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FAQ #28 – How do I prepare for a BDSM FemDom session?

Subs often ask Me if there is anything in particular they should do to prepare for a session.  Usually their mind is wrapped around their genitals and thoughts of edging, looking at photos, etc. are in the forefront, but there is a practical side to preparing for sessions too.  Subs get excited and sometimes forget the common sense practicalities of preparation.  Below are some pointers for making sure your session goes well.

  • Hydrate well prior to your session.  When things go wrong physically in a session (lightheadedness, nausea, tiredness, etc.) it is usually from dehydration.  This is the number one cause of fainting in session.  If you are having a particularly heavy session or a session that lasts 90 minutes or more, take a bottle of water or a sports drink with you in session and don’t be shy to ask for a swallow.
  • Eat normally.  I know pre-session jitters can lead to an adrenaline rush that can cause you to lose your appetite prior to a session but failing to eat can cause the same nasty issues listed above.  Even if you aren’t hungry try to at least eat a light meal prior to your session.  Low blood sugar due to a lack of food can really be a buzz kill in session.
  • Practice proper hygiene.  This should go without saying but be sure you arrive clean and fresh.  If you are coming from work or a flight and feel sweaty, ask to take a quick shower.  If you are odiferous your Domme won’t want to get too close.  If you will be engaging in anal play, give yourself an enema approximately 2 hours prior if at all possible.  I know this will be TMI for some, but all subs should clean in that area by inserting a soapy finger in the shower until it comes back clean.  There is nothing worse than spanking a sub and when you turn him over your knee he smells like ass.  Take this advice.  Your Mistress will appreciate it.
  • No cologne, please.  I know you think your cologne smells sexy and manly – and it may, but it’s not appropriate to wear it in session. Particularly strong scents have given Me a headache or caused Me to sneeze.   There is also the issue of transference.  Strong scents can transfer on to Us and We end up smelling like you.  A busy Domme can go home smelling like a department store fragrance counter.  I don’t wear any perfume in session for these exact reasons.  Please reciprocate.
  • Manscape if possible.  I know this is not an option for everyone, but even trimming can be a help.  Having to navigate around a full bush of hair to perform CBT can be awkward and actually hurt you in a not so good way.  Trim the shrubbery if you can.

In addition to these points, follow any specific instructions your Mistress has, including being chaste, preforming edging exercises or whatever She desires.  We want to have a good time just like you do, so do yourself a favor and prepare accordingly.

Atlanta’s 1763 Dungeon closes

After 15 years, Atlanta’s only public BDSM Dungeon is closing its doors at the end of June.  If you have ever dreamed of being dominated by Me in a public, fetish friendly space this is your last chance.  April 28th is FemDom night and is one of their best-attended events.  If you are interested in booking time with Me then or any other Saturday before they close (they are only open on Saturdays), contact Me directly at ayn@mistressayn,.com  Two hour minimum booking required for public outings.

Feel free to send your husband to me.

Many of you are aware that I do a lot of work with couples and it makes Me seriously happy when I see couples enjoying the lifestyle.  On a recent trip to DC I got an interesting email:  a sub contacts Me saying he will be in DC on a business trip the same time I am there and his Wife/.Mistress has given him permission to book a session.  That got Me excited.  The idea of collaborating with his Wife and then executing a mutual plan was a treat and that’s exactly what We did.

This sub maintains a personal blog of his journey serving his Wife/Mistress and his experiences with chastity and he wrote about our session there for all the world to see.  I have copied his post below but you can find the entry and read other postings from him here.

a foreign hand, voice…

Preface: I approached my Goddess with a question –  [ would she mind If I sessioned with a pro-domme on a business trip? ] – after some quick thought and conversation her answer was , sure – go for it.  (this is not the first time she’s sent me to see a Domme.. but I think this is the first time she sent me without reservations or concerns that sometimes a relationship/marriage can have. – we’re both older now and I think more secure in our love and loyalties – the trust or understanding is deeper and so is the knowledge of BDSM )

what adds a specific layer of fun or suspense to this is the additional dimension of mental play.. such as the pro domme replying with “I look forward to plotting and planning with your wife.”
or after the session an email – “Hello Goddess.  I am sorry to report that I had an accident with your boy.  We were right near the end and I misjudged the stimulation and he had an unauthorized orgasm.  (Now I know what a slut he is for electro!) I do apologize for that.  It was not our plan nor my intention  I did make him recycle it and punished his balls afterward as a consolation to you. “
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So Prior to the session and the morning of the trip I was to put on my DickCage, a silicone cage that allows for TSA Travel..  – I was to bring an additional plastic lock “Just in case” the Pro Domme and my Goddess had decided to allow me out to play.. realistically slut training, CBT, etc.. could after all be done without chastity removal….
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Mistress Ayn was a seasoned professional, warm and welcoming but yet in control and centered you…
My session included some bondage, cbt, slut training, strap-on worship, sensory deprivation and electrics…  the T.E.N.S unit is what resulted in the accidental release and if it comes out it must go back in rule….  the accident happened at the last minute mark of the session, this was my fault.!!

