Category Archives: Miscellaneous Musings

Stealing time – Don’t be “that guy”.

Monday, 08 June 2020 17:28
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As a professional Dominant the only thing I have for sale is My time.  Unfortunately too many want to steal it.  By stealing I mean:

  • Calling to discuss your kinks, ask questions that are available on My website or just chat.  I charge for those types of calls and have a NiteFlirt account set up just for this purpose.  I stopped answering My phone because 9 out of 10 callers are there to attempt to steal.
  • Emailing and requesting an extended session (Dommes are going to be really nice to you if you dangle a 3-4 hour session in front of them, right?) in the future and then attempting to ask questions, exchange photos, etc. leading up to that session – which probably will never happen.  That’s an old trick and most of Us are wise to it.
  • Setting up a session and then wanting to call to discuss the session in advance.
  • Wanting to DM on Twitter, Fetlife, Facebook and other social media.

An experienced Domme can spot these tricks a mile away and it’s one reason deposits have become so prevalent.  If you want a professional’s time, pay for it.  If you want to discuss the session prior, fine.  I will charge you for the call and if you follow through with the session in a timely manner I will apply half the fee to the session.  Most of Us do paid phone sessions, email exchanges and such in addition to real time sessions.  Just ask.  Don’t be “that” guy.

COVID-19, sessions and safety.

Tuesday, 17 March 2020 18:40
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I am getting emails almost daily asking if I am still accepting sessions.  For now the answer is “yes”.  I am a relatively low volume Domme because My tribute is a little higher and My average session length is 2 hours, so I typically don’t see multiple subs per day – especially now.   Seeing a Domme is probably much safer than getting your haircut, going to the gym or even going to your grocery store.  The number of individuals using the facility daily is extremely small and our health consciousness and attention to detail is not something that we just adopted due to the virus.

Ironically a well kept Dungeon is one of the cleanest environments you can be in.  At Atlanta Dungeon our practice has always been to sterilize each piece of equipment after use and to disinfect all furniture you come in contact with during a session.  With COVID-19 our practices are even more strenuous and includes a wipe down of furniture both before and after your session along with disinfecting commonly touched surfaces like door knobs, faucet handles, etc. before and after each session.  Remember, our industry is used to protecting its clients from blood and fluid borne pathogens, so we always use hospital grade cleansers like CaviCide, Barbicide (dimethyl benzyl ammonium chloride), along with bleach and alcohol.

To help make sure I keep you and Myself safe, I am practicing “social distancing” outside of work.  I am no longer going to the gym, eating out or attending functions and am pretty much just staying home and going to the Dungeon as needed.  Obviously everyone has to make their own decisions when it comes to risks but I want My submissives to know that I have their safety as well as My own in the forefront of My mind.

We probably have some trying times ahead and a little stress relief will be needed by all.  If you don’t want or can’t do an in person session, I will be more accessible for phone and Skype sessions.

So if you need a little escape from the world ending, come and get your kink on.

Genuine black latex dress with metal spikes for sale – small/medium

Tuesday, 18 February 2020 23:10
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I have been cleaning out My closet and have finally found something I can bear to part with.  This beautiful couture latex dress from HMSlatex of Paris needs a new home with a dominant woman that will appreciate it.  Here are the details:

Zipper back closure. Unstretched measurements: Underbust – 25 – moulded cup C/D,  Waist – 24,  Hips – 32.   As a general rule, the measurements of your latex need to be 2-3 inches smaller than your own to give you a great skin tight fit.

This latex has been properly stored, cared for and conditioned with Vivishine. Will be shipped in its storage bag (pictured).

This dress was close to $400 new and I am letting it go for $150 with free shipping.  Will accept Venmo or Cashapp.  Email me at ayn at mistressay.com prior to sending payment to make sure it is still available.

 

Interview with Domme Addiction – FemDom Mansion

Sunday, 02 February 2020 19:50
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I was recently interviewed by slaveboysmith of Domme Addiction about the evolution of FemDom Mansion, the luxury BDSM retreat that offers immersive experiences to submissives and sissies that are more than mere “sessions”.

slaveboysmith: Today at DommeAddiction finds this slaveboy kneeling in the presence of the beautiful and alluring Mistress Ayn, and preparing to share the story of the amazing Femdom Mansion she has created along with several other Dommes. Welcome to DA, Mistress, and my only regret is that we aren’t actually in Femdom Mansion for this interview!

