Mistress Ayn

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Male Chastity – the great equalizer

Most of you know that I love chastity.  Locking unruly boys away and holding on to the key is a great way to get whatever I want from a man.  After all, everyone knows you are led around by your dicks anyway, so I might as well do it the right way and make it pay.

The possibilities of chastity are almost endless.  If a sub is lazy, chastity is a great motivator.  If a sub spends too much energy mastrubating, chastity will free up more time for him to serve his Mistress. If a boi needs an attitude adjustment, there is nothing like being violated while your cock is in a cage to help you get your head on straight.  Chastity has a way of not only leveling the playing field, but it can totally turn the tables.  That is why it puts such a big smile on My face.  Look at Me in the clips below.  Don’t I look happy?

Are you a fan of chastity?  A fan of Me?  Then look for My new fan site coming soon. It will have all this great chasity content and much, much more for one low monthly tribute.  Imagine . . .  all My videos, photo sets, recordings and writings in one special place – updated weekly – just for fans like you.  In the meantime, you can get your chastity fantasy on by viewing the content below.

 


Chastity Lock Down – POV video

Get ready to be locked down.  I don’t tolerate laziness in slaves and one of the best remedies for lack of productivity is chastity.   I explain exactly what it’s going to be like when I place My bird cage chastity device on you.  The frustration.  The sleepless nights.  The teasing you will endure.  The milkings you will submit to.  How I love to hear you beg and all the extra time you are going to have to make sure you please Me.  Don’t worry, I give you one last chance to drain that cock before the device goes on, but is has to be done My way.  Are you ready?

 

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The Secretary is now the Boss

Chastity is also a great basis for fantasy role play.  This series was inspired by a Washington, D.C. sub.  In reality our fantasy role play has been going on for almost 2 years.  There have been lots of twists, turn and treachery.  Who knows how it will end.  This 3 part series lines out the basis for how it all started.  Watch Me turn the tables on My misogynist boss.  I start by drugging him, locking him away in My basement and then installing a chastity device.  He is teased and taunted into giving up all his control.  Of course I end up owning the company.

 

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Putting you in chastity.

Listen to My sultry voice tell you what life with Me is going to be like . . . once I put you in chastity.

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Demystifying the appeal of 50 Shades – Hint: It has nothing to do with BDSM

MistressAynDec2014--7eI know we are all tired of the hype, reviews and general trashing of 50 Shades of Grey. Personally I never thought I would chime in on the subject.  I didn’t see the movie and I was only able to read about half of the book before giving up on there being anything meaningful or entertaining about BDSM in the novel.  After about 200 pages there had only been one spanking scene and a tour of Grey’s dungeon – hardly what I would call a book about BDSM.

Now that the movie is out, once again My news feed is inundated with articles about it – most of which I dismiss and don’t even skim, but today one caught My attention.  It was titled:  “Forget the BDSM in 50 Shades – It’s all about the money.”  After just a cursory look at the article I could see that it had finally put into words what had been worrying around in the back of My mind, but for some reason I had been unable to articulate.  This is the quote that caught My eye:  “This fetishization of wealth, along with Grey’s whiteness and good looks, also seems to be the only thing that excuses his obsessive, stalkerish behavior throughout . . . Just ask yourself a simple question: Would a story about a poor but psychologically controlling farmer who likes tying up girlfriends and whipping them in a barn have had the impact on our nation’s consciousness that Fifty Shades has?”  Bingo!  This book isn’t about BDSM.  It’s about the fantasy of being “rescued” and living the “good life” . . . about flying in private jets and drinking $500 bottles of wine.  Submitting to a little abuse or swallowing your dignity is just the price for entry.

BDSM was just a gimmick to sell what has been sold to women for ages -your security and success comes in the form of a man.  And I guess if that is what women want to believe, these types of “romance” books will stay on the bestseller list.  (That is a topic far beyond My expertise and pay grade so I will not expound further.)  The book(s) weren’t meant to edify or destroy BDSM.  They were meant to entertain and make money – and that has been done quite successfully.

