Category Archives: Miscellaneous Musings

FemDom Summit in Bucharest 2023

Wednesday, 26 April 2023 13:36
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Over the years I have attended a number of FemDom events and had really lost My taste for them.  The posturing, the egos, the elaborate costuming . . .  after a while it lost its appeal.  But when I heard Mistress Ezada Sinn was hosting a summit specifically for collaboration and networking for Professional Dominatrices, and it was just down the road in Bucharest, I had to attend.

Thoughts:

  1.  Because the event focused on networking, it made the attendance manageable (compared to typical conventions).  This kept things from becoming cliquish and enabled everyone to get to know each other.  At most big events you end up running with the same crew you came with, or people you already know, sticking with the comfort of what is familiar.  I saw people purposefully choose to sit with groups they did not know, just for the experience.
  2. There were “Women only” segments, which I enjoyed the most.  Without you pesky subs under foot, We Ladies had some real opportunities to chat and collaborate without interruptions and were able to speak freely about the business of domination.  We were still served well – the Ladies of the House of Sinn had boys standing in the wings to run and fetch when needed.
  3. The pacing was perfect.  At most big events I end up missing things I want to do:  One thing goes late into the night (or I just played late into the night) and then I miss something at 10am that I really wanted to see or participate in.  That was not an issue at the summit. I even had time to slip in some spa time.
  4. The people were fabulous.  It started with our Host, Ezada Sinn.  Ezada is such a real and genuine person that she put everyone at ease and made newer Dommes, as well as seasoned Pros, feel at home and respected.  That can be a hard thing to do, especially as a well known personality.  By putting everyone at ease, it made it easier for everyone to approach everyone else, ask questions that you might not otherwise ask and make real connections.

I appreciate how much planning and behind the scenes work goes into making an event successful.  I told one of My subs that I looked at it like a FemDom Mansion event times 10 – so I totally respect the work that no one sees.  That is where Mistress Kennya came in.  Mistress Ezada may have been the face of the event, but Mistress Kennya was the primary organizer.  In My experience, organizing a FemDom event is akin to herding cats, so My hat is both of these Ladies for putting together an event that everyone wants to see repeated next year.

Would I attend again next year?  Absolutely.  My only fear is that so will everyone else!  I have told many of My colleagues about it and I want the summit to be successful going forward, but it would be nice if the same small group closeness can be accomplished with a bigger crowd.  If anyone can pull it off I am sure these Ladies can.

Links:
FemDom Summit
Mistress Kennya
Ezada Sinn

Twitter:
@FemdomSummit
@House_of_Sinn_
@Mistress_Ezada
@KennyaMistress

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A European Adventure

Sunday, 08 January 2023 12:23
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Hello all.  As some of you know, I left Atlanta at the end of the year and headed off on a grand adventure.  At present I am in Brasov, Romania and plan to use this as a base to explore some of the more adventurous and mysterious parts of Europe.

A lot of you have had questions:  Am I retiring?  Will I stay here permanently?  Will I offer sessions in Europe?  Will I ever go back to Atlanta?

First, no I am not retiring.  My focus is just shifting so I can do some exploring.  For many years I travelled extensively and just simply burned out on it.  I am not sure what happened over the last couple of years; the lockdowns, watching too many travel videos, being told I can’t travel due to the virus?  Whatever the reason, the travel bug struck again, so off I went.

It’s doubtful I will stay here – or anywhere – permanently.  I can tell you that I like Romania (and the Romanian people) and have been having a wonderful time, but the world is a big place.  Who knows what the future will bring.

As far as sessions are concerned, I am more interested in attending events on this side of the pond than traveling to do individual sessions, but I would be open to combining the two.  Currently I am looking at attending events in the UK, Greece, Portugal and Romania.

Will I go back to Atlanta?  Of course, that’s My FemDom home and where most of My best boys live.  I am currently making plans to return very soon for a visit, so stay tuned for that.  Sessions will be available at Atlanta Dungeon, of course.

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If you have a travel or event suggestion, reach out to Me via one of the above venues and share your ideas.

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Interview with Simone Justice on the ethics of BDSM public play

Monday, 10 January 2022 18:17
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Just before Dom Con New Orleans in 2019, Simone Justice asked if She could interview Me regarding My thoughts on public play.  She was preparing to lead a DomCon Parade down Bourbon Street and the topic of public play, consent and ethics came up.  I don’t think this interview was ever published so I thought I would post it here.

SJ: What is your opinion as to the limits of public play?

MA: I love public play, but it means different things to different people. Some people think the simple act of wearing a visible collar is public play. Others don’t consider play to be public unless it’s more of a scene. It’s important to understand the limits of the person you are playing with in each situation. My only real limit to what I will do in public has to do with the respect of people that could view the play. I don’t like to involve people that haven’t consented and might find what I do with a submissive offensive.