 

I’m anxious to see what fall out there will be from the accident and I’m thankful to Mistress Ayn and Goddess Philotes for the effort that was spent.

“Simultaneously the worst and best experience I have had.” – New Review on Max Fisch

… and sometimes that is the way it is.  This sub and his Mistress/Wife have been seeing Me for several years.  This time She couldn’t make it, but wanted to do something special for his birthday – so She sent him to see Me and one of My Domme Sisters, Mistress Harley Quinn.  She has sent him to Me before for punishments (including a now infamous cock caning) but for this visit She had something different in mind.  The sub is kept in chastity a great deal of the time and She had been saving and freezing his cum from ruined orgasms.  When he arrived he has about a half cup of frozen cum.  Of course, the cup was empty when the session was complete.

Here is his review of the session.  It can also be viewed on Max Fisch.

“I was told to strip and of course got as hard as my chastity cage allowed. I had been denied for a long time by my Wife. Spoiler alert, the cage never came off during the entire session.

They started with me on a spiky stool where my caged balls and cock got to rest on massive spikes. As Ayn lectured me -Harley began torturing my nipples. This would be a theme throughout the session.

Ayn told me I could use a safe word for pain, but that I would be eating cum whether I wanted to or not. Then the ring gag was put in place to prevent any potential refusals to accept what was coming next.

Mistress Harley proceeded to feed me my own frozen cum – a little at a time – with a caviar spoon. I had no choice but to accept it, knowing also I needed to please my Wife and reward her hard work – my face revealing the entire time how much I hated it. The Mistresses were already enjoying and laughing at my predicament… they were just getting started.

They took me to the medical room where they placed me in stirrups and proceeded to tie my legs apart and secure me to the table with multiple leather straps. Harley continued to periodically make me eat my own cum, which got progressively harder with the gag. So the Mistresses struck a deal with me, they would remove it but the first time I didn’t open to accept my cum I would be punished.

Then the words “where is the power strip” were uttered. At that point I knew I was in big trouble. In short – with a minimum of lube – an electric probe was placed in my ass. My caged cock was straining as the current was turned up, while my asshole involuntarily contracted and relaxed as the probe forced its way in and out, electrifying my ass and prostate. As Ayn pulled out the Hitachi vibrator, I knew my cage wasn’t coming off today. About this time Harley fed me more of my cum and then continued to torture my nipples.

As Ayn vibrated the cage she also adjusted the electricity. I was in overload, I knew I wouldn’t hold out, but I didn’t know if they would send me home like this, tortured and denied or if I would have an accident (as they call it). Ayn repeatedly added and removed vibration to my cage – probing how she could best disappoint my needy caged cock – when the inevitable accident occurred. When almost 2 weeks of denial came spilling out, it was also caught and collected in the cup. There would be no more small spoons, I was told to guzzle it – and guzzle it I did as Harley served me. Gagging be damned, she made sure I drank every last bit of my spew while Ayn laughed and took photos and videos for my Mistress.

You’d think I had been humiliated enough, but I was then put over the spanking bench and secured in place. After all, it was my birthday, and I was due 40-something strokes of the cane – post-orgasm – which they reminded me was the worst way to receive the cane. I think they knew I had been through a lot. Maybe they took it a little easier on me, but they still made me count and alternated turns with the cane, circling me like sharks on the hunt. Ayn made sure Harley knew my Wife prefers a marked slave husband. And they didn’t disappoint her. The contrast between Harley’s caning and Ayn’s was interesting – Mistress Harley’s stroke was more whippy – like trying to slice me up – while Mistress Ayn seemed to deliver a much firmer stroke – she was obviously trying to tenderize me after the kill.

As we talked after the session, I told them this was simultaneously the worst and best experience I have had. I’m happy to have a supportive Wife who encourages her friends to push me further into submission as her slave husband. I look forward to the next time where my Mistress may once again join them.”

Sessions Resume December 26th.

I’m Back . . .

 

After a full month of rest, travel, family and fun I am itching to get back in the Dungeon. I will be available for sessions at Atlanta Dungeon again starting December 26th. My January schedule is already filling up, so if you want to beat the crush, book now and let’s bring in the New Year with a bang.

If we have not sessioned together before, an application is required.  For a full list of My interests and booking protocols, visit My Main Website at www.MistressAyn.com.

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