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Let’s make 2024 the year of the submissive

Monday, 01 January 2024 13:19
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Let’s shake things up a bit this year. I did that last year with a move to Europe and it’s only been positive.  This year is your year to make some changes and get out of your rut.  I suggest you embrace your submissive/feminine side and see just how good a submissive you can be.  Submission may just set you free.

If you have gotten out of the habit of seeing a Domme in real life, I can help with that.  Let’s start with some distance training and then I will send you to a reputable Domme I trust – if I can’t see you Myself.

If you have gotten into an indulgent cycle with anything from food to masturbation, I can help with that too.  Dommie knows best and I can create a task or chastity program that can get you on the right track – or else.

Has a lack of Female leadership left you feeling out of sorts?  Then submit, serve, learn and be tested – and yes, we can do much of this from a distance.

So let 2024 be the year of the submissive.  Contact Me direct about any questions or logistics – ayn@mistressayn.com.  Or do some investigating here.

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FemDom Summit in Bucharest 2023

Wednesday, 26 April 2023 13:36
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Over the years I have attended a number of FemDom events and had really lost My taste for them.  The posturing, the egos, the elaborate costuming . . .  after a while it lost its appeal.  But when I heard Mistress Ezada Sinn was hosting a summit specifically for collaboration and networking for Professional Dominatrices, and it was just down the road in Bucharest, I had to attend.

Thoughts:

  1.  Because the event focused on networking, it made the attendance manageable (compared to typical conventions).  This kept things from becoming cliquish and enabled everyone to get to know each other.  At most big events you end up running with the same crew you came with, or people you already know, sticking with the comfort of what is familiar.  I saw people purposefully choose to sit with groups they did not know, just for the experience.
  2. There were “Women only” segments, which I enjoyed the most.  Without you pesky subs under foot, We Ladies had some real opportunities to chat and collaborate without interruptions and were able to speak freely about the business of domination.  We were still served well – the Ladies of the House of Sinn had boys standing in the wings to run and fetch when needed.
  3. The pacing was perfect.  At most big events I end up missing things I want to do:  One thing goes late into the night (or I just played late into the night) and then I miss something at 10am that I really wanted to see or participate in.  That was not an issue at the summit. I even had time to slip in some spa time.
  4. The people were fabulous.  It started with our Host, Ezada Sinn.  Ezada is such a real and genuine person that she put everyone at ease and made newer Dommes, as well as seasoned Pros, feel at home and respected.  That can be a hard thing to do, especially as a well known personality.  By putting everyone at ease, it made it easier for everyone to approach everyone else, ask questions that you might not otherwise ask and make real connections.

I appreciate how much planning and behind the scenes work goes into making an event successful.  I told one of My subs that I looked at it like a FemDom Mansion event times 10 – so I totally respect the work that no one sees.  That is where Mistress Kennya came in.  Mistress Ezada may have been the face of the event, but Mistress Kennya was the primary organizer.  In My experience, organizing a FemDom event is akin to herding cats, so My hat is both of these Ladies for putting together an event that everyone wants to see repeated next year.

Would I attend again next year?  Absolutely.  My only fear is that so will everyone else!  I have told many of My colleagues about it and I want the summit to be successful going forward, but it would be nice if the same small group closeness can be accomplished with a bigger crowd.  If anyone can pull it off I am sure these Ladies can.

Links:
FemDom Summit
Mistress Kennya
Ezada Sinn

Twitter:
@FemdomSummit
@House_of_Sinn_
@Mistress_Ezada
@KennyaMistress

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Ezada Sinn
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Honest Review of the Hush Bluetooth Butt Plug by Lovense

Sunday, 19 June 2022 14:29
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Five years ago I reviewed the Hush remote butt plug favorably – My opinion has changed.

See it here on YouTube.  Or here on Loyal Fans and Only Fans.

Paraphilias vs Fetishes – what is the difference?

Sunday, 20 February 2022 19:44
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Is a shoe fetish a paraphilia? Are all paraphilias fetishes? What is a paraphilia anyway? We discuss it all in this short but informative Kink 101 clip.

 

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Interview with Simone Justice on the ethics of BDSM public play

Monday, 10 January 2022 18:17
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Just before Dom Con New Orleans in 2019, Simone Justice asked if She could interview Me regarding My thoughts on public play.  She was preparing to lead a DomCon Parade down Bourbon Street and the topic of public play, consent and ethics came up.  I don’t think this interview was ever published so I thought I would post it here.

SJ: What is your opinion as to the limits of public play?

MA: I love public play, but it means different things to different people. Some people think the simple act of wearing a visible collar is public play. Others don’t consider play to be public unless it’s more of a scene. It’s important to understand the limits of the person you are playing with in each situation. My only real limit to what I will do in public has to do with the respect of people that could view the play. I don’t like to involve people that haven’t consented and might find what I do with a submissive offensive.

SM: What do you do with your own clients in public?

MA: I have done all kinds of discreet and indiscreet public play. I’ve had shoe fetishists put shoes on me in a shoe store. I’ve taken sissies to have bra fittings at lingerie stores, mani/pedis, in store makeover, etc. I’ve wired subs up with electro or remote plugs and stimulated them in public with no one the wiser. I’ve also done full blown scenes in kink friendly venues.

SJ: What would you never do in public with a client?

MA: I would never do anything that was offensive to on lookers. I’ve outgrown the need for shock value. If I am going to do something with a sub that might offend a shop employee, I call ahead first and clue them in. It’s amazing how often people are good sports and will play into your scene if you just give them the respect of letting them know what is going on. Anything done in front of children that would require an explanation from parents is definitely off limits.

SJ:  How did you develop your rules of what you will do in public?

MA:  Experience. It just evolved over time. I’ve learned the most from listening to my subs and what their concerns are and I understand that everyone’s limits are different.

SJ: Have your limits changed over the years?

MA: Absolutely. I used to have little regard for the “vanillas”. When I was less mature as Domme I found it fun to shock the public. Now I just see it as disrespectful to those not a part of the scene and disrespectful to the concept of BDSM in general.

SJ: Anything else you would like to say about The Ethics of Public Play?

MA: There are tons of opportunities to play in public if you handle it correctly. Consider your surroundings and act accordingly. A venue like Bourbon Street is very different from the neighborhood mall on Saturday. For many subs it is about the idea that things are happening to them in public whether anyone else is aware of it or not. Don’t push the envelope so far that you end up giving BDSM a bad name. BDSM is about consent. Everyone’s consent. Not just you and your play partner.

 

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