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Chastity and the ruined orgasm

These are two of My favorite things.  Combine them and it’s just over the top fun – at least for Me.

Recently I accepted a new distance chastity slave.  The slave is not new to Me (or you if you follow FemDom Mansion) he is just new to chastity.  We only get to see each other a couple of times a year (usually when he submits at FemDom Mansion for a weekend retreat) and we both wanted to have him under My control beyond those visits and becoming his keyholder was the obvious choice.

After a month or so of being under My control, I thought it was time for a real test.  I wanted to see if he would comply and ruin his own orgasm just because I ordered him to.  Well, slave boy (the slave formerly known as jaime) did as ordered and here is his report:

“Finally, i thought, i can “finish” this edging session.  No more shove the erect cock back into the cage without cumming.  But, i have always had problems with ruining an orgasm since, well, i want to cum – hard.  This time, it was not my idea to pleasure myself but Your command to bring You pleasure.  After barely 15 minutes of edging i knew i was close.  i knew that a few more strokes would provide me with a powerful orgasm – lots of built up cum shooting out.  But that was not Your command.” 
 
i stroked until i knew i would cum with or without more stroking, so i stopped.  Thus, the orgasm was ruined as i held Your cock in my hand, and watched the massive amount of cum just dribble out – not shoot out in a way that was satisfying.  It kept dribbling, catching all of it in my hand.  i squeezed Your cock so the last drops were emptied into my hand.  Then, i knew i had to recycle.  What a mouthful, but i let it rest in my mouth for a few seconds, just to let the taste hit all my taste buds, and then i swallowed.”
 
“What did i just do?  That is not how i used to cum pre-MASB (Mistress Ayn’s slave boy).  It was clear that i followed Your directions, not acting to please me. No, it was not satisfying for me, since i still felt like i had not had an orgasm.  Your cock was still hard and i was still very frustrated.  And returning Your cock to the chastity cage was just as painful and disappointing as it was after an edging session.”
 
“But, i was thrilled.  Not only did i comply with Your command but i was actually able to completely ruin the orgasm.  That is when it hit me deeper than ever before – i am truly submissive to Your whims and commands, not my desires.  i remain without a satisfying orgasm, but knew i was satisfying You, which is all that matters now in my new slave life.”
 
i sat for a few minutes in my chair, exhausted from the physical exertion, but not like i used to after cumming.  This time i reflected on what just happened, without You physically being there to watch if i was obedient or not.  i was stunned – and pleased – that i am totally obedient, even with You 700 miles away.  Knowing it means more to please You by following Your commands, even without supervision, than pleasuring myself.”

 

That final paragraph really says it all.

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“Simultaneously the worst and best experience I have had.” – New Review on Max Fisch

… and sometimes that is the way it is.  This sub and his Mistress/Wife have been seeing Me for several years.  This time She couldn’t make it, but wanted to do something special for his birthday – so She sent him to see Me and one of My Domme Sisters, Mistress Harley Quinn.  She has sent him to Me before for punishments (including a now infamous cock caning) but for this visit She had something different in mind.  The sub is kept in chastity a great deal of the time and She had been saving and freezing his cum from ruined orgasms.  When he arrived he has about a half cup of frozen cum.  Of course, the cup was empty when the session was complete.

Here is his review of the session.  It can also be viewed on Max Fisch.

“I was told to strip and of course got as hard as my chastity cage allowed. I had been denied for a long time by my Wife. Spoiler alert, the cage never came off during the entire session.

They started with me on a spiky stool where my caged balls and cock got to rest on massive spikes. As Ayn lectured me -Harley began torturing my nipples. This would be a theme throughout the session.

Ayn told me I could use a safe word for pain, but that I would be eating cum whether I wanted to or not. Then the ring gag was put in place to prevent any potential refusals to accept what was coming next.

Mistress Harley proceeded to feed me my own frozen cum – a little at a time – with a caviar spoon. I had no choice but to accept it, knowing also I needed to please my Wife and reward her hard work – my face revealing the entire time how much I hated it. The Mistresses were already enjoying and laughing at my predicament… they were just getting started.

