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Ruined Orgasms

Wednesday, 19 October 2016 16:51
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I’ve been a bit fascinated with ruined orgasms lately. Probably because I have been seeing two long term chastity slaves. Neither of them are able to be successfully milked, so I suggested to their key holders that ruined orgasms might be a viable option.

On a recent visit one of the subs confided in Me that as much as he enjoys getting his release when his wife eventually allows it, he then struggles with a diminishment of his sissy submissiveness – which he loves and strives for daily. I know that she occasionally gives him a ruined orgasm, so I asked him if he felt the same way when the orgasm was ruined. His initial response was that he did NOT feel a diminishment in submission – or at least not as much of one, but wants to monitor this and report back to Me. Of course, I have asked his wife to only allow ruined orgasms for a while, so I can get read on this.

Recently I read something about female ruined orgasms (yes, we can have them) and it was stated that we don’t get the same rush of dopamine with a ruined orgasm, so we don’t feel as satisfied and will often seek to immediately have another. I am guessing it is the same for the male physiology. I have noticed in longer sessions that after a ruined orgasm, the sub can usually recover and orgasm again relatively quickly.

Primary ways to ruin an orgasm:

  • Remove all stimulation as soon as the first signs of ejaculation start
  • Stop the flow – by squeezing the base or plugging the hole (this is usually a bit painful)
  • Create discomfort that short circuits the orgasm – a sharp slap to the balls or an increase in electrical current are good examples

The last two options are personal favorites of Mine.  I particularly like adding electro when using the Venus 2000 (the ultimate tease machine).  When the sub gets close, I alternate between turning the machine off and turning up the electro.  One way or the other, eventually that orgasms is going to get ruined.  Post orgasm CBT is also a favorite of Mine, but that is fodder for another article.

I even had some fun in clips lately with ruining orgasms.

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This clip is available on Clips4Sale and AynRules.com.

I started a discussion about ruined orgasms on Domina.ms’s forum, The Buzz.  If you wish to view or participate in this discussion, visit The Buzz.  I would love to hear your thoughts and even answer your questions.

 

Leather, Breathplay and the Venus 2000 – A Review on The Buzz

Wednesday, 24 August 2016 22:26
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IMG_0983_2I often meet new and interesting subs when I travel and sometimes those subs think enough of our time together to plan a trip to Atlanta to see Me at Atlanta Dungeon.  I’ve been playing with the author of this review for a couple of year on My visits to Washington, DC and this year he has traveled to Atlanta twice so we could play.  He loves heavy bondage and the Dungeon has all the right stuff to keep him where he belongs – helpless.

These are excerpts from the review posted on The Buzz.

“She has such a combination of voice, looks, and language that gets me into subspace almost instantly. Just being in her presence makes me feel happy, safe and ready to try my best to please her.  This session was no different. . .

Now nipple play I love but have never been a big fan of having my balls hit. However, because of our connection I found myself thrusting out my pelvis to give her a better target. When she says “Take it for me” I want nothing more than to meet her desires to the maximum of my ability . . .

The next step was a heavy metal clamp added to my manhood to increase the pressure. She then moved me to her bondage chair and added weights to the clamp to make the CBB even better. She then put on the most lovely leather gloves which is a real hot button for me. She teased various parts of me with her gloves and drove me insane. By the time she was done I was emotionally spent and thinking I couldn’t give much more than I already had and we still had some 2 hours of time to go together. Mistress Ayn got me out of the chair and then let me get back to earth with some lovely worship of her leather boot, gloves and skirt. This was very calming and let me gather my emotions for the next step.

She then spent time prepping me for a great pounding . . .  I was now ready but she said she wanted to look me in the eye while she pounded me so I was moved to her sling. After her prep work there was no problem getting deep and making me her clear and drooling bitch . . .

She had me put on a gasmask with rebreather bags that could be used for breath control. I was then tied to her bondage bed and she broke out the Venus 2000 . . .  Mistress Ayn is an absolute master at the use of the Venus to extract the most explosive finish to any scene. Her expert use of the dials led to teasing and edging while controlling my air with the mask. Over and over I thought this was the end but she would stretch it out again. It was the most fantastic ride that finally ended in the most intense whole body explosion I have ever known:)

So in conclusion I heartily endorse both Mistress Ayn and Atlanta Dungeon. If you and her are compatible you will have a fantastic time together. And the dungeon while actually in a major US city is remarkably secluded with free on site parking that makes the logistical part of the session very easy. I know I can’t wait until her next trip here to DC or my next trip to Atlanta:)”

To read the full review visit The Buzz.