As much as I wish it were true, I doubt very seriously that after reading the book, many women tapped their partners and said, “wanna tie me up and spank me tonight?” or “want me to tie you up and spank you?”  (For those few that did, kudos to you.)  I just hope they are not looking at their partner and finding them lacking – longing for their prince charming.  Hopefully it’s just a bit of escapism, but I have always thought that these types of romance novels perpetuated disillusionment and set a bar for real men that is impossible to attain.  So in the end, I don’t think this book has set back BDSM.  I don’t really think it has set back anything – it’s just reinforced the status quo.

 

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Returning to the Nation’s Capitol – March 3rd-5th

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I know you boys have missed Me, so I won’t keep you waiting any longer.  Your “Seriously Alpha Female” is returning to continue your training starting March 3rd.  I will be in town for 3 days only, so let’s make it count.

For those that have not sessioned with Me, here are My interests:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, sounds, enema play, stretching
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play, adult baby or intimate sexual contact.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done.  Once again, I will be hosting in a 750 square foot suite in an upscale hotel in the Pentagon City area, convenient to the Blue and Yellow lines of the Metro.  The space is ideal for domestic scenes and a variety of role plays.  Last visit I was very imaginative at putting all the space to good use – including the huge shower.

When traveling I conduct sessions daily from 11am until 10pm.  I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously.  My schedule in DC always fills quickly and openings are at a premium. (It’s currently over 2/3 booked.)  If we have not sessioned together before, a reference from a well known Domme or a deposit will be required.

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A natural progression – one subs story

MistressAynDec2014--36e2 Learning your place in the D/s relationship is a journey.  Some subs take it seriously.  Others don’t.  The ones that get the most from their time with a chosen Domme are the subs that can “let go”.  After all, the power exchange is what true D/s is all about.  My gls (that’s the name I gave him and what it stands for will remain a secret between us) wrote a wonderful open letter about topping from the bottom several months ago and as he has continued to grow he wants to continue to share his epiphanies with others. Below is his follow up to “Topping from the Bottom”.  

 

i have been mulling my thoughts over since i wrote “Topping from the Bottom,” which was part of an unrequested apology to Mistress Ayn for my unwillingness to truly accept Her Power over me, and to fully accept my submission to Her.

It was obvious to me that i had a lot more to learn, and understand about my obligations to Her, as well as understand both what She means to me, and what Her responsibilities are to me as my Mistress.

No matter when, there will be a time when we as subs finally realize and understand our place in the presence of Our/our Dominatrix. Many of us i believe, never get to understand what that really means. i believe that there are a lot of reasons for that.

Some subs initially date/partner/marry bossy women because they have a need to serve, but are still lost and confused with regard to Who they are really searching for.

Some subs, seek out prosti-dommes whose inexperience and greed can leave subs more confused and  feeling worse about themselves than ever before. Thanks to the internet all subs now have the opportunity to find competent Professionals but not every Domme is suited to every sub, chemistry is still involved, and that makes the search for one’s Domme so much harder and the successful match up so much sweeter.

We have all read the research about how many escorts have regular clients who just want to talk before and after a “meeting.” There is a reason for this i imagine and it is that those clients have no one to just talk to who has no agenda to pursue, it is a business transaction.

It is not so simple for subs, we need Someone to talk to, to tell our deepest darkest secrets to, and then we want Them to accept us for who we are, and take us on a trip, that we have only ever been able to take in our fantasies. As they take us there They will reassure us on Our/our journey, telling and showing us that it is ok to go to that place, and afterwards they will bring us back safely. A Great Domme knows how to do this, and  understands the value and importance of aftercare. Aftercare is time that the sub bonds with them and leaves the session feeling safe and secure.

i fought aftercare. It was too hard to accept what had gone on in session, my fantasies realized were too powerful for me to comprehend. When a fantasy remains a fantasy anyone can push that back into the “i really didn’t mean it” part of one’s brain. Once a Domme makes your fantasy real, there is no putting that fantasy back in the bottle – you are now facing a new reality that can be scary, disturbing and for many subs simply overwhelming, because someone else now knows.

