Submissive or Fetishist? Which are you?
July 2, 2018
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I have never been a big fan of putting labels on things or people. It can be so limiting. But sometimes things do need a bit of definition in order
Thoughts, dispatches and assignments from the world of professional FemDom — written by Mistress Ayn since 2012.
FAQ #28 – How do I prepare for a BDSM FemDom session?
April 22, 2018
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Subs often ask Me if there is anything in particular they should do to prepare for a session. Usually their mind is wrapped around their genitals and thoughts of edging,
SESTA/FOSTA and how we move forward
March 29, 2018
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The adult industry, which includes Professional Domination, is aghast at the passing of the Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act. In most people’s opinion, it will do little to stop the
Passing out in a BDSM FemDom session
March 14, 2018
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This is a topic no one seems to want to talk about but it’s a real concern in BDSM play. Out of the thousands of hours of sessions I’ve been
FAQ #27 – What is boot fetishism?
February 20, 2018
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In My latest episode of Kink 101 I talk about boot fetish and boot domination. If you have been curious about this fetish or just want to see My awesome
FAQ #26 – May I take you to dinner?
February 14, 2018
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Yes, you may! Sometimes prospective subs want a face to face meeting prior to sessioning. I understand that. It prevents you scheduling a session with someone that turns out to
Chastity and the hormones connection
July 28, 2017
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I love the idea of male chastity. The practicalities are often a challenge and on this blog, you will find articles about chastity devices, experiences and so forth. To add
All those pesky acronyms and abbreviations in BDSM
September 20, 2016
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For some reason kinksters love their acronyms. Maybe it’s the need to be discrete in front of others or maybe it’s the geek in us wanting to have a secret
Transformative Gender Experiences
May 1, 2016
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I have been asked to sit on a panel to discuss gender issues as they relate to kink. So join Me Saturday, May 7th at Frolicon from 1:00pm – 2:15pm.
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