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FAQ #28 – How do I prepare for a BDSM FemDom session?

Subs often ask Me if there is anything in particular they should do to prepare for a session.  Usually their mind is wrapped around their genitals and thoughts of edging, looking at photos, etc. are in the forefront, but there is a practical side to preparing for sessions too.  Subs get excited and sometimes forget the common sense practicalities of preparation.  Below are some pointers for making sure your session goes well.

  • Hydrate well prior to your session.  When things go wrong physically in a session (lightheadedness, nausea, tiredness, etc.) it is usually from dehydration.  This is the number one cause of fainting in session.  If you are having a particularly heavy session or a session that lasts 90 minutes or more, take a bottle of water or a sports drink with you in session and don’t be shy to ask for a swallow.
  • Eat normally.  I know pre-session jitters can lead to an adrenaline rush that can cause you to lose your appetite prior to a session but failing to eat can cause the same nasty issues listed above.  Even if you aren’t hungry try to at least eat a light meal prior to your session.  Low blood sugar due to a lack of food can really be a buzz kill in session.
  • Practice proper hygiene.  This should go without saying but be sure you arrive clean and fresh.  If you are coming from work or a flight and feel sweaty, ask to take a quick shower.  If you are odiferous your Domme won’t want to get too close.  If you will be engaging in anal play, give yourself an enema approximately 2 hours prior if at all possible.  I know this will be TMI for some, but all subs should clean in that area by inserting a soapy finger in the shower until it comes back clean.  There is nothing worse than spanking a sub and when you turn him over your knee he smells like ass.  Take this advice.  Your Mistress will appreciate it.
  • No cologne, please.  I know you think your cologne smells sexy and manly – and it may, but it’s not appropriate to wear it in session. Particularly strong scents have given Me a headache or caused Me to sneeze.   There is also the issue of transference.  Strong scents can transfer on to Us and We end up smelling like you.  A busy Domme can go home smelling like a department store fragrance counter.  I don’t wear any perfume in session for these exact reasons.  Please reciprocate.
  • Manscape if possible.  I know this is not an option for everyone, but even trimming can be a help.  Having to navigate around a full bush of hair to perform CBT can be awkward and actually hurt you in a not so good way.  Trim the shrubbery if you can.

In addition to these points, follow any specific instructions your Mistress has, including being chaste, preforming edging exercises or whatever She desires.  We want to have a good time just like you do, so do yourself a favor and prepare accordingly.

FAQ #27 – What is boot fetishism?

In My latest episode of Kink 101 I talk about boot fetish and boot domination.  If you have been curious about this fetish or just want to see My awesome boot collection, this video is for you.

FAQ #26 – May I take you to dinner?

Yes, you may!  Sometimes prospective subs want a face to face meeting prior to sessioning.  I understand that.  It prevents you scheduling a session with someone that turns out to look nothing like their photos.  It can help you establish if you have chemistry and are compatible.  It can also help a new sub get his nerve up to actually serve in session.

Established subs can also want to spend time with their Mistress outside of the Dungeon.  I understand that too and often the feeling is mutual.  Some of you are very interesting characters . . .

The tribute for such outings are as follows:

$100 – Cafe date – 30 minutes +/-  This might entail coffee or a meet for a drink.

$150 – Dinner – 1 hour +  A more leisurely affair with time to get to know each other, decompress after a session, etc.

Overnight sessions usually include dinner.

Shopping adventures are also possible and run anywhere from $100 to $150 per hour depending on time reserved and what items are purchased.

FAQ #25 – What is predicament bondage?

Oh, how diabolical it is!  Predicament bondage consists of putting a person in a position offering limited movement and positions shifts, but each of those shifts has a consequence.  Planning this type of play can really get the creative juices flowing and the reward for the top is non-stop entertainment.

Here are two examples:

#1 The nipples are clamped and each clamp is tied off to a big toe.  If the sub is standing he would be made to stoop to keep the pressure off this nipples.  If he tries to stand straight or moves too quickly, the nipples get a jerk.  Having My slave perform tasks while in this predicament can be amusing.  This also works laying down.  The sub is made to keep his feet perpendicular and a nipple clamp is tied to each toe.  If he relaxes his feet, he tugs on the nipples.

#2 The cock and balls are securely tied and then tied off to the subs collar.  If laying down, he has to curl up to keep the pressure off his balls.  If he relaxes he increases the pressure on the cock and balls.  He won’t be able to stay in either position for long and must keep shifting from one uncomfortable position to another.

Predicament bondage can be tons of fun for the Top and Her bottom and thinking up new predicaments is half the fun,

FAQ #24 – What is the deal with enema play?

ds22m4_edited-1 (2)Enema play is one of My favorite forms of play.  It is so versatile and can range from subtle to severe.  It can be humiliating – or not.  I have used enema play to clean out sissies for man pussy training.  I have used them purely for torture – a little added pain during CBT, for example.  I have used enemas to give the lowly, weak male an idea of what We Women go through monthly.  Menstrual cramps are such a bitch and I think every man should have an idea of what they feel like.  That would probably put an end to all the PMS jokes.

Enemas are also useful for degradation.  Not being in control of your own bodily functions and/or having a Mistress present when you are finally allowed to relieve yourself can be a very debasing experience.  As a slave, being able to endure an enema without soiling yourself and then presenting yourself to your Mistress cleaner and more humble than when you arrived, can be a sweet achievement.

So, although enemas do not have a place in every BDSM scene, they do have a place in specific types of scenes.  I have seen lots of wary looks when the enema bag came out for the first time in session.  Now a lot of those same subs look forward to the cleansing routine.

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