The checklist that you complete before you see a Domme makes one “address and confess” these desires and fantasies and begin the sharing with another person. This is a soul-searching leap of faith and if the sub has found the wrong Domme things can go wrong fast, because the sub has now shared the “big secret” with Someone else, Someone in a  position of power, and if the sub doesn’t have the feeling of being 100% safe, they can retreat and struggle with being a submissive.

This is important to understand  because there is an enormous difference between “being submissive,” and “being a submissive.”

What happens next?  Well in my case i have just given up trying to understand what happens next because the Domme/sub relationship has now moved to a higher level.

We all know the Hollywood stars who fly to see their psychiatrist, well the same thing happens when you have let go and given yourself to your special Mistress. There is only one true Mistress for you and this S/d relationship has changed because now when You/you both session, you are letting yourself be used to feed Your Mistress’s desire. I have now glimpsed this, had it whispered in my ear and understand the only thing i need to know is that i am now a player in a far greater scene, a scene that gives Her pleasure and meets Her needs. my pleasure will come from servitude, obedience and feeding Her needs and desires.

This brings us back to the checklist that you, the sub, filled out so many sessions ago. Now that you have truly passed yourself over to your Mistress , you have given Her Carte Blanche to fulfill Her needs. This doesn’t mean that if you stated no marks, that you will now return home striped like a Zebra, but if you were a greedy slut and checked off every box a fantasy review may be in order.

If you checked of you had a fantasy for ‘forced bi’ and every time your Mistress had ridden you or taken your mouth,  She had whispered in your ear, “Would you suck a real one for me, or I want to take you to a gay club and make you service some boys, would you do that for me?” think carefully about the answer you checked off long ago.

If something feeds Your Dominatrix’s hunger, and you truly want to go there,  you need to understand the ramifications of crossing over that bridge with Her. you are stepping into what i view as the highest level of a truly submissive relationship where the Domme uses you exclusively for Her pleasure.

It has taken me a long time  and nearly spoiled a wonderful relationship with my Mistress while i fumbled and bumbled along , but now i have emotionally crossed that bridge with Her guidance, and trust that Her affection will lead me safely on the other side.

i hope that you all can find your bridge, cross it safely with your Mistress, and enjoy the other side.

Mistress Ayn’s gls.

 

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Charlotte, NC – Get ready to submit. Visiting Feb 3rd – 5th.

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Once again it’s time for Charlotte to kneel before a higher power or prepare to go under My boot.  On February 3rd I will be returning to enjoy the spoils of war and bask in your servitude.  I am looking forward to seeing many of the subs I conquered on My last visit as well as training some new initiates.  A full array of toys and implements will be available including the Eros Tek and the Venus 2000.

For those that have not sessioned with Me, here are My interests:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship (Including My Jimmy Choo pumps)
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, sounds, enema play, stretching
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play, adult baby or intimate sexual contact.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done.  When traveling I conduct sessions daily from 11am until 10pm.  I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously.  Last visit My schedule filled completely so book now to ensure an audience at My feet.  If we have not sessioned together before, a reference from a well known Domme or a small deposit will be required.

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Non-Stop Strap on Fun

 

 

It’s no secret that the Ladies of Atlanta Dungeon and I thoroughly enjoy using the inferior male for Our pleasure.  But were you aware just how much we enjoy it?  Using their little sissy holes to satisfy Our strapons is one way we like to use men – and boy, do we have fun with the role reversal.  Gang bangs, spit roasts, chastity fucks, you name it, We’ve filmed it.  So you can get a taste of the action, I have put together a compilation of  some of the best strapon scenes from Our 2014 clips.  This is almost 20 minutes of non-stop strap on entertainment – hence the name “Non-Stop Strap on Fun”.  Below is a preview.  The full clip can be purchased at My clips store.  Hope you enjoy it as much as We did.

