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FAQ #17 – Does BDSM play with urethral sounds hurt?

SoundsUrethral sounds are actually medical devices designed to stretch the urethra, primarily to remove obstructions or allow for the passing of kidney stones. Not very sexy, huh? Well, they can be. I have no idea who or when the first person was to decide, hey, this could be a kinky thing to do, but someone did and many find the process pleasurable. As a Dominant, the idea of violating that specific hole is a turn on. A power trip. As a bottom or sub, you either like the way it feels or you don’t. Many men find it very erotic and many have described the feeling as “being fucked from the inside”. Some say the sensation is similar to masturbation, only more intense. Others find it uncomfortable and unpleasant. It just depends on the individual.

Part of the thrill of sounds for a sub is the absolute power exchange. How more out of control can you be than to be tied down and made to watch a Dominatrix insert a steel stick into your cock? For some it is the ultimate CBT.   For others it is purely erotic. It is common to hear that the first orgasm after sounding is explosive and particularly intense. With today’s devices made specifically for BDSM play, there is something for almost everyone. The standard medical sounds themselves come in several different shapes and achieve different sensations. In addition there are silicone sounds which are flexible, vibrating sounds and even electrified sounds.

Sounds play is not for beginners and before playing with a Dominant, make sure they know their business. If done improperly, there is risk of irritation or tearing of the urethral lining. Scar tissue may be encountered that may cause discomfort or bleeding – although usually not serious, this can be alarming. There is also risk of infection if the sounds are not properly sanitized or if unsafe practices are used that allow contamination. Sounds play can be great fun for both the Domme and the sub, but it is a type of play where experience matters.

FAQ #8 – What is cuckolding fantasy?

Mistress Ayn Cuckoldressyou may have seen Cuckolding listed as one of My interests and not fully known what it meant.  Well, here you go . . .

Traditionally cuckold has been a derogatory term for a man with an adulterous wife.  Today the term cuck and cuckolding take on new life in the fetish community.  Cuckolding fetish is a consensual act that involves the female half of a couple taking a lover with the knowledge of her partner.  In a symbiotic way, all parties derive sexual pleasure from the experience.

Let’s look at the players:  The female, sometimes called the Hotwife or Cuckoldress, is physically attractive and in theory can attract any lover she chooses.  She may be sexually insatiable.  The chosen lover (aka the bull) often exhibits physical traits that are used to intimidate the cuck (the male that is being “cheated on”).  For instance, the bull usually has a much larger cock.  He may also be in better physical shape and/or younger than the cuck.  Conversely the bull is usually depicted as being from a lower socio-economic background, have a lesser job (i.e. the pool boy) and in general have a lower social standing than the cuck.  This often adds to the cuck’s humiliation.  In addition, the cuck and the Cuckoldress may get off on her objectifying the bull.

Is this a turn on?  For many people, YES.  Why cuckolding is becoming so popular in modern culture is stirring lots of debate – but for Me the appeal is quite simple.  As a Dominatrix I see cuckolding as just another form of masochism.  It is also the perfect venue for the Female Dominant to exercise Her control over Her two males at the same time.

In session, I use cuckolding fantasy to mentally mindfuck a willing submissive.  I may tell him how inadequate he is as a lover and that I can only be satisfied by a much larger cock.  I need to be touched in places he can’t go.  I may tell him I need a lover that can last for hours and keep up with My voracious sexual appetite – which, as an inferior male,  he obviously can’t.  I may also tell the submissive that he will be required to prepare Me for My lover, “fluff” My lover and clean up both of us after the act.   Mmmm, I get excited just writing about it.  Now where did I leave My bull? . . .

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