Author Archives: Mistress Ayn

FAQ #21 – Why is aftercare important in BDSM play?

Monday, 09 November 2015 00:10
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Aftercare is the “come down” part of a BDSM session.  It is important because the flood of endorphins caused by play often cause a rush or natural high that can lead to a subsequent crash if not properly addressed.  What aftercare consists of and how long it lasts will depend on the intensity of the session and your relationship with the submissive.

I always like to spend time with My submissives to help bring them down softly.  I tend to be nurturing after sessions, especially intense ones.  Soft strokes and soft words are My hallmark in post session interactions. It is important that the sub knows you are okay with him and his behavior during play.  I also advise My submissives to treat themselves kindly for at least the rest of the day and try to avoid stress and confrontations immediately after a BDSM play.

Returning to Charlotte, NC – Nov 3rd & 4th.

Sunday, 25 October 2015 18:17
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OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAA last minute filming opportunity with Syren Productions puts Me in Charlotte ahead of schedule, so all the sluts that were not able to serve Me last month get a second chance.  I will be arriving early and conducting sessions in Charlotte November 3rd & 4th only and filming on the 5th.  Film subs are also wanted.  A completed 2257 form and valid ID are required to film.

For those that have not sessioned with Me, here are My interests:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, sounds, enema play, stretching
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play, adult baby or intimate sexual contact.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done.   I will be bringing a vast assortment of BDSM equipment for CBT, corporal, medical play, bondage, etc – along with the Eros Tek and Venus 2000.  If you are a sissy looking for dress up, let Me know your sizes so I can pack appropriately.

When traveling I conduct sessions daily from 11am until 10pm.  I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously.   My schedule in Charlotte usually fills quickly so openings are at a premium.  If we have not sessioned together before, a reference from a well known Domme or a deposit will be required.  Deposits can be paid via GiftRocket.com or Amazon gift card.

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There is a new “Max Fisch”

Monday, 19 October 2015 19:53
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As some of you know, the website Max Fisch has been steadily declining.  It is sad because MF has been a fixture in the FemDom scene for many years.  Unfortunately it is now unmanned, they are not adding new Mistresses to listings, you can’t register as a new member of The Hang (the discussion forums) and many have left due to the un-moderated flaming on the board.  With no new blood coming in it has become a relic.

Well, there is a new board in town.  The website Domina.ms has been around for years and it appears they are under new ownership (or the owners decided to pay attention to it again).  Now in addition to Domme listings, they have a Traveling Domme section and a Max Fisch-like discussion board called The Buzz.

I am proud to announce they have given Me My Own Domme Board and made Me a moderator.  So I want all My minions to go register and let’s make the Mistress Ayn Domme Board the best one on The Buzz.  Feel free to start discussions and participate in existing ones.

The site still has some issues, so if you encounter problems let them know – or tell Me and I will pass it along.  The bottom line is that it appears MF is on its last leg and I wouldn’t be surprised if it just disappeared one day  – but now there is a new alternative – if we will just support it.

So check out the site, register for the board and let’s talk . . .

Domina.ms (main site)

The Buzz (go directly to the discussion forums)

Note:  I have had some issues using the site with the Chrome browser.  It looks like it’s optimized to work best with Internet Explorer (sigh).  I have brought it to the attention of the site administrator that half the planet uses a browser other than I.E. these days, so hopefully that is on their to do list.

UNCHAINED – Bet you wish you had been there.

Friday, 02 October 2015 23:57
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If you missed this party – you missed the fetish event of the year.  Promoter Lilith Le Fay (Mistress Kountessa TS) outdid herself and put on a masterpiece of a party.  There was so much going on, you seriously couldn’t take it all in.  Fire shows, hook suspension, dessert girl (dessert was served off her lovely body), boot blacking and of course performances by the Dommes of Atlanta Dungeon.  It was non-stop action with kicking DJ’s to boot.  I saw so many old friends and made a bunch of new ones.

Among My new friends is a little sub girl named Ria.  She took a hell of a whipping on stage.  Immediately after, our own Gianna Monticello took an identical whipping from Goddess Samantha.  Both of our sub girls orgasmed during the performance.  It was a site to behold.  I could go on and on, but a photo is worth a 1000 words.

We are all waiting for the next UNCHAINED Atlanta – scheduled for January 2016.

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Product Review: Electro CBT Board from Current Pleasures

Tuesday, 29 September 2015 21:56
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Electro CBT Board from Current Pleasures

3 out of 5 stars ★★★☆☆

I received this electro device as a gift about a year ago. I am a big believer in trying devices out on Myself before they ever touch a slave, but in some cases I just don’t have the equipment to do the testing.  So instead, I tried it out on Atlanta Dungeon’s house slave, toxie.  I am glad I did.

Overall the board gets the job done, but there a few things that need to be noted:

  1. The board comes in several sizes, so be sure to measure properly prior to ordering.  This is not a one size fits all toy.
  2. Much like a chastity device, it’s best that your sub is flaccid or semi-flaccid when putting on the device.  The balls, then the cock have to all go through that one hole.
  3. To get the most from the toy you will need a one banana jack to two banana jack splitter (not included).  Without this splitter all the electro on the cock is concentrated on one section (either primarily the cock base or primarily the head), not spread across both sections, which can make it too intense for some.
  4. Putting the device on can be cumbersome.  You may feel like you need more than two hands.  That is the nature of such devious toys.  Don’t be shy about asking your sub to help out.
  5. When screwing down the plastic screws, be careful that skin is not in direct contact with them.  Otherwise, skin can get caught in the grooves as they twist and cause pain and lacerations.
  6. Be careful when pushing the connectors into place.  Depending on the placement of the cock and balls, the jack can go all the way through to the other side of the board and pierce the skin.

I have used this device numerous times over the past year.  I’ve gotten faster at getting it in place, but it does take time, so it’s not ideal for short sessions.  It’s best used when you have time to enjoy the mindfuck of the process and the visual that results.  On the plus side, the board provides a nice vice like grip to the cock and balls while delivering current to the right areas and it looks absolutely awesome once it’s on.  Bottom line:  If you are an electro aficionado, go for it.  If the idea of ratcheting all those screws down makes you sweat – take a pass.

 

 

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