 

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FAQ #17 – How is humiliation used in a BDSM or D/s session?

Mistress Ayn and Switch GiannaFirst of all, there is a big difference in erotic humiliation and ordinary humiliation. In BDSM we use erotic humiliation to press a subs buttons and the end effect is to make them feel naughty and aroused. Calling someone, fat, stupid, old, etc, is usually not part of erotic humiliation and won’t elicit the desired effect.

Each person is unique and I recommend that humiliation be used gingerly with a new play partner. One person’s turn on is another’s turn off and humiliation scenes, like all other scenes should be well negotiated. Some men are very turned on when a Female Dominant pronounces their penis too small for proper sex with a woman – and their little peckers get rock hard at the idea of being evaluated and judged in this way. For others, it’s a buzz kill, so it’s important to know what turns your sub on and what areas are off limits.

Examples of humiliation used in Domme/sub sessions are:

  • Verbal humiliation – name calling, beratement, racial slurs, mockery, etc.
  • Forced feminization – as simple as being made to wear panties to full female transformations
  • Animal play – forced to wear a leash, drink from a dog bowl, etc.
  • Public display – embarrassing public acts or displays
  • Cum eating
  • Ass worship / foot worship – some see this as a reward, others feel degraded by it
  • Cuckolding – combination of verbal insults about manhood and degrading acts
  • Objectification – treated as unimportant – being used as a foot stool, as an example
  • Forced masturbation/orgasm
  • Enemas
  • Spanking – yes, for some getting a simple spanking is humiliating

As you can see from this non-exhaustive list, erotic humiliation is a very diverse and personalized form of play. Humiliation can push buttons psychologically that send a sub deeper into sub space or send them reeling in raw emotion, so know your sub well, make sure safe words are in place and pay very close attention to your subs reactions to everything you hurl at them.

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A DC foot slut learns his proper place – session review on The Hang

Foot worship 7 logoWashington, DC has become one of My favorite venues.  There is a reason:  the subs are well behaved (obviously well trained by DC Mistresses) and in general they are a whole lot of fun.  As a Mistress that thoroughly enjoys what I do, I don’t compromise on the fun and I don’t take sessions I don’t think I will enjoy.  That’s generally a win, win situation – but in this case, it almost caused a session not to happen.  Thankfully this little foot slut didn’t succum to the “brush off” and appealed to My sense of adventure – he even had Julie Simone singing his praises – so I agreed to meet.  What resulted was a delightful session from beginning to end.  Moral of the story: persistence (and a whole lot of flattery) often pays.

Excerpt from the session review on Max Fisch’s The Hang:

“Mistress Ayn communicates very clearly, and She creates quite a precious moment based on what you share with Her. Time with Her is not simulated, and Mistress Ayn is in total control the moment you encounter Her presence, yet you will feel quite comfortable as if it is entirely natural to serve Her. i was completely entranced by Her beauty, the exquisite care of Her apparel demonstrating Her art of seduction and authority, and the words that She used during o/Our entire session and all i wanted to do was worship and please Mistress Ayn.

This being o/Our first encounter, Mistress Ayn took Her time to properly inspect the new piece of slave flesh presented before Her. Mistress had me strip, so that i was at my most vulnerable and feeble state, and kneel in the center of the room. She made sure to circle around like a Lioness toying with Her prey and inspected just about every inch of me; commenting on what qualities had potential and what displeased Her. Mistress made it quite clear, that it was a privilege to be before Her . . .

