As a unique gift idea, My sub joe had a portrait commissioned by the famous FemDom artist, Sardax. We decided on a classic setting with joe in tow, masked, collared and leased following Me up a set of stairs. The monochrome watercolor turned out just as I wanted with the slightly sinister feel of dusk creeping in the building as we mount the stairs.
It has a place of honor in My personal Dungeon and I will treasure it always.
To see more of Sardax’s work visit his website.
These are two of My favorite things. Combine them and it’s just over the top fun – at least for Me.
Recently I accepted a new distance chastity slave. The slave is not new to Me (or you if you follow FemDom Mansion) he is just new to chastity. We only get to see each other a couple of times a year (usually when he submits at FemDom Mansion for a weekend retreat) and we both wanted to have him under My control beyond those visits and becoming his keyholder was the obvious choice.
After a month or so of being under My control, I thought it was time for a real test. I wanted to see if he would comply and ruin his own orgasm just because I ordered him to. Well, slave boy (the slave formerly known as jaime) did as ordered and here is his report:
That final paragraph really says it all.
You can follow slave boy’s chastity progress on Twitter.
I received this letter via email a few days after spending time with a long-term submissive that I consider “Mine”. It’s safe to say we have a special relationship – the kind that longevity, pushing limits and extended sessions will give. It just made Me smile and I wanted to share.
Mistress,
Lying alone in a darkened bedroom Sunday, as close to rock hard as I can still get, I can’t stop marveling at and savoring how much You deepened and extended Your domination of me.
I love that I’m a visible tribute to Your use of me as a play toy — with bare genitals, a torn back, a striped, swollen ass that aches nonstop and nipples that remind me at every touch of fabric how much You delight in being cruel to me.
But most important, You rearranged my mind in new ways I’m still not fully aware of.
I know Your taunting oral commands are what released me.
And I am more certain with each passing minute that the immersion in Your scent dramatically altered my mind–for how long I still don’t know.
I could feel Your scent instantly make me harder and struggle to get harder still.
I’m sure that Your scent suppressed my gag response so I could dance longer with death when Your nyloned toe closed my airway. And it heightened the joy I felt at Your playing deep inside me when you widened Your toes inside my throat!
In short, I never felt so fully owned and used by You. And I just want it to go on forever.
All Yours,
anonymous slave
Often when subs talk about sessions or review them, it’s all about the activities, the Dommes appearance, the session space and so forth. All of these things are important but what about what comes first and lies beneath the surface? Professionalism.
Recently a submissive took the time to post a review that wasn’t a review of a particular session but of his experience with Me as a professional. Like him, I believe when a Domme puts the label “Pro” in front of her title it should mean something. It should mean that a sub’s time is just as important as Ours. It should mean that respect goes both ways. It should mean that discretion, cleanliness and safety are expectations that should not need to be worried about – after all, you are dealing with a professional.
This sub goes above and beyond to sing My praises and let readers know how professionalism in Pro Domination should work. Frankly, it’s one of the most important reviews I have ever gotten and I am very appreciative of his efforts.
The review can be read on The Buzz. For your convenience, it is posted in its entirety below:
So.. this isn’t a session review. You can see review after review of Mistress Ayn and how amazing She is in session and I am more than willing to attest to how true that is. Instead, this is actually something that is just as important but is rarely discussed in the reviews on this board and that is how amazing Mistress Ayn is as a Professional in this field.
If you know my name or have seen my posts you probably know I have been pretty prolific with my sessioning over the last few years. Therefore, I have dealt with many, many different Pro Dommes. Each Woman is unique, with their own set of rules and methods for dealing with clients and Mistress Ayn is no different in that respect . . .
However, by far, the single most professional and considerate Domme I have ever sessioned with is Mistress Ayn and IMO, She deserves to be called out, praised and known for this fact. Don’t get me wrong, She has Her pain in the butt rules like requiring you to fill out the form on her website before She will consider you as a client. However, She is also willing to give you the logical explanation of exactly why She requires that . . .
Once accepted, setting up the session itself has always been smooth and easy with the expectations for confirmation calls and pre-session instructions communicated very well. She responds to emails in a timely manner and is perfectly willing to talk on the phone if I ever feel I need to ask/explain something interactively rather than just through text. At the session, She has simple and clear procedures that make you feel your clothes, wallet and other stuff is safe. It is clear that Her equipment is always clean and sanitized and She always separates what She has used during a session from what She hasn’t.
As praiseworthy as all of that is, all of those things are what most Pro Dommes do and other than the incredibly personable way that goes about all of the business surrounding a session, it is pretty standard for those who are truly great in this field. But, even beyond that She loves everything about what She does and She loves to be able to be creative and truly personalize the experience while insuring Her own enjoyment. Again, this is similar to most great Pro Dommes.
So, since these are things that a lot of great Pros do, you may ask what has driven me to write this today? It is that I wrote and asked Her for a reference for another Domme that She knows and who is planning a visit to Detroit. However, instead of just saying “Sure Asp, you can use me as a reference” or “Yes, tell Her contact Me in this way”, Mistress Ayn did something so simple yet so insanely professional that it just blew me away.
Instead, She offered to and then reached out to the Domme and vouched for me in order to make it easier on both myself and the other Domme. Its the kind of little thing that you see in great customer service organizations and yet almost never in this world. Not just to say yes to a request but to see how with just an extremely small effort She could make things easier for everyone involved.
It would be incredibly professional for a lawyer or a doctor or an accountant to do something along those lines with a colleague. Yet in this new world where the “Pro” in Pro Domme tends to stand for “Fuck You Pay Me beta boy” rather than actually being Professional in how a Domme interacts with clients outside of the service itself, it was just an awesome thing to experience. The thing is She probably considers it to be no big deal and just what everyone should do to help a good client connect with a Domme colleague, and that attitude is really why Mistress Ayn really puts the Professional in Pro Domme.
Well… I am here to say it is a very big deal to me. Oh, and as for when you are lucky enough to be within Her control, She is just as amazingly Pro at all of that as well (including the butt stuff).
Asp
I am often asked if I will participate in financial domination or blackmail scenarios. The short answer is “no”. I will occasionally play around with it as a theme on a NiteFlirt call or make you pay for unauthorized orgasms, but that’s about the extent of it. I have no interest in any sort of long-term FinDom relationship.
Why? I don’t find it particularly fun. I don’t enjoy playing the bratty girl that expects you to open your wallet just because I tell you. Call Me old fashioned but I think there should be some value for any sort of financial exchange and I can’t really wrap My head around a sub wanting that kind of domination. In addition, I would never blackmail a client in reality, so pretending that I would just seems forced. I’ve read extensively about financial domination, I’ve experimented with it and I just don’t find that it is for Me.
My lack of interest in it does not invalidate it as a real fetish or a real form of domination. I get that there are submissives that see turning over their finances to a dominant woman to be the ultimate surrender of their private space and a powerful aphrodisiac. I mean no disrespect to FinDommes that are good at their trade (although I think there are precious few of them that are genuinely good). As long as the Domme acts responsibly and the sub is consenting, I have no issues with it. But there is the rub. Since FinDom is practiced primarily online, a new breed of Dominatrix has sprung up and problems are starting to arise. More than one case has actually turned criminal when a FinDomme released private information about a client to the public because he refused to continue the roleplay.
If you seek financial domination, choose your FinDom Mistress wisely. Negotiate the real world implications and have a written record of that negotiation. The more exposed you really are, the more real and powerful it may feel, but the results, if things go wrong, could be catastrophic to your real life.