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Perfect Self-administered Ruined Orgasm

 

The Submissive Male’s Guide to the Perfect Self-administered Ruined Orgasm

A ruined orgasm for a submissive male is one of the most intensely pleasurable, toe-curling, sweat-inducing, back-arching, fist-clenching, teeth-gnashing, brain-bending endeavors a submissive male can experience to drive him into an animal sexual frenzy.  One of the biggest misconceptions about ruined orgasms comes from the word “ruined.”  It sounds like torture or something a submissive male might do to himself only for punishment.  But, it could be a way to experience ecstasy, delight and have one of the biggest and best orgasms he has ever had in his entire life.

The name is misleading in that a properly ruined orgasm is STILL an orgasm!  Yet, it does feel profoundly different to the submissive male, but it still feels great, yet in a different way than a normal orgasm.  The perfect ruined orgasm is a special kind of climax, achieved in a very specific way that triggers a different sequence of physical, emotional, and hormonal reactions in the submissive male’s body.  To a male accustomed to and expecting normal orgasms, the sudden surprise of new and different sensations might be confusing in his hyper-aroused brain by causing unexpected disappointment. The submissive male is expecting one thing – a powerful climax, but at the last second, he gets something different.  A ruined orgasm does not tell the submissive male’s brain to release any of the hormones associated with the post-orgasmic “afterglow,” such as prolactin and oxytocin. Dopamine levels remain elevated throughout the body. Instead of feeling sluggish and exhausted after an orgasm, the submissive male remains aroused and sexually frustrated after ruining the orgasm.   Rarely would a male ruin his own orgasm, but a submissive male, under the strict control or directions of a Mistress, different sensations and motivations occur.

There are a few important things that enable a submissive male to have a “perfect” (or as close to that as possible) ruined orgasm.

First, often associated with the perfect ruined orgasm is extended pleasure.   One possible path for the submissive male to take is to perform, possibly at the direction of a Mistress, repeated (four to six consecutive days), prolonged (from 15 to 30 minutes) stop-and-start stimulation.  This is commonly known as edging.  This seems to charge up the submissive male and his cock to a higher sensitivity and definitely a greater yearning for an orgasm, any orgasm.

Second, unlike a normal orgasm, with a ruined orgasm all stimulation stops as the ejaculation begins to build.  And this is the tricky part, the stroking of the cock toward an orgasmic explosion needs to terminate at a critical moment.  If you wait until the sperms starts its path through the urethra, it’s too late.  Stopping at the height of the build up but before you teeter over that edge is critical and this is where many would be “ruiners” fail, by stroking too long, either out of ignorance or lack of control.

To achieve a “perfect” ruined orgasm, keen attention must be given to the signals from the submissive male’s body, particularly as his stroking leads to what could be “THE” climactic end to the edging, but making sure to stop the stroking before the climax actually occurrs.  There is a critical point when more stroking would achieve orgasm.  It takes all of the submissive male’s willpower and desire to please his Mistress to submit and follow Her orders – when a ruined orgasm only is permitted.

The submissive male needs to train himself to give himself a perfect ruined orgasm.  He needs to know his body very, very well.  He needs to study his specific sequence of escalating physical pleasure signals, to identify the first possible moment in the sequence where he can let go and cause himself to still cascade through climax.  Arched back, tensed muscles, grunts, whimpers, pulsing cock, retracted balls–every submissive male has his signals.  Leaking pre-cum is an excellent signal for the submissive male to become aware of if hoping to achieve a ruined orgasm.  Instead of letting go “at the last second,” the submissive male actually wants to let go as early as possible.  He needs to hang, untouched, on the verge of climax, for as long as physically possible, before his body reflexively sends him over.  If done correctly, the perfect ruined orgasm results in his sperm to just dribble out, under weak contractions, if at all.  The submissive male should desire and seek to extend that “hangtime” just before ejaculation to be as long as possible.

Sadly, but understandable, the submissive male typically misjudges his own point-of-no-return.  It is probably long before he says it is.  The problem is he is in a mindless pleasure-trance when stroking toward orgasm.  The submissive male is not the most reliable person at that point but needs to train himself to become more sensitive and attentive to achieve the perfect self-administered ruined orgasm.

Ample loads of sperm may be released from the submissive male’s cock during a ruined orgasm, especially if not allowed to orgasm for an extended time, but not with the intensity of a normal orgasm.  If successful, the male’s sperm is only released through a dribbling out of the cock (not a powerful spurting like a normal orgasm) or by “forcing” the sperm out by firmly but gently squeezing the cock by forming a circle with his thumb and forefinger and running his two fingers from the base of his cock to the tip in a milking action.

Why is a ruined orgasm so special?  In a normal orgasm, the male hits his peak of pleasure, then comes crashing down in a wonderful, violent torrent of release, followed by an involuntary rest-and-recharge time called the “refractory period.”  He feels a warm, satisfying wash of hormones.  Then his cock goes limp and his entire body instinctively commands him to rest and recover.

