of putting together a “how to” article for prospective subs, but the folks at ProDomme.com have done a superb job and saved Me all the work.

Below is the article in it’s entirety along with the occasional note from Me.

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Aynofficechair (2)e13 Absolute “No-No’s” when Meeting a ProDomme for the First Time!!!

You’ve thought about it for a long time, you’ve searched and now you’ve found the Domme that will “pop your cherry” and introduce you to that oh so craved world of BDSM. Well good for you! In this article we’re going to list and explain some of the biggest mistakes first timers make when approaching a professional dominatrix and hopefully we’ll save you some embarrassment and disappointment.

NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT

One of the most annoying things for a pro-domme is her client’s not knowing what they want when they call and ask a million questions like:

  • “I’m not sure what I want…
  • “Can you give me some ideas?”

Sure the world of BDSM is very vast and the opportunities are endless, but anybody and everybody should have at least a vague idea of what they are looking to achieve during a session.

  • Do you want to get spanked?
  • Do you like to worship feet?
  • Do you want to be tied up, humiliated, and punished?
  • Or maybe you have a specific fetish??

Professional dommes often have a list of the services they engage in on their personal websites. Do yourself a favor and read those very carefully before initiating any contact with a dominatrix. This way if you don’t see your “thing”, then you can just keep searching and avoid wasting everyone’s time. Remember, there is nothing wrong about not being sure of your desires, just take some time to really think and research before you pick up your phone or start writing that email.

**Mistress Ayn note:  When you do make email contact, be succinct and plan your communication.  One of My pet peeves is an endless chain of emails asking questions, adding interests. etc.  It makes it impossible to keep everything straight and it just plain irritating.  

One last thing before we wrap this part up. If you’re calling your mistress simply because you’re horny, you’re in big trouble. Dominatrices are not sex workers!!! They will not satisfy your sexual needs!!!

BE SURE YOU ARE READY

First time clients tend to have a very high flake rate. This may be caused by a list of factors such as nervousness, indecisiveness and/or fear. However none of these are really an excuse to flake on your domme! Here are some things to take under consideration before you decided to not show up for your appointment. Your domme probably took a great deal of time to prepare and pamper herself for your time together. She probably turned down other clients so she can see you. If you do not show up for your appointment, you will most likely never be able to schedule another one in the future.  Another thing to consider is that dommes often have “black list” or “flake lists” of clients that they share with other dommes. Once you get on that list, you’re done!!! Always keep in mind, if you disappoint your domme before you even meet her your chances of ever being in the company of ANY domme are slim to none. Professional dommes often don’t give second chances and they absolutely despise their time being wasted!

BE RESPECTFUL

Dominatrices are used to being treated with a great respect. Always be polite, always address your mistress by Mistress, Goddess or whatever she prefers, if you are not sure, ask, politely. NEVER EVER call a domme “baby”, “sweetie”, “hunny” or anything related to those!  This will make your domme very, very angry and unhappy with you!

Don’t ever argue or try to negotiate with her boundaries. If her website strictly says that she doesn’t do something, don’t call her and ask anyway. You are not an exception to her rules! Begging or negotiating boundaries is pathetic and will not get you anywhere!

Don’t call your mistress after her listed working hours. This is another sign of disrespect and red flag for her. If she doesn’t accept texts, don’t text her. If she doesn’t respond to blocked numbers, don’t be a smart ass and block your number. If your domme has her hours of availability listed and you’ve read them, don’t ask for an appointment outside of these hours. Respect ALL limits, rules and etiquette! If she requires 24 hour notice for booking, don’t contact her at 2pm and ask for a session at 3pm. If she requires information for her screening, provide her with it and make sure it is as accurate as possible. Not following instructions and being disrespectful is a sign of ignorance and stupidity. If she has to refer you to her website after each of your questions, you have failed!

CONTACTING YOUR DOMME NO ONE LINERS, NO FREE PHONE SEX

Once you’ve educated yourself on all of the requests and etiquette of the domme you selected to “pop your cherry” you can initiate the contact. Here are a few things you should be mindful of and never do during this process.

If you are contacting a domme via phone always begin with introducing yourself by first and last name and right after that let her know where you found her ad and what your interest is. Don’t elaborate too much. A simple “I am interested in the session you offer” is enough for her to get an idea of what you’re looking for. Never ask a domme “Is this…?”!!! You are the one who called her, so you have be the one presenting yourself and your purpose and listening very careful to her instructions and guidance. A few other no-brainers are: Don’t interrupt her, don’t ever ask for anything illegal and always address her as Mistress, Miss, Madame, Goddess etc. Another huge pet peeve dommes have is clients calling with questions like:

  • “What are you gonna do to me?”

