Category Archives: Miscellaneous Musings

Cuckold fantasy – making it real

Friday, 12 June 2020 19:29
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The concept of being cuckolded is quite common among men.  I hear it a lot in My industry – men fantasizing about their wives being with other men.  I agree it’s a hot fantasy but in practice I advise against it.   So much can go wrong that can end up tearing a couple apart, but it doesn’t mean you can’t safely enjoy the fantasy.  It just takes effort and imagination.

While doing some distance training with a couple it was revealed that the man had a long held cuckold fantasy and that the wife was resistant.  I gave them My stock advice to keep it in the fantasy realm but I also coached them on how to enjoy the fantasy.  Good fantasy fulfilment often involves at least a little mindfuckery and that’s exactly what we did.  The wife set up the fantasy by informing her husband that she had met someone online (they had been trolling cuckold forums/sites) that she wanted to meet in person.  She explained that she would feel better meeting this person out for a drink to break the ice and that she wanted to go alone so she wouldn’t feel inhibited.

She made her husband help her pick out her outfit and get dressed for the date, all the while telling him how excited she was to meet this guy. He asked her questions about him, she answered.  They made it real.

Once she got to the bar, she checked in as agreed and throughout the evening she sent her husband provocative texts, often leaving his texts unanswered, letting him stew.  She then announced that she was going to get into the car with the guy because the bar had gotten crowded and she wanted to get a look at his cock.  She later texted him a photo of an nicely endowed penis that was obviously taken on a cell phone in a car.  The husband started to doubt that this was just a fantasy . . .

This byplay continued for 3 hours while the husband got more and more aroused.  In addition to arousal he had feelings of jealousy and concern.  All of this is part of the cuckold game.

When she arrived home, she told him all the juicy details of her encounter including having impromptu sex in the guy’s car.  But now she was ready to fuck her husband and have him reclaim what was his.  He was to get the bedroom ready while she changed.  During this time, she rubbed some of her husband’s cum (saved from a previous scene) on her pussy.  When she stipped down for him, she instructed him to clean the other man’s cum from her pussy with his mouth.  The sex that followed was described as “amazing” by them both.

With some effort and roleplay you can make most any fantasy realistic and safe.  I debriefed them both via Skype after the scene and the wife (who had never quite “gotten” the fantasy) said she was extremely aroused during the scene.  Knowing that she was pulling her husbands strings was a power trip and then seeing how excited he was when she returned home made her excited too.  It was a win win.

A review of this couple’s online BDSM training including reference to this cuckolding scene can be found on The Buzz.

**Note:  My opinions are My own and may not be shared by others.  I do not hold Myself out as an expert on cuckolding but I do live a polyamorous lifestyle.  Along the way I have encountered other poly couples, swingers, cucks, hotwives, etc and My opinions about cuckolding come from those experiences.

Stealing time – Don’t be “that guy”.

Monday, 08 June 2020 17:28
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As a professional Dominant the only thing I have for sale is My time.  Unfortunately too many want to steal it.  By stealing I mean:

  • Calling to discuss your kinks, ask questions that are available on My website or just chat.  I charge for those types of calls and have a NiteFlirt account set up just for this purpose.  I stopped answering My phone because 9 out of 10 callers are there to attempt to steal.
  • Emailing and requesting an extended session (Dommes are going to be really nice to you if you dangle a 3-4 hour session in front of them, right?) in the future and then attempting to ask questions, exchange photos, etc. leading up to that session – which probably will never happen.  That’s an old trick and most of Us are wise to it.
  • Setting up a session and then wanting to call to discuss the session in advance.
  • Wanting to DM on Twitter, Fetlife, Facebook and other social media.

An experienced Domme can spot these tricks a mile away and it’s one reason deposits have become so prevalent.  If you want a professional’s time, pay for it.  If you want to discuss the session prior, fine.  I will charge you for the call and if you follow through with the session in a timely manner I will apply half the fee to the session.  Most of Us do paid phone sessions, email exchanges and such in addition to real time sessions.  Just ask.  Don’t be “that” guy.

COVID-19, sessions and safety.

Tuesday, 17 March 2020 18:40
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I am getting emails almost daily asking if I am still accepting sessions.  For now the answer is “yes”.  I am a relatively low volume Domme because My tribute is a little higher and My average session length is 2 hours, so I typically don’t see multiple subs per day – especially now.   Seeing a Domme is probably much safer than getting your haircut, going to the gym or even going to your grocery store.  The number of individuals using the facility daily is extremely small and our health consciousness and attention to detail is not something that we just adopted due to the virus.

