Category Archives: Miscellaneous Musings

Interview with Domme Addiction – FemDom Mansion

I was recently interviewed by slaveboysmith of Domme Addiction about the evolution of FemDom Mansion, the luxury BDSM retreat that offers immersive experiences to submissives and sissies that are more than mere “sessions”.

slaveboysmith: Today at DommeAddiction finds this slaveboy kneeling in the presence of the beautiful and alluring Mistress Ayn, and preparing to share the story of the amazing Femdom Mansion she has created along with several other Dommes. Welcome to DA, Mistress, and my only regret is that we aren’t actually in Femdom Mansion for this interview!

Mistress Ayn: Hello slaveboysmith. I wish you were here as well. FemDom Mansion is a special place for sure and I appreciate you giving me the opportunity to share some information about it with your readers.

sbs: It would be my privilege to be kneeling before you in Femdom Mansion asking you all about it beautiful Mistress. Let me begin by asking you to share a little about what exactly Femdom Mansion is, and how it distinguishes itself from the array of other dungeon/playspaces that are out there?

MA: For starters, FemDom Mansion is a venue that accommodates one sub at a time which is extremely unique. People sometimes incorrectly think that our events are open for multiple subs, probably because they see multiple Mistresses in attendance and multiple sub events are the norm, but that is not the case. Each event is designed solely around the submissive that books it. They can choose to serve only one Mistress or many. Their interests drive the activities, so each event is unique and a great deal of planning goes into each one. The Mansion is also a private residence so it has all the luxuries and comforts one would expect from such a property – with one big addition, a 2000 square foot BDSM Dungeon. This gives us the best of both worlds, the luxury of an prestigious home for domestic scenes and access to an exceptionally well equipped Dungeon. I don’t know of any other property that offers both at this high a level.

sbs: It’s almost incomprehensible to think of a space where one might serve multiple Mistresses over the span of time spent there. Obviously you are one of the Dommes that a submissive might serve at Femdom Mansion, but you mention multiple Mistresses. Are there other Mistresses that a submissive might choose from, or do they arrange to book Femdom Mansion with a Mistress they already serve?

MA: As the Proprietress I am responsible for the space and what happens within it, so all events include me, whether I am actually active or not. The website includes a list of local Mistresses that I have worked with for years at Atlanta Dungeon and trust. A sub can choose any of those Mistresses listed to be part of their event. We also have two Switches to make things more interesting. That being said, we recently had Mistress Troy of NYC appear as a guest Mistress for two events at the request of the sub. Again, Mistress Troy is a known and trusted Mistress and we had sessioned together before so I had no qualms including her. I am certainly open to a sub attending with his Mistress but it would need to be someone I knew and trusted. These events are a minimum of 24 hours, costly and elaborate to produce so I want to be sure that we are all a good fit so the experience is one that brings us all joy.

sbs: The more I hear about Femdom Mansion the more it becomes etched onto my “bucket list” as a submissive. I can only imagine the cost of a life-changing experience like this and know that it might not be for everyone. Can you give our readers a sense of the type of tax bracket we’re talking about for the opportunity to experience heaven on earth like this Mistress?

For the answer to this and to read the entire interview, visit Domme Addition.

 

Trials and tribulations of a chastity slave – Installment #20

Installment #20 – About markings – physical and psychological – by slave boy

The dictionary defines “marking” as “the act, process, or an instance of making or giving a mark.”  This rather simplistically defined word takes on a profound, complex, and new meaning in my life, as i am now experiencing “markings” during my submissive and chaste service to Mistress Ayn.

Ironically, many, many months ago and long before i submitted to Mistress Ayn, “no marks” was a hard limit for me when serving any Mistress as Her submissive.  Then, Mistress Ayn asked about this “hard limit” and slowly brought me around to understand that receiving marks was something that pleased Mistress Ayn and can be administered in a safe and sane manner.  Now receiving marks is something i crave as Her personal slave.

A “mark” is a territorial indication that i am Mistress Ayn’s slave.  Sometimes the mark is clearly indicative of that belonging, as when Mistress Ayn leaves Her initial (the mark of an “A”) on my ass during a personal slave training session.  Other times the “mark” is less personal but nonetheless very profound and painful, as when Mistress Ayn flogs or whips my back or thighs, or canes my ass.  These marks do not last more than a few days past the session, as per O/our agreement, but i do find myself checking out the marks later and silently hoping they would last a few days longer.

In addition to the physical markings, the introduction of marks in my submissive life as Mistress Ayn’s slave has another important meaning lasting far beyond their physical presence.  Marking is how Mistress Ayn psychologically exhibits Her control over me and manifests Her possession or ownership of me as Her slave.

i am, as my Twitter name indicates, “Mistress Ayn’s slaveboy.”  That control and ownership is not only shown through physical markings but also psychologically, as She symbolically places Her “mark” on my mind and soul demonstrating Her power over me and in my life.