In a ruined orgasm, the submissive male hits his peak of pleasure, tips just barely over the edge, but the violent crash is not triggered.  It is not triggered because the expected physical stimulation is absent.  Weak muscle contractions struggle to squeeze the cum from his body.  He feels an electric tremor throughout his body, distinctly different from the warm wash of a normal orgasm.  Importantly, the sense of satisfaction never triggers.  The submissive male had an orgasm and he unloaded some cum, but he feels “unfinished.”  Despite having released his load, the submissive male is exceptionally horny and frustrated, not exhausted and satisfied as with a normal orgasm, and is likely still erect.  While his balls are drained, he did not have the sensation of having an orgasm.

 

There may be many reasons why a submissive male would attempt to have the “perfect ruined orgasm.”

Some submissive males are turned on with this kind of play – the control exerted by a Mistress, the using of his cock for Her pleasure and not his, and the continued sexual frustration which does not occur after a normal orgasm.  The male remains as before the ruined orgasm, hanging on his Mistress’s every command, ready and willing to obey Her.

A ruined orgasm is different and something a male would not choose on his own.  As a submissive, the male relinquishes all control to his Mistress, She makes the decisions and orders him to do something that he likely would not have initiated.  A Mistress might allow Her submissive male the pleasure of a normal orgasm or may decide to have him endure a ruined orgasm – it is completely under Her control.

A ruined orgasm causes the submissive male to focus on pleasing his Mistress, not achieving his own pleasure.  As a true submissive, the male’s thoughts and actions should be about his Mistress, not himself.

Masturbation, something a male may do all too frequently before becoming submissive to his Mistress, would allow him total control – when to start, how long to stroke, when to finish, and how to finish.  The ruined orgasm is the quintessential giving up of control and trusting in his Mistress to make all of the decisions, especially on how to finish the stroking session.

Finally, prolonged chastity without any release can be problematic for a submissive male’s health.  A Mistress should be sensitive to that and a ruined orgasm serves to provide the submissive male with the medical benefits of draining his balls, while not providing him with the pleasure associated with a normal orgasm.  Like milking the prostate, the ruined orgasm is beneficial for the submissive male’s health.

Researched and written by slaveboy.  Assisted by sissy jennifer.

Ruined Orgasm - Mistress Ayn

 

Trials and Tribulations of a chastity slave – Installment #24

Installment #24 – Indefinite Chasity – May Be the Harshest Chastity Sentence of All – by slaveboy

From my investigations, chastity sentences take on many different forms and release from chastity is widely variant.  Some subs earn release if they beg their Mistress sufficiently; others gain release if the sub performs specific tasks to an established level of performance.  Others chastity subs are on a pre-determined scheduled for releases.  Finally, some subs are in chastity forever.

The chastity forever may seem to be the harshest chastity sentence but i suggest that indefinite chastity may be even more difficult to endure for the sub.  Mistress Ayn desires indefinite chastity and i have pledged my commitment to being in chastity indefinitely.

Each morning i awake to the feel of my pink, hard plastic, Holy Trainer chastity cage around Mistress Ayn’s cock and balls, for She owes them.  i wonder immediately – is today the day Mistress Ayn will order me to remove the cage for edging, or a ruined orgasm, or an orgasm?  The latter occurs only very rarely.  But, most importantly, it is the not knowing that has the most impact on me and reminds me of Her total control over me as Her slaveboy – physically, psychologically, and sexually.

Subs in chastity forever know that they will never be released or orgasm outside their cage.  i simply do not know for certain.  Today may be the day that Mistress Ayn rewards me with release and orgasm or today may be another day where She rewards me with continuing to be Her chastity slave.  The uncertainty means Mistress Ayn is completely in control of Her cock and balls, Her chastity cage, and Her slave’s releases.

Indefinite chastity is the harshest of the chastity sentences and, honestly, i am delighted that this is what my Mistress, my Keyholder, desires to please Her the most.  i remain in chastity, indefinitely, in service to Mistress Ayn.

Mistress Ayn has customized chastity programs for the short term fetishist to the serious chastity submissive.

Remote Keyholding and Online Chastity Programs

Chastity Keyholding for serious submission

In order for Me to be your keyholder you must be serious about being in chastity and be willing to give up control of your orgasms for a negotiated period of time.  If you are looking for someone to lock you up so you can then beg for release in a few hours or days, that is chastity fetish play, and this program is not for you.

Chastity Keyholder

Chastity Key Holding programs:

Basic key holding – $150 per month

Limited interaction.  One ordered orgasm per month.

 

Intermediate key holding –  $300 per month

Interaction every 10 days with specific instructions when unlocked.  Membership to My Fan Page on LoyalFans, that includes unlimited videos and other media  Exposure on social media (if negotiated).  One supervised orgasm or edging session via webcam per month.

