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Ruined Orgasms

I’ve been a bit fascinated with ruined orgasms lately. Probably because I have been seeing two long term chastity slaves. Neither of them are able to be successfully milked, so I suggested to their key holders that ruined orgasms might be a viable option.

On a recent visit one of the subs confided in Me that as much as he enjoys getting his release when his wife eventually allows it, he then struggles with a diminishment of his sissy submissiveness – which he loves and strives for daily. I know that she occasionally gives him a ruined orgasm, so I asked him if he felt the same way when the orgasm was ruined. His initial response was that he did NOT feel a diminishment in submission – or at least not as much of one, but wants to monitor this and report back to Me. Of course, I have asked his wife to only allow ruined orgasms for a while, so I can get read on this.

Recently I read something about female ruined orgasms (yes, we can have them) and it was stated that we don’t get the same rush of dopamine with a ruined orgasm, so we don’t feel as satisfied and will often seek to immediately have another. I am guessing it is the same for the male physiology. I have noticed in longer sessions that after a ruined orgasm, the sub can usually recover and orgasm again relatively quickly.

Primary ways to ruin an orgasm:

  • Remove all stimulation as soon as the first signs of ejaculation start
  • Stop the flow – by squeezing the base or plugging the hole (this is usually a bit painful)
  • Create discomfort that short circuits the orgasm – a sharp slap to the balls or an increase in electrical current are good examples

The last two options are personal favorites of Mine.  I particularly like adding electro when using the Venus 2000 (the ultimate tease machine).  When the sub gets close, I alternate between turning the machine off and turning up the electro.  One way or the other, eventually that orgasms is going to get ruined.  Post orgasm CBT is also a favorite of Mine, but that is fodder for another article.

I even had some fun in clips lately with ruining orgasms.

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This clip is available on Clips4Sale and AynRules.com.

I started a discussion about ruined orgasms on Domina.ms’s forum, The Buzz.  If you wish to view or participate in this discussion, visit The Buzz.  I would love to hear your thoughts and even answer your questions.

 

A couple celebrates with a Triple Dominatrix session

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Couples’ sessions are among My favorites.  About 3 years ago I saw this couple for the first time.  The Female (we will call her “A”) was just beginning to cut her Domme teeth on her husband.  She had attitude in spades, she just needed to flesh out her talent.  Well, in the passing years, she has done exactly that.  Every time I see them, she gets better and better at dominating her slave husband.  She uses chastity, corporal punishment, electrical and good old mind fuckery to keep him in line.

Recently she contacted Me wanting to set up a special session to celebrate her husband’s birthday.  She wanted a Triple Domination Session – with Me, another Mistress (we chose Goddess Samantha) and herself.  Boy, was he in for it.  We discussed the details ahead of time – including that she would let her husband have an orgasm, but it was important that it be ruined.  I was very excited about this session – and now you can read all about it in her review on TER.

This review can be read in its entirety on The Erotic Review.  Log in required.

“My slave husband and I had been active in the BDSM lifestyle for a while now.  This is about the 3rd time we have had sessions with Mistress Ayn and the first time with Goddess Samantha.  I felt it would be a great birthday present for my slave to serve other mistresses besides me, and to also allow himself to be tortured and punished by other mistresses so we can all have a great time together.  Prior to our visit with these two wonderful mistresses,  my slave was locked up and hadn’t had an orgasm for a week.  In fact, he hadn’t had a real orgasm in over two months – each release had been ruined.  So psychologically, he has been mindfucked for a while now.

My slave was very excited to be controlled by 3 mistresses.  By the end of the session, I can safely say he enjoyed himself but not without consequences of a severely marked ass that would leave him bruised for 2 weeks.   Both Mistress Ayn and Samantha Goddess were delightful to work with – don’t let their Southern charm fool you!

We started the session on the St. Andrew’s cross by taking turns torturing his balls and his cock.  His balls were so sensitive after having not cum for a week that it hurt like hell.  Next activity was by far my favorite – off to the spanking bench he went.  Oh, there wasn’t only spanking involved.  Cock sucking and ass-fucking by all three of us were on the menu.  He learned to deep throat all of our big cocks and while deep-throating our cocks, one of us was always at the other end, fucking him in the ass.  He was getting it at both ends and it was a time to be had for all the mistresses.   Mistress Ayn punished him with many strokes of the cane, with the swift flick of her wrists, breaking skin on his smooth white ass.  On the other hand, Goddess Samantha, an avid workout gal, laid it on him with hard swings of the Delrin cane, dealing bruises that would stay for a while. Me? I took a few swings myself but just looked on and enjoyed the sight silently. and allowed the other mistresses to take swags at his ass.

We moved on to the finale of the session – electro torture.  We hooked his cock and balls and ass up with electro stimulation just for kicks and jolted his sensitive areas to create a heightened sense of satisfaction.   After we’ve had enough torture, we all agreed that he had been a good and obedient slave and we had played enough for the day.  Mistress Ayn teased his poor little cock with a Hitachi vib and right before he climaxed, his head was squeezed so hard at the height of his orgasm, that it was absolutely ruined. Cum spurted out violently, however the sensation was nothing but a dull letdown.  I had promised him he would be allowed to cum but I did not tell him how he could cum. So there he was, mindfucked again.

I encourage married couples to explore the possibility of BDSM in their relationship.  It brings creativity, excitement, mystery and sensuality to a marriage.  It never hurts to ask your spouse if they are open to the idea.   I was very reluctant initially in my marriage to try this crazy idea that my slave suggested to me.  It wasn’t until the last 10 years of our marriage that I was willing to give it a shot.  With each passing year, I get more in control, and my slave, more subservient.  Our marriage has never been better.  We are happily married for soon-to-be 17 years.”

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