They took me to the medical room where they placed me in stirrups and proceeded to tie my legs apart and secure me to the table with multiple leather straps. Harley continued to periodically make me eat my own cum, which got progressively harder with the gag. So the Mistresses struck a deal with me, they would remove it but the first time I didn’t open to accept my cum I would be punished.

Then the words “where is the power strip” were uttered. At that point I knew I was in big trouble. In short – with a minimum of lube – an electric probe was placed in my ass. My caged cock was straining as the current was turned up, while my asshole involuntarily contracted and relaxed as the probe forced its way in and out, electrifying my ass and prostate. As Ayn pulled out the Hitachi vibrator, I knew my cage wasn’t coming off today. About this time Harley fed me more of my cum and then continued to torture my nipples.

As Ayn vibrated the cage she also adjusted the electricity. I was in overload, I knew I wouldn’t hold out, but I didn’t know if they would send me home like this, tortured and denied or if I would have an accident (as they call it). Ayn repeatedly added and removed vibration to my cage – probing how she could best disappoint my needy caged cock – when the inevitable accident occurred. When almost 2 weeks of denial came spilling out, it was also caught and collected in the cup. There would be no more small spoons, I was told to guzzle it – and guzzle it I did as Harley served me. Gagging be damned, she made sure I drank every last bit of my spew while Ayn laughed and took photos and videos for my Mistress.

You’d think I had been humiliated enough, but I was then put over the spanking bench and secured in place. After all, it was my birthday, and I was due 40-something strokes of the cane – post-orgasm – which they reminded me was the worst way to receive the cane. I think they knew I had been through a lot. Maybe they took it a little easier on me, but they still made me count and alternated turns with the cane, circling me like sharks on the hunt. Ayn made sure Harley knew my Wife prefers a marked slave husband. And they didn’t disappoint her. The contrast between Harley’s caning and Ayn’s was interesting – Mistress Harley’s stroke was more whippy – like trying to slice me up – while Mistress Ayn seemed to deliver a much firmer stroke – she was obviously trying to tenderize me after the kill.

As we talked after the session, I told them this was simultaneously the worst and best experience I have had. I’m happy to have a supportive Wife who encourages her friends to push me further into submission as her slave husband. I look forward to the next time where my Mistress may once again join them.”

Ruined Orgasms

I’ve been a bit fascinated with ruined orgasms lately. Probably because I have been seeing two long term chastity slaves. Neither of them are able to be successfully milked, so I suggested to their key holders that ruined orgasms might be a viable option.

On a recent visit one of the subs confided in Me that as much as he enjoys getting his release when his wife eventually allows it, he then struggles with a diminishment of his sissy submissiveness – which he loves and strives for daily. I know that she occasionally gives him a ruined orgasm, so I asked him if he felt the same way when the orgasm was ruined. His initial response was that he did NOT feel a diminishment in submission – or at least not as much of one, but wants to monitor this and report back to Me. Of course, I have asked his wife to only allow ruined orgasms for a while, so I can get read on this.

Recently I read something about female ruined orgasms (yes, we can have them) and it was stated that we don’t get the same rush of dopamine with a ruined orgasm, so we don’t feel as satisfied and will often seek to immediately have another. I am guessing it is the same for the male physiology. I have noticed in longer sessions that after a ruined orgasm, the sub can usually recover and orgasm again relatively quickly.

Primary ways to ruin an orgasm:

  • Remove all stimulation as soon as the first signs of ejaculation start
  • Stop the flow – by squeezing the base or plugging the hole (this is usually a bit painful)
  • Create discomfort that short circuits the orgasm – a sharp slap to the balls or an increase in electrical current are good examples

The last two options are personal favorites of Mine.  I particularly like adding electro when using the Venus 2000 (the ultimate tease machine).  When the sub gets close, I alternate between turning the machine off and turning up the electro.  One way or the other, eventually that orgasms is going to get ruined.  Post orgasm CBT is also a favorite of Mine, but that is fodder for another article.

I even had some fun in clips lately with ruining orgasms.

