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FAQ #32 – Do you offer smoking fetish sessions?

Sunday, 23 June 2019 10:18
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I have never been a smoker so smoking is not something I enjoy.  Early on I realized that doing things in session that I don’t genuinly like is very short sighted.  I love FemDom sessions and I want to keep it that way.

Smoking is not necessarily repulsive to Me and I have to admit to trying it in session a time or two.  It was kind of fun; blowing smoke in a slave’s face and flicking My ashes at him, but it smelled up the entire Dungeon and the new wore off quickly.  It’s just not Me.  So, no, I do not offer smoking sessions.

There are plenty of Mistresses that do and that truly enjoy both the cigarette/cigar and dominating you with it.  You won’t have to look far, I am sure.

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FAQ #31 – Do your wear perfume in session?

Sunday, 26 May 2019 15:53
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No and you shouldn’t either.

I seldom wear perfume outside the Dungeon and I never wear it in session.  There are two primary reasons for that:  1. I believe in the power of scent and because of that I want you to smell Me – not a chemical.  2.  Perfumes and colognes transfer and I don’t want My clients going home smelling of perfume for obvious reasons.

It is greatly appreciated if you don’t wear scents either.  I like to get close to My submissives – invading your personal space. Your cologne might smell absolutely lovely but I don’t want it to transfer to onto Me so that I (and others) end up smelling it all day.  So, please do us all a favor and skip the cologne and strong aftershave on the day you go to see your Domme.  I promise to do the same.

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FAQ #30 – Are you into financial domination?

Monday, 24 September 2018 18:30
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I am often asked if I will participate in financial domination or blackmail scenarios.  The short answer is “no”.  I will occasionally play around with it as a theme on a NiteFlirt call or make you pay for unauthorized orgasms, but that’s about the extent of it.  I have no interest in any sort of long-term FinDom relationship.

Why?  I don’t find it particularly fun.  I don’t enjoy playing the bratty girl that expects you to open your wallet just because I tell you.  Call Me old fashioned but I think there should be some value for any sort of financial exchange and I can’t really wrap My head around a sub wanting that kind of domination.  In addition, I would never blackmail a client in reality, so pretending that I would just seems forced.  I’ve read extensively about financial domination, I’ve experimented with it and I just don’t find that it is for Me.

My lack of interest in it does not invalidate it as a real fetish or a real form of domination.  I get that there are submissives that see turning over their finances to a dominant woman to be the ultimate surrender of their private space and a powerful aphrodisiac.  I mean no disrespect to FinDommes that are good at their trade (although I think there are precious few of them that are genuinely good).  As long as the Domme acts responsibly and the sub is consenting, I have no issues with it.  But there is the rub.  Since FinDom is practiced primarily online, a new breed of Dominatrix has sprung up and problems are starting to arise.  More than one case has actually turned criminal when a FinDomme released private information about a client to the public because he refused to continue the roleplay.

If you seek financial domination, choose your FinDom Mistress wisely.  Negotiate the real world implications and have a written record of that negotiation.  The more exposed you really are, the more real and powerful it may feel, but the results, if things go wrong, could be catastrophic to your real life.

Why I don’t do same day sessions.

Tuesday, 24 July 2018 23:14
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Do you do same day sessions?

The short answer is “no”. Occasionally I will take a last minute request from a sub that I have sessioned with in the past, but I have to be familiar with his interests and it must fit within My schedule that day.

There are two main reasons I don’t accept same day session requests:

1. Subs that request last minute sessions tend to be the worst sort of clients. Many subs will ask for sessions on short notice because they know the Domme won’t have time to properly vet them. This is an old trick that those of Us that have been around for a while are wise to. Clients making last minute requests are also the ones that most frequently “no show”, show up late, have poor etiquette, etc.  In general, I prefer to session with a client that is not impetuous about sessioning, but instead plans for it and anticipates it.

2.  I like to mull over a session in My mind for a while.  It’s part of the process that I enjoy about sessioning.  It’s also one of the reasons I think I am very good at what I do.  I don’t just show up and go through a checklist of your interests.  My sessions are crafted to fit your interests and My current mood.  A last minute/same day session deprives Me of that.

Lastly is My schedule:  As a Dominant, I tend to want to be in control of everything in My life.  (That should not be a surprise.)  That includes My schedule.  When I retire for the evening, I like to have a clear idea of what the following day will bring.  A request for a same day session puts a kink in My plans, which is another reason I seldom grant them – even to subs that are known to Me.  I think it is a common misconception that a Dominatrix rolls out of bed, puts on Her boots and then sits around waiting for clients.  That may be true in a “house” like Pandora’s Box or similar establishments where Ladies work a shift, but that is not the case with independent Dommes like Me and most of the other Mistresses in the industry.

In short, I would prefer to pass up a session that doesn’t give Me adequate time to plan the session and vet the client.

FAQ #29 Why do you have a “no texting” policy?

Sunday, 17 June 2018 19:57
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My phone number is published in very few places and where is it visible, it clearly states that texting is not allowed.

There are two primary reasons for this:

1  Texting is not an ideal way to communicate.  The very briefness of its nature can lead to all sorts of wrong conclusions and miscommunications and that’s the last thing you want when communicating with a Mistress.  I personally don’t text with people (in any capacity) unless I know them very well.

2.  The main reason I don’t allow texting is to protect My clients’ privacy.  Most phones have notifications that display when a text comes in even when the phone is inactive and locked.  If you text Me at 1:00pm and I am unable to respond until 2:00pm, who knows where your phone will be at that time.  I have heard more that one horror story where a sub receives a compromising text when their significant other is there to see it pop up on the phone.  You may be the one in 50 clients that don’t have screen notifications turned on or that doesn’t care if a family member or co-worker see your texts, but I can’t be expected to know/remember that, so your texts will not be answered

No texting means No texting.

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