This instantly puts you in the “bad client” list. It normally means you are looking for free phone sex, and dommes know it. You won’t get it!!! All you’ll probably end up with is a cold response, quick hang up and your dick in your hand…Oh and any chances of actually being in the presence of that domme are out the door. If you’re too nervous to meet for a session or you just want one over the phone, you will have to pay. Most dommes have the option to session over the phone and they have their prices for that service listed on their website. So be a doll and just follow the rules!

Often time’s dommes do not like to be contacted by phone. In that case look for an email or a form to fill out. One of the biggest rookie mistakes you can make when approaching a dominatrix via email is to write her one or two word emails. Things like “HI…”, “I want a session…”, or “You’re hot…” will most likely piss of your Domme and guarantee your email to be deleted without even a second look. Contacts like this say a lot about the person who writes them and every professional domme knows it. Firstly, it shows little to no respect for the process. Most of the time dominatrices have a personal website that they urge you to visit and read through before initiating a contact. If you didn’t take the time to read their website, why should she take the time to respond to you?!? Second, it shows your inability to follow instructions and obey simple rules. If you can’t do that, then you will probably not follow the directions your domme gives you during your session. Last but not least, it tells the provider you are not really serious and/or ready to dive into the world of domination. To sum this up, if you think you’re ready for your first encounter with a dominatrix, the number one rule is very simple -READ HER WEBSITE!!!

**Mistress Ayn note:  Don’t send unsolicited photos – especially of your genitals.  Do you really think they are special?

PERSONAL SLAVE = BROKE = NO DOMME

If you are so broke or cheap and you can’t afford to tribute your domme, but still decide to approach her with some question in the lines of “Can I be your personal slave?” or “How may I serve you (Without actually paying you for it)?”  Be prepared for not so pleasant response, if you even get rewarded with one… If a prodomme needs a personal slave or someone to serve her for free, chances are she already has not just one, but a few of those. The lesson to learn here is, don’t be cheap, because the services and the company of a professional dominatrix aren’t!! If you can’t afford it at the moment, wait, save and then contact…

There are better alternatives than asking a pro to do her job for free. Here are some useful tips on what you can do instead of bugging your local dommes for free stuff:

  • Become active in your local BDSM community. Explore fetish parties, events and BDSM classes
  • Have a talk with your partner and see if they are interested in exploring some BDSM activities with you.
  • Find a partner that is open to BDSM

DO NOT NEGOTIATE OR ASK FOR A DISCOUNT…DOMMES HATE LOWBALLERS

Never contact a dominatrix and give them a shopping list of things you want in your session, then offer a very low rate.  This just pisses her off and you may not even get a return email.  Imagine if you went to a restaurant and wanted to order $300 worth of food and wine then you explain to your waiter you only have $50.  Obviously, that would never work and you and I both know you would never ever try something like that, so don’t assume that will work with your prodomme.  Haggling or negotiating over her prices is a huge RED flag, most dommes will see it as a sign of major disrespect and that you are probably not someone she wants as a client.  If a domme is offering any discounts or multiple services, she will let you know. You asking for it may get you in big trouble. But then, maybe that’s exactly what you’re looking for…

Mistress Ayn boot in faceCAN I…..

Just STOP right now!  If you are about to ask a pro-domme any question related to any sexual activity, better just assume that the answer is no. Most professional dommes have very strict rules about engaging in any sort of sexual activity or nudity on their part. This is also one of the main things listed on their personal website. Asking a dominatrix for sex is probably the rudest, most disrespectful thing to do! That means you assume they are an escort, and oh man are you wrong!!! ProDommes are NOT escorts!  Just because you saw some porno online where the dominatrix had sex with her submissive, does not mean that is going to EVER happen in real life, so never ask or assume.  There are plenty of escorts who offer some sort of fetish related services and even some who specialize in combining sex with femdom, contact them if you are seeking that.

IF YOU NEED TO CANCEL…

You’ve passed the initial contact with your domme, you were lucky enough to set up your first appointment, good for you!!! Now you probably think, “I’m in! Nothing can go wrong anymore.” Not so fast! We all know that sometimes life happens, and plans get interfered with. The day of your appointment you get stuck in a meeting/traffic or you simply get nervous and petrified. That’s ok. Get ahold of your domme as soon as possible and let her know of your circumstances. Be respectful, apologize, especially if you are about to cancel.  If you had to cancel, one of the best way to make up for a cancelled session is to send a gift to your domme. Visit her website, check out her wishlist, send an email gift certificate or simply send her the gift of cash via PayPal. Any of those will put you back on the good side and will buy you mercy.