 

Advanced key holding – $500 per month

More frequent communication. Weekly tasks, random checks, tease and denial, supervised orgasms or edging.  Membership to My Fan Page.  Exposure on social media (if negotiated).  Three webcam sessions/check-ins per month.

 

What you will need:

  • Chastity device – I will advise if you don’t already have one
  • Numbered plastic locks (if you don’t have a key safe)
  • Key safe
  • Suggested toys:  Hitachi magic wand or similar, butt plug set, dildo, prostate massager, etc.

I take chastity seriously.  Giving control of your orgasm to another is the ultimate act of submission and can be life changing for those that experience it correctly.  Chastity can re-focus your energies and clear your mind, make you feel connected to the female id, enable better orgasms (when you are allowed to have them) and potentially raise your self esteem.

All programs require a minimum commitment of one month.

FAQ

Q:  Will I be able to have an orgasm?

A:  Yes.  I think it is necessary that the male have a least one orgasm per month and I require that as a minimum.

 

Q:  If I need to get out of My cage temporarily for travel, doctors appointments, etc. is this allowed?

A:  Yes, under strict guidelines.

 

Q:  If I decide chastity is not for Me can I cancel?

A:  Yes, but you will not be accepted back into one of My chastity programs and no money will be refunded.  If you quit, it’s final.

 

Q:  I don’t currently have a device.  Will you help Me choose one?

A:  Yes.

 

Q:  Can I have you be my keyholder and have it culminate in an in person session?

A:  Yes, but if the time frame is short term, chastity fetish play may be more appropriate.

To inquire about being accepted into My chastity keyholder program, email Me via Contact the Mistress page of My website.

 

 

 

FAQ #33: What is chastity fetish play?

virtual chastityThere is serious chastity and there is play chastity.  Chastity fetish play is just that, play.  If you are looking for someone to control your orgasms on a short term basis to make you excited, enhance your libido and then listen to you beg – then short term chastity fetish play is for you.

I often use this type of orgasm control prior to a session.  A submissive locks up a few days (to a few weeks) prior to serving Me in person.  I tease him and deny him by making him look at photos or videos of Me, unable to touch, and he soon becomes desperate to do as I command.   It keeps the sub focused on his upcoming service and puts him in a proper state of mind starting well ahead of the session.

For this type of chastity, you don’t need an expensive device.  This can even be done with “virtual chastity” where no device is used, you are just on the honor system.  With all chastity, if you cheat, you are just cheating yourself.

To add some chastity play to an upcoming session or engage in some short term play online, send Me an email at ayn@mistressayn.com to inquire.  If you are interested in serious chastity with a key holder, I provide that service too.

Trials and tribulations of a chastity slave – Installment #24

Installment #24 – My first overnight Hush training session  – by slaveboy jaime

The Hush is a vibrating anal plug that offers control at both close range and long distance.  This means that Mistress Ayn can order me to insert the Hush and play in the privacy of Her FemDom Mansion but also to take control when She is 700 miles away.  She can create patterns or order me to access established patterns of vibration at varying speed.  A few initial sessions showed me that the Hush was a safe, exhilarating, and addictive anal play toy.

The use of the Hush took a dramatic step forward when Mistress Ayn ordered me to insert the Hush late one night and then go to bed with my phone nearby.  She was able – at Her complete discretion – to access control of the Hush.  She decided when She would engage the Hush, what patterns would play, how long the patterns would play, and could exchange text messages with me during the play.

After i had drifted off to sleep for about an hour, i felt the pulsating Hush in my ass, now controlled by Mistress Ayn, awaking me to a completely new sensation.  Off and on for over an hour, Mistress Ayn would initiate and then stop different vibration patterns.  i never knew when She would start up a new pattern or how long She would allow a pattern to run.  i did not know when this early morning (starting around 1:30 am) would end or if it would ever end – the Hush has a long-lasting battery.

Besides the powerful physical sensations, having Mistress Ayn take control of my life through anal play was an awakening emotionally.  She controlled what i felt, the length of the stimulation and the type of stimulation.  i was reduced to simply reacting to Her sadistic whims, which i treasure and adore as Her slaveboy.

Step by step, in my life as Her slaveboy, Mistress Ayn has taken more intense control of me: initially by placing me in indefinite chastity, then ordering me to wear panties 24/7, then having my nipples pierced while visiting Her one day in Atlanta, and now by invading me through my ass and dictating the level of pleasure and discomfort in the middle of the night.

The rush of Her forceful control and my unlimited submissiveness was intense that first night of Hush play and had me eagerly awaiting if Mistress Ayn would continue this play the next night – She did not – or the following week.  Thus, i was forced to wait, only available to respond, never dictate or control.  i am addicted to being Her slaveboy and now that means being available to Her at any time overnight and submit to Her playful torture using the Hush.

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