A couple celebrates with a Triple Dominatrix session

Monday, 11 April 2016 20:50
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Couples’ sessions are among My favorites.  About 3 years ago I saw this couple for the first time.  The Female (we will call her “A”) was just beginning to cut her Domme teeth on her husband.  She had attitude in spades, she just needed to flesh out her talent.  Well, in the passing years, she has done exactly that.  Every time I see them, she gets better and better at dominating her slave husband.  She uses chastity, corporal punishment, electrical and good old mind fuckery to keep him in line.

Recently she contacted Me wanting to set up a special session to celebrate her husband’s birthday.  She wanted a Triple Domination Session – with Me, another Mistress (we chose Goddess Samantha) and herself.  Boy, was he in for it.  We discussed the details ahead of time – including that she would let her husband have an orgasm, but it was important that it be ruined.  I was very excited about this session – and now you can read all about it in her review on TER.

This review can be read in its entirety on The Erotic Review.  Log in required.

“My slave husband and I had been active in the BDSM lifestyle for a while now.  This is about the 3rd time we have had sessions with Mistress Ayn and the first time with Goddess Samantha.  I felt it would be a great birthday present for my slave to serve other mistresses besides me, and to also allow himself to be tortured and punished by other mistresses so we can all have a great time together.  Prior to our visit with these two wonderful mistresses,  my slave was locked up and hadn’t had an orgasm for a week.  In fact, he hadn’t had a real orgasm in over two months – each release had been ruined.  So psychologically, he has been mindfucked for a while now.

My slave was very excited to be controlled by 3 mistresses.  By the end of the session, I can safely say he enjoyed himself but not without consequences of a severely marked ass that would leave him bruised for 2 weeks.   Both Mistress Ayn and Samantha Goddess were delightful to work with – don’t let their Southern charm fool you!

We started the session on the St. Andrew’s cross by taking turns torturing his balls and his cock.  His balls were so sensitive after having not cum for a week that it hurt like hell.  Next activity was by far my favorite – off to the spanking bench he went.  Oh, there wasn’t only spanking involved.  Cock sucking and ass-fucking by all three of us were on the menu.  He learned to deep throat all of our big cocks and while deep-throating our cocks, one of us was always at the other end, fucking him in the ass.  He was getting it at both ends and it was a time to be had for all the mistresses.   Mistress Ayn punished him with many strokes of the cane, with the swift flick of her wrists, breaking skin on his smooth white ass.  On the other hand, Goddess Samantha, an avid workout gal, laid it on him with hard swings of the Delrin cane, dealing bruises that would stay for a while. Me? I took a few swings myself but just looked on and enjoyed the sight silently. and allowed the other mistresses to take swags at his ass.

We moved on to the finale of the session – electro torture.  We hooked his cock and balls and ass up with electro stimulation just for kicks and jolted his sensitive areas to create a heightened sense of satisfaction.   After we’ve had enough torture, we all agreed that he had been a good and obedient slave and we had played enough for the day.  Mistress Ayn teased his poor little cock with a Hitachi vib and right before he climaxed, his head was squeezed so hard at the height of his orgasm, that it was absolutely ruined. Cum spurted out violently, however the sensation was nothing but a dull letdown.  I had promised him he would be allowed to cum but I did not tell him how he could cum. So there he was, mindfucked again.

I encourage married couples to explore the possibility of BDSM in their relationship.  It brings creativity, excitement, mystery and sensuality to a marriage.  It never hurts to ask your spouse if they are open to the idea.   I was very reluctant initially in my marriage to try this crazy idea that my slave suggested to me.  It wasn’t until the last 10 years of our marriage that I was willing to give it a shot.  With each passing year, I get more in control, and my slave, more subservient.  Our marriage has never been better.  We are happily married for soon-to-be 17 years.”

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Two days of FemDom – A new review on Max Fisch

Thursday, 24 March 2016 21:49
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Mistress AynThe following is an excerpt from a review on Max Fisch:

“Because of the distance I had to travel, I requested a two day session of 4 & 5 hours a day. We agreed on the days and time to meet. After two wonderful sessions, all I can say is the bar has been re-raised to a level that few, if anyone else could ever measure up to. 