DON’T BE LATE

Don’t be late and always show up on time!  If the location of your domme is in a high traffic area, take that into account and leave early.  We do understand that accidents and other unforeseen acts of nature do happen, which is fine, however what is not fine is not to call your domme who is sitting, waiting and thinking you flaked! Most dominatrices schedule sessions back to back, if you show up late don’t expect to get your full session, and do expect to be charged for a full session price.

DON’T BE EARLY

Never show up early…ever!  Discretion is a big part of this business and to show up early is just plain rude.  Understand, that she may be in a session with another client, or maybe she is still getting ready.  If your meeting place is a dungeon then maybe the room she booked for your session is not ready yet. If for some reason you happen to be early ALWAYS contact her first, and request if she can see you earlier.  Sometimes it is not an issue, or even preferable, but always ask first.

HYGIENE

TAKE A SHOWER!!! We realize that this may sound too obvious to even mention, but we want to stress the importance of your hygiene. All dommes take very great care of themselves and always make sure they are at their best when in session with a client and they expect the same in return.

Mistress Ayn hushNEVER ASK FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION

When seeing your Domme don’t ever ask for personal information such as

  • “Are you married?”
  • “Do you have a boyfriend?”
  • “Do your parents know you do this type of work?”

Or probably the most hated question:

  • “What else do you do?”

Think about what comes out of your mouth before you speak. None of that information is any of your business, and in regards to the question “What else do you do?” – Seriously, you just paid me a huge sum of money in a very short amount of time, why would you think I have any other job, and even if I did have a regular job do you think it is any of your business!  Last thing a domme needs is having a customer show up at their place of work.

TIPPING – IS NOT JUST A CITY IN CHINA

At the end of your session, if you had an absolute great time – tell your domme. She will appreciate it.  Don’t call after your session to thank her! An email or a text message is enough.  One of the best ways to show how much you appreciated her time and/or enjoyed the session is by tipping.  You may not know this, but if your session took a place in a Dungeon, your domme is probably paying a fee to use that space, and most often than not those are pretty pricy. A tip in that case is very much appreciated. A respectful tip is $20, $50 is considered a good tip. Don’t tip less than $20!

 

Article by Shea Blackwell

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FAQ #16 – How do I get to know you better before we session?

One of the best ways to get a feel for what it is like to session with Me is to read My many reviews.  Reading reviews allows you to live a session vicariously through another subs eyes.  your interests may not always mesh perfectly, but with enough reading, you should be able to determine if we are compatible.

If you want to take things to the next level, talk to Me.  I have a NiteFlirt line set up just for casual conversation so we can discuss your kinks, experiences, limits, etc.  If you want to get a feel for what it’s like to actually be under My control, call one of My session lines and let’s do a phone session.  It’s often a challenge to randomly find Me on NiteFlirt, so feel free to email Me to set a specific date/time to talk.  If you don’t want to set up a NiteFlirt account, ask Me about arranging a direct call.

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For the love of sissies. New review by a sissy slut.

Mistress Ayn with sissyIt’s no secret that I love sissies.  They can be turned into the most delightful and greedy little sluts – eager to debase themselves just for My amusement.  Sissies, however, require a little bit of extra care to cultivate.  They are not usually into pain for pain’s sake and they need to feel a true connection with their Domme in order to serve at their best.  A teasing trail of a fingernail down their chest works better than a face slap at getting their attention and whispering all the degrading things I am going to do to them will have them begging for what they can barely fathom.  They do love to please, so with the right coaxing, they can truly be a Mistress’ s delight.

I recently had the opportunity to start the training of an un-collared sissy.  he had been without a Mistress for some time, so he was putty in My hands.  Below are some excerpts from his review of our first session as it appeared on Max Fisch:

“Mistress Ayn is magnificent, spectacular, beautiful, and in complete charge . . . 

Her touch is electrifying! i literally shook and trembled while bound to Her St. Andrew’s Cross as Her fingertips and fingernails traced over my body! Wherever She desired! i was still in my chastity device i wore there for Her. She delighted in the fact that i was oozing precum almost non-stop and had me lick up every drop from Her fingers! . . . 

She increased the intensity, watching and listening to me. She knew! i was loving every second. Then She got the anal probe! Inserted and wired it! She laughed with delight and ran Her fingers over me as i screamed how much i was loving it! i was oozing precum again and She fed it to me! . . . 

And then i saw it! She walked around in front of me, and showed me Her beautiful cock! A cock i would somehow manage to deep throat! i lustfully sucked Her cock until She was satisfied. Then She moved behind me. my legs spread and bound, fully exposed for Her. She lubed me and Her cock, pressed the tip up against me and asked me if i was ready for Her . . .” 