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This clip is available on Clips4Sale and AynRules.com.

I started a discussion about ruined orgasms on Domina.ms’s forum, The Buzz.  If you wish to view or participate in this discussion, visit The Buzz.  I would love to hear your thoughts and even answer your questions.

 

A couple celebrates with a Triple Dominatrix session

Cruel Hosts

Couples’ sessions are among My favorites.  About 3 years ago I saw this couple for the first time.  The Female (we will call her “A”) was just beginning to cut her Domme teeth on her husband.  She had attitude in spades, she just needed to flesh out her talent.  Well, in the passing years, she has done exactly that.  Every time I see them, she gets better and better at dominating her slave husband.  She uses chastity, corporal punishment, electrical and good old mind fuckery to keep him in line.

Recently she contacted Me wanting to set up a special session to celebrate her husband’s birthday.  She wanted a Triple Domination Session – with Me, another Mistress (we chose Goddess Samantha) and herself.  Boy, was he in for it.  We discussed the details ahead of time – including that she would let her husband have an orgasm, but it was important that it be ruined.  I was very excited about this session – and now you can read all about it in her review on TER.

This review can be read in its entirety on The Erotic Review.  Log in required.

“My slave husband and I had been active in the BDSM lifestyle for a while now.  This is about the 3rd time we have had sessions with Mistress Ayn and the first time with Goddess Samantha.  I felt it would be a great birthday present for my slave to serve other mistresses besides me, and to also allow himself to be tortured and punished by other mistresses so we can all have a great time together.  Prior to our visit with these two wonderful mistresses,  my slave was locked up and hadn’t had an orgasm for a week.  In fact, he hadn’t had a real orgasm in over two months – each release had been ruined.  So psychologically, he has been mindfucked for a while now.

My slave was very excited to be controlled by 3 mistresses.  By the end of the session, I can safely say he enjoyed himself but not without consequences of a severely marked ass that would leave him bruised for 2 weeks.   Both Mistress Ayn and Samantha Goddess were delightful to work with – don’t let their Southern charm fool you!

We started the session on the St. Andrew’s cross by taking turns torturing his balls and his cock.  His balls were so sensitive after having not cum for a week that it hurt like hell.  Next activity was by far my favorite – off to the spanking bench he went.  Oh, there wasn’t only spanking involved.  Cock sucking and ass-fucking by all three of us were on the menu.  He learned to deep throat all of our big cocks and while deep-throating our cocks, one of us was always at the other end, fucking him in the ass.  He was getting it at both ends and it was a time to be had for all the mistresses.   Mistress Ayn punished him with many strokes of the cane, with the swift flick of her wrists, breaking skin on his smooth white ass.  On the other hand, Goddess Samantha, an avid workout gal, laid it on him with hard swings of the Delrin cane, dealing bruises that would stay for a while. Me? I took a few swings myself but just looked on and enjoyed the sight silently. and allowed the other mistresses to take swags at his ass.

We moved on to the finale of the session – electro torture.  We hooked his cock and balls and ass up with electro stimulation just for kicks and jolted his sensitive areas to create a heightened sense of satisfaction.   After we’ve had enough torture, we all agreed that he had been a good and obedient slave and we had played enough for the day.  Mistress Ayn teased his poor little cock with a Hitachi vib and right before he climaxed, his head was squeezed so hard at the height of his orgasm, that it was absolutely ruined. Cum spurted out violently, however the sensation was nothing but a dull letdown.  I had promised him he would be allowed to cum but I did not tell him how he could cum. So there he was, mindfucked again.

I encourage married couples to explore the possibility of BDSM in their relationship.  It brings creativity, excitement, mystery and sensuality to a marriage.  It never hurts to ask your spouse if they are open to the idea.   I was very reluctant initially in my marriage to try this crazy idea that my slave suggested to me.  It wasn’t until the last 10 years of our marriage that I was willing to give it a shot.  With each passing year, I get more in control, and my slave, more subservient.  Our marriage has never been better.  We are happily married for soon-to-be 17 years.”

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