Mistress Ayn replied and asked me to be in chastity when I arrive at the Dungeon. She was dressed in a corset that I had sent ahead as a thank you gift, and thigh high boots. She looked just beautiful. I presented Mistress Ayn with a few gifts and the key to the chastity device. I was instructed to change out of my clothes and report back to her in the Dungeon, which by the way is incredibly well appointed with fantastic gear and furniture. 

We established our “safe words” and got started. I am not the kind to give detailed reports of everything that took place. I like that to be a private matter between my Mistress and I. I will say, I wanted my limits tested and they were. I discovered that I am a “Slut” (Mistress Ayn’s words) for Pain, Electrics, Corporal and anything else She threw at me, including her Strap On (another first for me). I loved every minute of all of it. 

Mistress Ayn has a way and a presence, with her occasional soft touch, soft words, and encouragement that just puts you in a state of mind I can’t explain, but leaves you grateful for the experience. Wow!! The end of our first day, I was placed back in chastity and was to remain as such until our next meeting later the following day. Of course Mistress Ayn kept the key. 

That night, while sleeping the device popped off. OUCH!! I emailed Mistress Ayn the next morning and explained what happened. She replied” it happens sometimes” and seemed OK with that. After I arrived at the Dungeon, I was told to disrobe and we immediately got to business. Not a word was ever said about it again. Well without the protection of the chastity device, my little buddy and his two pals were fair game. Needless to say they got roughed up a bit which I found out later, via social media, was my punishment for not remaining in chastity. 

If you haven’t already guessed, I had the absolute best time of my life. Finding Mistress Ayn is like finding the needle in the haystack. I’m sure you would agree and I plan many more visits.” 

To read the full review, visit Max Fisch.

The Nurse Next Door – Session review on TER

Sunday, 20 March 2016 21:29
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Mistress AynOnce again, a slut learns you should be careful what you ask for – I might make it real.

The fantasy:  Mother has caught you masturbating.  She doesn’t like the idea that her young man is doing such naughty things in his bed at night and sends you to see the sexy nurse that lives next door.  Maybe she can teach you how to control such urges.  You have lusted after your hot neighbor every since you hit puberty.  In fact she is what you think about while you are alone in bed at night . . . but this is no ordinary nurse and this is no ordinary appointment.

An excerpt from the review on The Erotic Review:

“Upon arrival Mistress Ayn was already in role and she delivered in a big way utilizing the entire 90 minutes to push my mind, and my physical. She began by doing a thorough inspection of my anatomy and quickly coming to the conclusion that my penis was too small to please a woman ever, so she would have to provide a castration and turn me into a girl. She said the size of my nipples and man breasts would make good tits, and that she would turn me into the perfect slut . . .

She had me in a gyno chair and soon she was lubing me up to take her penis. After inserting this into me she said she would need to prepare me for a large one and it would involve an enema. She produces the equipment and began to fill an enema bag with a large pitcher of warm water. After inserting the nozzle into my ass she slowly allowed the water to fill my cavity. It was a new experience of being completely full, and at one point gave me cramps, denying me the pleasure of emptying myself she repeated that not even in this regard was I able to make this simple decision but that all choices now belonged to her.

Mistress Ayn had me – I was hers completely for the duration of time, she was completely in charge and I would have done anything she said to do. She finally allowed me to sit on the toilet as she held my chin in her hands demanding I look deeply into her eyes and beg to release, which I did. She said look into my eyes and know that I own you as you release your enema into the toilet – and I did . . .

Afterwards more insertion of anal plugs, along with heavy use of nipple clamps that pushed me to the edge – but I never said “yellow” the code word for “it’s getting to the point I cannot continue”. Instead I took it as a form of pleasing her, and she rewarded me by telling me that the little cock, since it was of no use to anyone and I was of little value, would have to come off. She wrapped it with some kind of electrical device that was also attached to my balls and she began an incredible mind fuck that involved electrical stimulation of my penis and I eventually climaxed with her threatening that would be the last orgasm I would experience with a penis and she would castrate me when we were done (fantasy play but OMG I was believing it). What an incredible physical, physiological experience. Highly recommended but be careful what you ask for.”

For the full review visit The Erotic Review – log in required.

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