Mistress Ayn: Hello slaveboysmith. I wish you were here as well. FemDom Mansion is a special place for sure and I appreciate you giving me the opportunity to share some information about it with your readers.

sbs: It would be my privilege to be kneeling before you in Femdom Mansion asking you all about it beautiful Mistress. Let me begin by asking you to share a little about what exactly Femdom Mansion is, and how it distinguishes itself from the array of other dungeon/playspaces that are out there?

MA: For starters, FemDom Mansion is a venue that accommodates one sub at a time which is extremely unique. People sometimes incorrectly think that our events are open for multiple subs, probably because they see multiple Mistresses in attendance and multiple sub events are the norm, but that is not the case. Each event is designed solely around the submissive that books it. They can choose to serve only one Mistress or many. Their interests drive the activities, so each event is unique and a great deal of planning goes into each one. The Mansion is also a private residence so it has all the luxuries and comforts one would expect from such a property – with one big addition, a 2000 square foot BDSM Dungeon. This gives us the best of both worlds, the luxury of an prestigious home for domestic scenes and access to an exceptionally well equipped Dungeon. I don’t know of any other property that offers both at this high a level.

sbs: It’s almost incomprehensible to think of a space where one might serve multiple Mistresses over the span of time spent there. Obviously you are one of the Dommes that a submissive might serve at Femdom Mansion, but you mention multiple Mistresses. Are there other Mistresses that a submissive might choose from, or do they arrange to book Femdom Mansion with a Mistress they already serve?

MA: As the Proprietress I am responsible for the space and what happens within it, so all events include me, whether I am actually active or not. The website includes a list of local Mistresses that I have worked with for years at Atlanta Dungeon and trust. A sub can choose any of those Mistresses listed to be part of their event. We also have two Switches to make things more interesting. That being said, we recently had Mistress Troy of NYC appear as a guest Mistress for two events at the request of the sub. Again, Mistress Troy is a known and trusted Mistress and we had sessioned together before so I had no qualms including her. I am certainly open to a sub attending with his Mistress but it would need to be someone I knew and trusted. These events are a minimum of 24 hours, costly and elaborate to produce so I want to be sure that we are all a good fit so the experience is one that brings us all joy.

sbs: The more I hear about Femdom Mansion the more it becomes etched onto my “bucket list” as a submissive. I can only imagine the cost of a life-changing experience like this and know that it might not be for everyone. Can you give our readers a sense of the type of tax bracket we’re talking about for the opportunity to experience heaven on earth like this Mistress?

For the answer to this and to read the entire interview, visit Domme Addition.

 

Trials and tribulations of a chastity slave – Installment #20

Sunday, 05 January 2020 18:20
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Installment #20 – About markings – physical and psychological – by slave boy

The dictionary defines “marking” as “the act, process, or an instance of making or giving a mark.”  This rather simplistically defined word takes on a profound, complex, and new meaning in my life, as i am now experiencing “markings” during my submissive and chaste service to Mistress Ayn.

Ironically, many, many months ago and long before i submitted to Mistress Ayn, “no marks” was a hard limit for me when serving any Mistress as Her submissive.  Then, Mistress Ayn asked about this “hard limit” and slowly brought me around to understand that receiving marks was something that pleased Mistress Ayn and can be administered in a safe and sane manner.  Now receiving marks is something i crave as Her personal slave.

A “mark” is a territorial indication that i am Mistress Ayn’s slave.  Sometimes the mark is clearly indicative of that belonging, as when Mistress Ayn leaves Her initial (the mark of an “A”) on my ass during a personal slave training session.  Other times the “mark” is less personal but nonetheless very profound and painful, as when Mistress Ayn flogs or whips my back or thighs, or canes my ass.  These marks do not last more than a few days past the session, as per O/our agreement, but i do find myself checking out the marks later and silently hoping they would last a few days longer.

In addition to the physical markings, the introduction of marks in my submissive life as Mistress Ayn’s slave has another important meaning lasting far beyond their physical presence.  Marking is how Mistress Ayn psychologically exhibits Her control over me and manifests Her possession or ownership of me as Her slave.

i am, as my Twitter name indicates, “Mistress Ayn’s slaveboy.”  That control and ownership is not only shown through physical markings but also psychologically, as She symbolically places Her “mark” on my mind and soul demonstrating Her power over me and in my life.

Markings can be a way of experiencing Mistress Ayn’s infliction of pain, Her physical control over me, and Her psychological ownership of me as Her slaveboy.  What was once inconceivable during a session with a Mistress, and thus a “hard limit,” markings are now a frequently desired occurrence in service to Mistress Ayn.  Receiving Her mark is something i am hoping for every time as i anticipate my next opportunity to serve Mistress Ayn as Her personal slaveboy.

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