Monthly Archives: April 2018

FAQ #28 – How do I prepare for a BDSM FemDom session?

Subs often ask Me if there is anything in particular they should do to prepare for a session.  Usually their mind is wrapped around their genitals and thoughts of edging, looking at photos, etc. are in the forefront, but there is a practical side to preparing for sessions too.  Subs get excited and sometimes forget the common sense practicalities of preparation.  Below are some pointers for making sure your session goes well.

  • Hydrate well prior to your session.  When things go wrong physically in a session (lightheadedness, nausea, tiredness, etc.) it is usually from dehydration.  This is the number one cause of fainting in session.  If you are having a particularly heavy session or a session that lasts 90 minutes or more, take a bottle of water or a sports drink with you in session and don’t be shy to ask for a swallow.
  • Eat normally.  I know pre-session jitters can lead to an adrenaline rush that can cause you to lose your appetite prior to a session but failing to eat can cause the same nasty issues listed above.  Even if you aren’t hungry try to at least eat a light meal prior to your session.  Low blood sugar due to a lack of food can really be a buzz kill in session.
  • Practice proper hygiene.  This should go without saying but be sure you arrive clean and fresh.  If you are coming from work or a flight and feel sweaty, ask to take a quick shower.  If you are odiferous your Domme won’t want to get too close.  If you will be engaging in anal play, give yourself an enema approximately 2 hours prior if at all possible.  I know this will be TMI for some, but all subs should clean in that area by inserting a soapy finger in the shower until it comes back clean.  There is nothing worse than spanking a sub and when you turn him over your knee he smells like ass.  Take this advice.  Your Mistress will appreciate it.
  • No cologne, please.  I know you think your cologne smells sexy and manly – and it may, but it’s not appropriate to wear it in session. Particularly strong scents have given Me a headache or caused Me to sneeze.   There is also the issue of transference.  Strong scents can transfer on to Us and We end up smelling like you.  A busy Domme can go home smelling like a department store fragrance counter.  I don’t wear any perfume in session for these exact reasons.  Please reciprocate.
  • Manscape if possible.  I know this is not an option for everyone, but even trimming can be a help.  Having to navigate around a full bush of hair to perform CBT can be awkward and actually hurt you in a not so good way.  Trim the shrubbery if you can.

In addition to these points, follow any specific instructions your Mistress has, including being chaste, preforming edging exercises or whatever She desires.  We want to have a good time just like you do, so do yourself a favor and prepare accordingly.

FemDom Sessions in Charlotte, NC May 1st and 2nd.

Mistress Ayn

You’ve been asking for it boys.  Now let’s see if you can handle it.  I will be returning to Charlotte on May 1st and 2nd and will be available for sessions from noon until 9pm both days.

For those that have not sessioned with Me, here are My interests:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, sounds, enema play, stretching
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play, adult baby or intimate sexual contact.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done. I will be bringing a vast assortment of BDSM equipment for CBT, corporal, medical play, bondage, etc – along with the Eros Tek and Venus 2000. If you are a sissy looking for dress up, let Me know your sizes so I can pack appropriately.

I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously. My schedule in Charlotte usually fills quickly so openings are at a premium. If we have not sessioned together before, a deposit will be required. Deposits can be paid via CashMe.com or Amazon gift card.

Click here to Complete an Application

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Atlanta’s 1763 Dungeon closes

After 15 years, Atlanta’s only public BDSM Dungeon is closing its doors at the end of June.  If you have ever dreamed of being dominated by Me in a public, fetish friendly space this is your last chance.  April 28th is FemDom night and is one of their best-attended events.  If you are interested in booking time with Me then or any other Saturday before they close (they are only open on Saturdays), contact Me directly at ayn@mistressayn,.com  Two hour minimum booking required for public outings.

Product Review of Pubic Enemy No. 1 Electro Chastity Device

2 out of 5 stars – ★★

I really wanted to like this device.  It combines two of My favorite things:  electrostimulation and chastity.  In theory, it’s great.  The practicalities are a bit different.

Pros:  It has a slide locking ring which allows it to fit various size men.  With the right adaptors (sold separately and not from MyStim), you can hook it up to most any power box.  I tend to use it with the ErosTek remote power unit which allows Me to take the locked sub out for discreet public play.  It does come with a nice carrying case.

Cons:  The slide locking ring broke after three uses and it does not appear that Mystim offers replacement parts.  Luckily a sub found a cheap knockoff from China for under $30 and I was able to switch out the ring.  Another con is that the cage is big and most “average” guys can’t fill it up to properly make contact with the electrical stimulation pads inside the cage.  This makes for a haphazard (read hit or miss) connection that keeps the device from being the fun device it was meant to be.  Also, for the money, you would expect the craftsmanship to allow for a smooth device that doesn’t cause irritation from rubbing.  Unfortunately, that is not the case here.  The ring and cage have rough spots much like the imitation CB products that are for sale on various sites for around $30.

Bottom line, this product is fun if you can get all the factors right, but it is not worth the $140+ price tag.  The knockoff from China may have taken a month to arrive, but the quality was similar, so if you want to play around with this device, go the cheap route to avoid major disappointment.

Official store and MyStim product:  http://store.mystim.com/b2c_en/pubic-enemy.html

Knockoff:  Can be found on eBay for as little as $10.  Search “electro chastity device”.

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