Category Archives: Miscellaneous Musings

SESTA/FOSTA and how we move forward

The adult industry, which includes Professional Domination, is aghast at the passing of the Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act.  In most people’s opinion, it will do little to stop the “human trafficking” which was how it was sold to the public, but will instead force the sex industry (including the traffickers and pedos) farther underground and make everyone less safe.  It also blows a giant hole in our internet freedoms but few are actually talking about that.  The bottom line is the new law will hold website owners, hosting companies, social media sites, etc. responsible for the content of their users. If a provider posts a tweet on Twitter that says she will be available for sessions in Washington, DC, (and if those sessions are deemed illegal) technically Twitter would be breaking the law and Twitter would be held accountable.  But what does it really mean to Us as Dommes and you as a client?

We are a long way from knowing what the fallout from this will be. As many have said, it will really be up to the courts. The first test case will set the precedent. The DOJ has already said they don’t have time to police this and many believe that the judiciary will see this as overreach. We shall see.

I am not a political creature and have no expertise in these matters but my guess is they will go after the “low hanging fruit” first. Sites like The Erotic Review would be far easier to prosecute than say Max Fisch. TER caters primarily to escorts and illegal activity (illegal in the US, but they are based in Canada where providing sexual services is not illegal) is openly talked about there. I know TER has taken their US forums down, but what about the profiles and reviews of US providers? Profiles contain information like “rimming allowed” and “cum in mouth”. They may self-regulate this too by taking all US provider profiles down. As long as those profiles and reviews are up, they will be a big potential target. It will be interesting to watch.

Eros Guide is another big question mark. After the raid on their call offices in North Carolina, they notified advertisers saying that they were based in Switzerland and that all our information was safe. It will be interesting to see how non-US based companies like TER and Eros Guide will be treated. Any of the websites that mix escort/GFE services with BDSM are likely to be gone for us going forward – either by self-censorship or heavy enforcement of this new law. Personally, I have never liked being on a site that mixes the two but we don’t always have a choice if we want to advertise effectively. I would much prefer being exclusively on sites like Dickie Virgin that cater solely to BDSM. I may get my wish.

What’s really sad for me to see is all the self-censorship this is already causing. People are so afraid that they are policing themselves before the law has been tested. We are letting them win. Until there is a test case, I am not doing anything.

Obviously, those of us that are established in the business will feel any fall out less than newer providers or those trying to get started out in the business. When the BDSM/fetish portion of Backpage when down, I didn’t feel anything. If anything, I think it cleaned up the business a bit. But I am not a new Domme trying to get my name out. I am well indexed and easy to find. If sites like MF, the Buzz and Dickie Virgin bite the dust, it will be very hard for a new provider to get her name out there. I feel their pain.

Regardless, I think it’s highly doubtful they will choose to go after BDSM anytime soon. We should all stick to best business practices on our own websites and social media. We know what that is, we just don’t always adhere to it.

What should you do?

As a ProDomme,  you need to get your name out everywhere now because you don’t know what, if any, sites will be going down.  Do not rely on one advertising source.  Make sure your website is search engine friendly and take steps to get it indexed properly.  If you have a free site like Weebly or a WordPress blog, replace it.  Those companies already have rules against adult content and will be sure to enforce it fully now.  Back up your website and at a minimum copy all the wording in the event you have to rebuild it.  It’s also a good idea to start researching non-US based hosting companies.  Start using encrypted email and encourage your clients to do the same.  Use “best practices” on social media, like marking sensitive content.  You should have been doing this anyway and the first to have their accounts shut down will likely be the ones that have not used best practices.  Allow clients to subscribe to your email list and back that list up often if it is kept at a third party vendor like icontact.  These are all things that savvy, business headed ProDommes are already doing anyway.  That’s why they will be hurt less by any fallout.

As a client, you should start saving the contact information of providers that are important to you. Websites, social media accounts, etc. may start to disappear. If they have an email mailing list, subscribe to it.  Replace your “sub-persona” email account with encrypted email.  I’ve been using private, encrypted email (Luxsci.com) for a while now because I’ve never liked the idea of data mining. However it’s only good if it’s used on both ends – meaning if I send an email to a gmail account, it loses its secure feature once it lands in your gmail account. Many people are converting to ProtonMail.com, a free (for now) provider based in Switzerland that claims to be encrypted and does not share or scrape your account for marketing purposes.  ProtonMail to My account would therefore be encrypted and secure.

So in summary, I am not panicking and I don’t think anyone else should either. However, it is good to be prepared.  I think it is sad to see this potential loss of freedom, but as a nation, we brought this on ourselves by being asleep at the wheel and trading liberty and freedom for security.  Sleep tight America.

Want a simple primer to get up to speed on what FOSTA is all about?  Here is a pretty cut to the chase on:

https://www.thecut.com/2018/03/sesta-anti-sex-trafficking-bill-fosta.html

FAQ #27 – What is boot fetishism?

In My latest episode of Kink 101 I talk about boot fetish and boot domination.  If you have been curious about this fetish or just want to see My awesome boot collection, this video is for you.

FAQ #26 – May I take you to dinner?

Yes, you may!  Sometimes prospective subs want a face to face meeting prior to sessioning.  I understand that.  It prevents you scheduling a session with someone that turns out to look nothing like their photos.  It can help you establish if you have chemistry and are compatible.  It can also help a new sub get his nerve up to actually serve in session.

Established subs can also want to spend time with their Mistress outside of the Dungeon.  I understand that too and often the feeling is mutual.  Some of you are very interesting characters . . .

The tribute for such outings are as follows:

$100 – Cafe date – 30 minutes +/-  This might entail coffee or a meet for a drink.

$150 – Dinner – 1 hour +  A more leisurely affair with time to get to know each other, decompress after a session, etc.

Overnight sessions usually include dinner.

Shopping adventures are also possible and run anywhere from $100 to $150 per hour depending on time reserved and what items are purchased.

Wolford pantyhose for sale – worn and scented

Some of you know that I consider Myself a “Green Domme”.  I drive a hybrid, do My due diligence to respect and conserve the world’s limited resources and I am a big believer in recycling – everything possible.  That means more than glass, plastic, metal and paper.  I donate unused items to Goodwill, do clothing swaps with friends and of course I often make subs recycle their own cum . . .  but that’s another story.

Today I have two items that should be enjoyed as opposed to being thrown away.  Two pairs of Wolford pantyhose are available for purchase at the cost of $36 each (includes domestic shipping) or $56 for both.  Both have runs and smell like Me.  I will accept Amazon gift cards or cash.me.  Just email Me at ayn at mistressayn.com for details and to check availability.

Imagine wearing or inhaling a pair while watching My clips.  Other items like panties and stockings are also available from time to time, so feel free to ask.

 

Poem from a Facebook fan

I received this little rhyme on Facebook and just had to share.  I am not a FinDom, but this poor slave makes a good argument for keeping Me in gifts . . .

 

Bow your heads down where they belong
Look at Ayn Rules’s legs so lovely and long
Covered in nylon – you want to feel
Get on the floor and start to kneel
This is where us men should be
Looking no higher than her knee
Now on your knees with your head dipped
There is only one Lady that should be worshipped
This is a Lady who should not be missed
Now buy her something off her wishlist
Ayn Rules should not be without
So pay her money, any amount
How much to send, start to think
Ayn Rules should have something
Buy her clothes or even shoes
Something Ayn Rules can always use
You wank off to her pictures at your will
So why not pay her telephone bill
Worship her near or by far
Chip in together and buy her a car
Look at Ayn Rules with eyes so brown
Come on gents, now don’t let her down !

slave ken

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