Monthly Archives: January 2016

Levels of Submission – Where are you?

A Mistress on Twitter tweeted a link to this article. The link is below, but it has some popups and weird messages, so I have copied the article below the link.

Here is the link if you care to go to it:



The Nine Degrees of Submission are important to understand. Like any other relationship, there are boundaries. Think of the straight people you know. Sometimes the man rules the roost. Other times it’s the woman. But most always, one has a little more power than the other. It varies from couple to couple. So why is it that most gay and lesbian men and women expect our relationships to be completely 50/50? No other group is. Naturally, all humans have it programmed in their heads to be either Dominate or submissive on some level or another. Obviously, if you’re reading this, you don’t fall into the vanilla category, but you may not fall into the most extreme one either. I urge to read and understand each level and find where you fit in. Also remember, just because today you fit into say level 3, after proper training you may find you are level 7.

1. THE KINKY SENSUALIST – The kinky sensualist is not a trained sub. There is no servitude, humiliation or giving up control. This level is just “spiced up sensuality”. This is the first step beyond vanilla.

2. PSEUDO SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE – The Pseudo Submissive Non-Slave is not even into “playing” slave but into other submissive role-playing such as school teacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation inter-action to a large degree.

3. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE – The Pseudo-Submissive Play Slave likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; might, in some cases, like to feel one is being “used” to gratify partner. May even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the interaction to a large degree.

4. TRUE SUBMISSIVE – NON SLAVE – The True Submissive, Non-Slave really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission, other than serving or being used by the dominant.
Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly his/her own direct pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing dominant).

5. SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE – The Submissive Play Slave really gives up control (though only temporarily, within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving dominant – but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May or may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys partner’s pleasure, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.

6. UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE – This slave really gives up control (usually within limits). Wants to serve and be enslaved by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of agreed
upon several days). May or may not have long term relationship. Either way, the “slave” has the final say over when he will serve.

7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL, BUT REAL SLAVE – This slave has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant’s property at all times. Wants to obey and please dominant in all aspects of life, practical/non-erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job, kids) but dominant has first pick of the slave’s free time. This is a live-in arrangement.

8. FULL TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE – Within no more that an few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards himself as existing solely for the Dom’s pleasure/well being. Slave expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual. Within the S/M world, a full time slave “arrangement” is entered into with explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements.

9. CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS – This is a common fantasy ideal. Probably doesn’t exist in real life (accept in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the consent is induced by social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few SM purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom, with no limits. This is the most difficult level to achieve, however; it is the most common fantasy. One would be required to cut off contact with his previous live including friends and family.

I would say that most subs I see professionally fall between 1 and 5. 5 is sort of the “sweet spot” for Me. 1s can end up being “kingsters” as I heard MIB refer to them and beyond 6 can be clingy and needy. That’s one Woman’s opinion. What is yours?  Join this discussion on The Buzz.

CBT (cock and ball torture) – make it hurt so good

I just had a NiteFlirt session where I had a sub torment his own cock and balls.  He got hard while we were chatting and he asked if I would let him go to the bathroom and cum.  (He was at the office at the time – so much for work productivity.)  I agreed, but only if he would punish his cock and balls a bit first.  I had him take a rubber band from his desk and then sent  him into a bathroom stall where he was instructed to bind his balls with the rubber band and then scratch and slap them a bit.  He was made to continue playing with himself until he issued a little pre-cum, and then he was instructed to eat it.  By this time, he is throbbing and begging to cum.  “No”, I say.  “Slap that cock hard and get it under control.”  I could hear the slaps and groans through the phone.  The begging and the slapping went on for a while and I finally had mercy and allowed him to cum – but he had to slap his balls at the same time.  The resulting groan was almost deafening

It was fun.  We both had a good time.  But nothing compares to My having My slender fingers around those tender dangly bits.  I like tying the balls off and wrapping the cord over and over until the balls are stretched away from the body.   They are so much more vulnerable that way.  Then I like to scratch, rub, thump, slap . . .  anything that takes your breath away.  That’s the warm up, now it’s time to really get down to business.  Clamps, weights, electrical, sounds – the list of indignities I can make your pathetic cock and balls submit to are almost endless.


To see how brutal I can be on just the right type of cock, see this clip – Extreme CBT – Destroy his cock and balls.


So, if you think you are up to it, schedule a CBT session with Me – live or on NiteFlirt.  I can be gentle, but I probably won’t be.

Upcoming Tour Dates

Mistress AynCharlotte, NC – January 18th – 20th

Washington, DC – February 1st – 3rd

When traveling I conduct sessions daily from 11am until 10pm.  I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously.  My schedule in both cities always fills quickly and openings are at a premium.  If we have not sessioned together before, a reference from a well known Domme or a deposit will be required.

For those that have not sessioned with Me, here are My interests:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, sounds, enema play, stretching
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play, adult baby or intimate sexual contact.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done.  In Charlotte I will be hosting in Uptown in an upscale hotel.  In DC I will be in a 700 square foot suite in the Crystal City area, convenient to the Metro.  I always bring a vast assortment of BDSM equipment for CBT, corporal, medical play, bondage, etc – along with the Eros Tek and Venus 2000.

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Training a sissy slut – A new review on The Buzz.

Mistress Ayn and LynnSissies require all sorts of training.  They need to be taught how to apply makeup, how to dress like a sissy, how to walk with some grace and they need their little sissy holes trained too.  Chastity is also a good training option for your sissy, because we all know how much sissies like to play with their little clitties.

In a recent session, a sissy slut that had been away for a while was subjected to various forms of training – including reminding her that her balls were completely worthless pieces of equipment and that her little slut hole needed to be prepared for proper use.

“The idea was to stretch my sissy pussy. Mistress told me to hold it in while she stepped away for a moment, but I let it slide out. When She saw what had happened, she spit in my face and slapped me, a moment of degradation that got me in the proper frame of mind for the rest of our session. Minutes later, Mistress replaced the dilator with one that delivered an electric pulse to my sensitive opening, and that really got my attention.she placed suction cups on my nipples to increase the blood flow and sensitivity. Then She removed her gorgeous black leather shoe and placed it over my nose and mouth, her delicious scent, and Her powerful pheromones, flooding my brain as the electricity continued to shock my sissy pussy . . . 

Mistress then had me sit up while She spoke with me about my future. She noticed my tiny, flaccid cock and told me that the long-term chastity she required of me would make my thing atrophy and shrink, so it would be nothing more than a clit. We discussed female hormones, which within weeks would ensure I would never have an erection again . . .”

To read the subs full accounting, visit The Buzz.


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