Markings can be a way of experiencing Mistress Ayn’s infliction of pain, Her physical control over me, and Her psychological ownership of me as Her slaveboy.  What was once inconceivable during a session with a Mistress, and thus a “hard limit,” markings are now a frequently desired occurrence in service to Mistress Ayn.  Receiving Her mark is something i am hoping for every time as i anticipate my next opportunity to serve Mistress Ayn as Her personal slaveboy.

Reflecting – 2019

This is the time of year I like to reflect and look back on all the things I am grateful for, not only in the previous year, but in life in general.  First and foremost I am healthy and that is huge.  This was a year when many pro Dommes were lost and it provided a heavy dose of reality.  Life is short.  Even the strongest can fall.  Live life to its fullest every day and every way that you can.

In many ways 2019 was an extraordinary year.  FemDom Mansion continued to grow in public awareness and for the first year (now in year 4) we had events for submissives that were not in My direct sphere.  It was exciting to have a sub fly from the UAE just to partake in a long held fantasy and it was even more exciting to be the one that enabled his fantasies to come to life.  The Mansion also saw the collaring of slave boy jaime and dealt with the serious issue of gender identity with on new client.  All of these events were joyous and we look forward to more in 2020.

This is also the time when I start to think of individual clients and the importance they have in My life.  Yes, I do care for many of you – very much – and am grateful to have you in My life.  You keep My house filled with flowers, you make Me laugh, you defend Me, you promote Me,  you pave the way for Me when I come to your city, I want for virtually nothing and I know that I could call on many of you and you would be here in an instant if I needed you.  That is golden and My life is fuller and happier because of you.

I am truly rich – and I don’t mean in tender – I mean in relationships and experiences.  Thank you all for your participation and contribution to this fabulous thing called life.  I wish everyone a healthy and prosperous (and kinky) 2020.

Tribute Etiquette

How to present your tribute:

  1. Have it ready – counting out your tribute in front of Me is uncouth. Whether intended or not, I see it as a passive aggressive move to remind Me that you are paying and therefore in control. It’s not the best way to start your session.
  1. Have it in a plain, unsealed envelope. Even if you have been seeing Me for years, I may count the tribute in private before we start.  Especially if it’s a double or the tribute deviates from our norm.  I prefer not to have to rip the envelope open to do this check.
  1. Don’t write anything on the envelope. I would prefer not to have a bunch of envelopes with “Mistress Ayn” floating around out there – either in your pocket or the trash.  We all know who it is for.
  1. Just lay it down within eyesight upon entry. Don’t hand it to Me.  Most of Us were taught not to touch the tribute.  It’s a legal thing and I don’t know if it  holds water or not, but I have always done it this way and it just feels better to Me.  Somehow it’s less transactional and starts everything off right.

I can’t speak for all Dommes but this is how I like to receive My tribute.  If in doubt, ask.  It is your first live interaction with a Mistress, so get it right and start things off positively.

 

Trials and tribulations of a chastity slave – Installment #13

 Installment # 13 – Chastity “Cuckolding”

As many know, typically, a cuckold is when a male changes his role from sexual partner to chaste submissive and the Female takes on other sexual partners.  The male is no longer the alpha and there may be many other males in the Female’s life, as it should be.  While i have never been more than a submissive to Mistress Ayn, i did realize the other day that i am a “chaste cuckold” of sorts. 

i knew that Mistress Ayn had other males in Her life – some for Her sexual pleasure and others as submissives to serve Her in a variety of roles, as well as some female submissives.  The other day it became clear to me that She also has other slaves who are ordered into chastity and this caused me to think – how do i respond to this new understanding of my role?  i am only one of many submissives under Mistress Ayn’s control as a chaste slave.  My role as Her chaste slave is diminished further by not being the only chaste slave serving Her.  What does this mean for me?

This revelation caused me to renew my commitment in being or becoming Mistress Ayn’s “treasured” submissive.  i want to be Her “best” submissive slave. i want to find ways to please Her, even when W/we are not together.  Whether it is being completely obedient to Her orders for continuous chastity, edging and denial for specific periods of time, wearing panties, or other commands, i want to please Her as best i can.  i want to please Her by never complaining about being in continuous chastity or prohibited from cage release, stroking, or orgasming.  i want to please Her by purchasing gifts for special occasions and for no reason at all.  i want to try to be physically available to Her as often as possible and, when in Her presence, to be completely obedient to Her and Her guests at the FemDom Mansion and thus please Her.

The realization that i am Mistress Ayn’s “chaste cuckold” motivates me to be Her “best” chaste slave and affirms my resolve of being completely obedient to Mistress Ayn.

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