Mistress cultured me on the proper way to serve, holding Her feet accordingly so that the natural effects of gravity would never make her uncomfortable. Then She instructed me to not just kiss and suck, but to appreciate the lovely privilege She was allowing. To slowly admire, sniff, inhale and truly adore the embrace of Her divine feet. Mistress Ayn recognized that i could kiss and worship Her feet for hours, and She surprisingly found use for my insignificant slave mouth and was kind enough to remind me that perhaps i wasn’t completely useless to Her.”

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Au revoir 2014

 

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As the year draws to an end, it makes Me reflective and I think of all the things in life for which I am thankful.   My subs are a big part of My life and give Me so much – both  emotionally and materially.   For every special occasion you faithfully fill My inbox with well wishes and My mailbox with goodies.   Because of My subs I have one of the best toy collections in the industry – and it continues to grow.  My closet overflows with boots, shoes, corsets, stockings and all things sexy and fetish.  I never forget how fortunate I am to have such generous subs.  Nor do I forget that the best gift you give Me is your trust and submission.

This year, like every year was full of gains and and some losses.  I broke the 2000 follower mark on Twitter (that seemed to take forever), launched My clips store, gained some wonderful new clients, had a custom spanking bench made for Me, was given the amazing Venus 2000 (which has really been a gift to everyone!) and received an impressive number of reviews – which helps Me maintain My reputation as the “Most Highly Reviewed Mistress in the Region”.    However, it was not without losses.  My favorite whip maker (Joe Strain) retired.  Thankfully I have an absolute “work of art” custom made snake whip to remember him by.  One of My best subs just found out he is moving away – ending a 2 year journey together.  News of this kind always makes Me sad, but life is like breathing.  You have to let air out in order to take more in.

Looking to 2015, I am excited.  On the travel front, I am looking to expand into at least one new city, so if you are reading this and want Me to pay your city a visit, let Me know.  I also have plans to launch a new content/membership site that I am hoping will be the embryo for something that the industry needs.  Look for more on that in the upcoming months.

So in bidding 2014 goodbye, I want to thank you all and wish you the very best for 2015.  Ring in the New Year safely and remember to keep it kinky!

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A FemDom Chloroform Fantasy

Mistress AynI am on the hunt.  I detest men that prey on Women and I love to turn the tables, so Sweet Miss Caroline and I decide to run a sting – just for fun.  We place an ad in the personals that goes something like this:

“Attractive young woman seeking gentle man for friendship and possibly more.  Recovering from a recent break up and really need a big, strong shoulder for support.  I am a sweet girl and am open to developing a relationship, but am just looking for friendship to start.”

And so it begins . . . the replies start to flood in and we have tons of victims to choose from.  Men can be such pigs.  Sensing weakness, they circle like vultures – requesting to meet Caroline to “comfort” her.  A few of them even include pics of their dicks, in case she Is “interested”.  Really?

We sort through the replies and select one perfect victim and I started to communicate with him  – as Caroline.  He was slick, but not slick enough.  I could see through his saccharine lies and knew he was doing his own kind of hunting.  Caroline was his prey . . .

The trap is now set.  He is invited over to meet Caroline for the first time and share a glass of wine.  A simple meeting to get acquainted.  I watch through the two way glass that separates the lounge area from the medical room in the Dungeon.  As expected, he has that predatory look in his eye and is a little too touchy feely for My taste.  Well all of that is about to end.  Little does he know that the wine he is about to drink has been spiked.

I watch as he is getting particularly obnoxious with Caroline.  It’s all I can do not to rush in to protect My kitten, but I know My plan will work perfectly if I am just patient.  Sure enough, his words begin to slur and that is Caroline’s cue to tell him she wants to go somewhere more comfortable.  Of course he agrees, thinking she is taking him to bed.  She pushes open the medical room door and his eyes flair for just a moment as he takes in the medical table.  Then he sees Me behind the door, but doesn’t have time to panic before the chloroform rag covers his nostrils  . . .

I would love to hear your thoughts.  How does this story end?  Have you ever had fantasies of being taken advantage of in this way?  Let Me know at ayn@mistressayn.com

 

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