Ironically a well kept Dungeon is one of the cleanest environments you can be in.  At Atlanta Dungeon our practice has always been to sterilize each piece of equipment after use and to disinfect all furniture you come in contact with during a session.  With COVID-19 our practices are even more strenuous and includes a wipe down of furniture both before and after your session along with disinfecting commonly touched surfaces like door knobs, faucet handles, etc. before and after each session.  Remember, our industry is used to protecting its clients from blood and fluid borne pathogens, so we always use hospital grade cleansers like CaviCide, Barbicide (dimethyl benzyl ammonium chloride), along with bleach and alcohol.

To help make sure I keep you and Myself safe, I am practicing “social distancing” outside of work.  I am no longer going to the gym, eating out or attending functions and am pretty much just staying home and going to the Dungeon as needed.  Obviously everyone has to make their own decisions when it comes to risks but I want My submissives to know that I have their safety as well as My own in the forefront of My mind.

We probably have some trying times ahead and a little stress relief will be needed by all.  If you don’t want or can’t do an in person session, I will be more accessible for phone and Skype sessions.

So if you need a little escape from the world ending, come and get your kink on.

Genuine black latex dress with metal spikes for sale – small/medium

Tuesday, 18 February 2020 23:10
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I have been cleaning out My closet and have finally found something I can bear to part with.  This beautiful couture latex dress from HMSlatex of Paris needs a new home with a dominant woman that will appreciate it.  Here are the details:

Zipper back closure. Unstretched measurements: Underbust – 25 – moulded cup C/D,  Waist – 24,  Hips – 32.   As a general rule, the measurements of your latex need to be 2-3 inches smaller than your own to give you a great skin tight fit.

This latex has been properly stored, cared for and conditioned with Vivishine. Will be shipped in its storage bag (pictured).

This dress was close to $400 new and I am letting it go for $150 with free shipping.  Will accept Venmo or Cashapp.  Email me at ayn at mistressay.com prior to sending payment to make sure it is still available.

 

Interview with Domme Addiction – FemDom Mansion

Sunday, 02 February 2020 19:50
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I was recently interviewed by slaveboysmith of Domme Addiction about the evolution of FemDom Mansion, the luxury BDSM retreat that offers immersive experiences to submissives and sissies that are more than mere “sessions”.

slaveboysmith: Today at DommeAddiction finds this slaveboy kneeling in the presence of the beautiful and alluring Mistress Ayn, and preparing to share the story of the amazing Femdom Mansion she has created along with several other Dommes. Welcome to DA, Mistress, and my only regret is that we aren’t actually in Femdom Mansion for this interview!

Mistress Ayn: Hello slaveboysmith. I wish you were here as well. FemDom Mansion is a special place for sure and I appreciate you giving me the opportunity to share some information about it with your readers.

sbs: It would be my privilege to be kneeling before you in Femdom Mansion asking you all about it beautiful Mistress. Let me begin by asking you to share a little about what exactly Femdom Mansion is, and how it distinguishes itself from the array of other dungeon/playspaces that are out there?

MA: For starters, FemDom Mansion is a venue that accommodates one sub at a time which is extremely unique. People sometimes incorrectly think that our events are open for multiple subs, probably because they see multiple Mistresses in attendance and multiple sub events are the norm, but that is not the case. Each event is designed solely around the submissive that books it. They can choose to serve only one Mistress or many. Their interests drive the activities, so each event is unique and a great deal of planning goes into each one. The Mansion is also a private residence so it has all the luxuries and comforts one would expect from such a property – with one big addition, a 2000 square foot BDSM Dungeon. This gives us the best of both worlds, the luxury of an prestigious home for domestic scenes and access to an exceptionally well equipped Dungeon. I don’t know of any other property that offers both at this high a level.

sbs: It’s almost incomprehensible to think of a space where one might serve multiple Mistresses over the span of time spent there. Obviously you are one of the Dommes that a submissive might serve at Femdom Mansion, but you mention multiple Mistresses. Are there other Mistresses that a submissive might choose from, or do they arrange to book Femdom Mansion with a Mistress they already serve?

MA: As the Proprietress I am responsible for the space and what happens within it, so all events include me, whether I am actually active or not. The website includes a list of local Mistresses that I have worked with for years at Atlanta Dungeon and trust. A sub can choose any of those Mistresses listed to be part of their event. We also have two Switches to make things more interesting. That being said, we recently had Mistress Troy of NYC appear as a guest Mistress for two events at the request of the sub. Again, Mistress Troy is a known and trusted Mistress and we had sessioned together before so I had no qualms including her. I am certainly open to a sub attending with his Mistress but it would need to be someone I knew and trusted. These events are a minimum of 24 hours, costly and elaborate to produce so I want to be sure that we are all a good fit so the experience is one that brings us all joy.

sbs: The more I hear about Femdom Mansion the more it becomes etched onto my “bucket list” as a submissive. I can only imagine the cost of a life-changing experience like this and know that it might not be for everyone. Can you give our readers a sense of the type of tax bracket we’re talking about for the opportunity to experience heaven on earth like this Mistress?

For the answer to this and to read the entire interview, visit Domme Addition.

 

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