To read the full review, visit Max Fisch.

So is there a sissy waiting to be unleashed in you?

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Fall Travel Dates Announced

Mistress Ayn - Atlanta FemDomCharlotte, North Carolina – November 12th & 13th

For the month of November, I will be staying close to home and taking the Dungeon to Charlotte.  So many of you in the Carolinas trek down to Atlanta to see Me, so I thought I would return the favor before the holidays and come to you.  I will be hosting in a downtown hotel and bringing a car full of toys, including the Venus 2000.

 

Washington, DC – December 2nd-4th

I will be making My last stop of the year in one of My favorite cities – Washington, DC.  This time I will be hosting in a 750 square foot luxury suite, so there will be plenty of room for domestic role play and all sorts of fetish fun.

 

In both cities I will be available for sessions from 11am until 9pm.  An application is required for all new subs.  Dinner and shopping dates are also available for subs that are known to Me.  Dates are already being booked in both venues, so contact Me now to secure your place at My feet.

 

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Another great review for the Cougar and Her kitten.

Ayn and caroline 3Cougar and kitten sessions are like no other.  They are full of fantasy fulfillment and sexy fun.  Here is an excerpt from a recent review that appeared on The Erotic Review:

“As other reviews have said, Mistress Ayn is as amazing in person as the photos on her web site suggest, but beyond her physical beauty, her sensual presence is extraordinary. Caroline also has an amazing presence and a terrific body. When I had to help undress her and put cuffs on her, I was trembling from nervousness and excitement . . .”

“I was inches from Caroline and we were both trying to communicate with each other via our eyes and lips. In hindsight, my only regret from the session was that I didn’t follow-up on Caroline’s signals and kiss her – I knew from prior reviews that she was trying to bait me and we would be disciplined for kissing without Mistress’ permission, so I decided not to take the bait. As I think back lustfully on the session, the kiss probably would have been worth the punishment.”

“She had Caroline bound onto a spanking bench with me on my knees facing Caroline (basically our noses were almost touching), she then spanked Caroline and then walked around to pinch my nipples and told me to do to Caroline exactly what she was doing to me; as she pinched harder, I needed to pinch harder. This was an amazing turn on and I felt privileged to be able to fondle the amazing Caroline’s firm breasts and nipples. Mistress then decided it was time for Caroline to have her ass plugged, so she had me stand behind Caroline and showed me how to properly spank her, and then had me spread her butt cheeks while she applied lube and then inserted a small butt plug. Standing behind Caroline, seeing her immaculately shaved pussy and rosebud was incredibly arousing and one of many images of the session that are firmly implanted in my mind.”

“Mistress Ayn then strapped on a large dildo, which she had Caroline (who had now returned to kneeling right in front of me) suck on to get it moist. Watching Caroline’s lips form a perfect O as she lovingly deep-throated the long strap-on is another image I will treasure. I could have watched Caroline suck on the dildo for a lot longer, but Mistress had other plans for it . . .”

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To make your own special memories and live out your fantasies, book a Cougar and kitten session now.  Application required.

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Scent training in BDSM slave training

Mistress Ayn's pantiesRecently a sub emailed Me the following question: If you reward an erection with a strong nipple pinch, soon a nipple pinch will cause an erection for him whenever you want.  Does this work?  My answer was, “possibly depending on the sub and other factors”.  What is described here is conditioning and anchoring.  Eventually the sub should associate the two events interchangeably – so it is possible to get a Pavlovian response.

This question started Me thinking about other types of associations and training.  It is said that scent is actually the strongest sense for recall, so it is only natural that scent training can be a powerful tool in slave training.  Since each human has their own slightly unique scent, it makes for some interesting possibilities.  Because of this, I never wear perfume.  I want My natural scent to fill the slaves nostrils.

I am an up close and personal Domme.  I invade your personal space in session and I want you to be able to smell Me.  My hair, My skin, My breath – all of Me.  By enveloping you in My scent, it allows Me to get you where I want you mentally, faster in subsequent sessions.

Panty sniffing can be effective and amusing, too.  Of course, most sluts enjoy smelling their Mistress’s essence and what a marvelous tool for training.  I have sent subs home with a pair of My worn panties and instructed them to only masturbate while inhaling My scent.  It doesn’t take long for just the faintest sent of Me to cause a throbbing erection.  This of course, facilitates in the subs training.  Imagine now, that he is in chastity while sniffing those panties.  Simply put a pair of worn panties under his nose and he becomes quite pliable.

This all just underscores how much like Pavlov’s dogs men really are.

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