First of all, there is a big difference in erotic humiliation and ordinary humiliation. In BDSM we use erotic humiliation to press a subs buttons and the end effect is to make them feel naughty and aroused. Calling someone, fat, stupid, old, etc, is usually not part of erotic humiliation and won’t elicit the desired effect.
Each person is unique and I recommend that humiliation be used gingerly with a new play partner. One person’s turn on is another’s turn off and humiliation scenes, like all other scenes should be well negotiated. Some men are very turned on when a Female Dominant pronounces their penis too small for proper sex with a woman – and their little peckers get rock hard at the idea of being evaluated and judged in this way. For others, it’s a buzz kill, so it’s important to know what turns your sub on and what areas are off limits.
Examples of humiliation used in Domme/sub sessions are:
- Verbal humiliation – name calling, beratement, racial slurs, mockery, etc.
- Forced feminization – as simple as being made to wear panties to full female transformations
- Animal play – forced to wear a leash, drink from a dog bowl, etc.
- Public display – embarrassing public acts or displays
- Cum eating
- Ass worship / foot worship – some see this as a reward, others feel degraded by it
- Cuckolding – combination of verbal insults about manhood and degrading acts
- Objectification – treated as unimportant – being used as a foot stool, as an example
- Forced masturbation/orgasm
- Enemas
- Spanking – yes, for some getting a simple spanking is humiliating
As you can see from this non-exhaustive list, erotic humiliation is a very diverse and personalized form of play. Humiliation can push buttons psychologically that send a sub deeper into subspace or send them reeling in raw emotion, so know your sub well, make sure safe words are in place and pay very close attention to your subs reactions to everything you hurl at them.