SM: What do you do with your own clients in public?

MA: I have done all kinds of discreet and indiscreet public play. I’ve had shoe fetishists put shoes on me in a shoe store. I’ve taken sissies to have bra fittings at lingerie stores, mani/pedis, in store makeover, etc. I’ve wired subs up with electro or remote plugs and stimulated them in public with no one the wiser. I’ve also done full blown scenes in kink friendly venues.

SJ: What would you never do in public with a client?

MA: I would never do anything that was offensive to on lookers. I’ve outgrown the need for shock value. If I am going to do something with a sub that might offend a shop employee, I call ahead first and clue them in. It’s amazing how often people are good sports and will play into your scene if you just give them the respect of letting them know what is going on. Anything done in front of children that would require an explanation from parents is definitely off limits.

SJ:  How did you develop your rules of what you will do in public?

MA:  Experience. It just evolved over time. I’ve learned the most from listening to my subs and what their concerns are and I understand that everyone’s limits are different.

SJ: Have your limits changed over the years?

MA: Absolutely. I used to have little regard for the “vanillas”. When I was less mature as Domme I found it fun to shock the public. Now I just see it as disrespectful to those not a part of the scene and disrespectful to the concept of BDSM in general.

SJ: Anything else you would like to say about The Ethics of Public Play?

MA: There are tons of opportunities to play in public if you handle it correctly. Consider your surroundings and act accordingly. A venue like Bourbon Street is very different from the neighborhood mall on Saturday. For many subs it is about the idea that things are happening to them in public whether anyone else is aware of it or not. Don’t push the envelope so far that you end up giving BDSM a bad name. BDSM is about consent. Everyone’s consent. Not just you and your play partner.

 

FAQs about Gender Play

Sunday, 09 January 2022 13:35
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What is the difference between a crossdresser and a sissy?

Gender play raises a lot of questions and people often get stuck on the labels.  In general, crossdressing is more of a positive transformation from male to female, experiencing all the wonderful female energy that goes with being pretty and pursued.  Sissy play is more about humiliation; stripping away the male ego and replacing it with a caricature of a woman or a girl.  This humiliation can be extreme and harsh or more benevolent and nurturing, like dealing with a child.

Both scenarios can be emotionally complex.  This underscores the importance in choosing the right Mistress or partner to help you with the exploration.

Does desiring to be feminized mean that I am gay or bi-sexual? 

Absolutely not!  Some men get fully dressed for the first time and declare themselves lesbians.  Others crave to suck cock, but I don’t think it’s done anything more than bring to the surface what has been swirling around underneath.

What happens in a feminization session?

There is no “typical” session when it comes to gender play.  Sessions that involve feminization are as wide and varied as you can possibly imagine.  They may involve forced feminization where the man is made to dress and behave like a slut and involve humiliation or it may be the opposite where a man wants to embrace his feminine side and feel the empowerment that comes from being a woman.  The spectrum between these extremes is where we normally play.

Here are some possible activities:

  • Dressing – from sissy to slutty to elegant.
  • Makeup – trans makeup to full drag queen and anything between.
  • Manicure/Pedicure – out at a salon or in the privacy of the feminization area
  • Esthetician services:  waxing, eyebrow threading, shaving, facial, etc.
  • Full transformations that include makeup, wig, outfits, heels, etc.
  • Sissy training – teaching you to act like a proper sissy, learning to curtsy, talk, walk, etc.
  • Sissy maid training – learning to serve dominant females in various ways.
  • Slut training – learning to suck a strap on, strap on training, etc.
  • Medical scenes – enemas (getting your period), pussy/anal training, mock castrations/gender reassignment, etc.
  • Public outings – this can include salon visits, dance clubs, dinner outings, shopping, etc.

As you can see, the options and combination of activities are almost endless and are defined by your imagination.

Here are links to reviews of sessions that involved gender play, crossdressing and sissy play.

Crossdressing help and feminization session

Pressing “Candy” into service at FemDom Mansion

Training sissy slut “Martina”

Transforming “Dianna”

Panty Slut Pamela’s overnight in the Dungeon

“Vanessa’s” gender reassignment

I also suggest read this interview at Simply Sxy about How to Explore and Enjoy Gender Play.

To set up your feminization session, visit MistressAyn.com, read through the and complete the experience/fetish form when you are ready to book. I also offer phone consultations and distance training for crossdresser and sissies.

 

 

 

 

Using a persona with your kink

Wednesday, 15 December 2021 21:00
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There are a number of reasons you might want to use a different persona when participating in BDSM or kink activities. We discuss a few in this short clip.

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