Category Archives: Miscellaneous Musings

That corest you all help Me win . . .

Remember that?  The photo contest on Facebook back in August where you guys helped Me rack up over 4000 votes to win a custom corset?  Well I promised a photo of the corset that I won and I am happy to say that I finally have one back from the photographer.  The corset took a few weeks to make and be shipped to Me from London.  The same photographer that captured the winning photo also did this one – which I thought was only appropriate – but he is tough to get a shoot scheduled with and he is also a perfectionist, so it took a while . . .

But it was totally worth the wait. It’s My new favorite photo.

Mistress Ayn Atlanta Dominatrix

Photo courtesy of the award winning and internationally renowned Goblin Fruit Photography.

Corset courtesy of CorsetDeal (made to measure).

Link to the photo that won.

Ruined Orgasms

I’ve been a bit fascinated with ruined orgasms lately. Probably because I have been seeing two long term chastity slaves. Neither of them are able to be successfully milked, so I suggested to their key holders that ruined orgasms might be a viable option.

On a recent visit one of the subs confided in Me that as much as he enjoys getting his release when his wife eventually allows it, he then struggles with a diminishment of his sissy submissiveness – which he loves and strives for daily. I know that she occasionally gives him a ruined orgasm, so I asked him if he felt the same way when the orgasm was ruined. His initial response was that he did NOT feel a diminishment in submission – or at least not as much of one, but wants to monitor this and report back to Me. Of course, I have asked his wife to only allow ruined orgasms for a while, so I can get read on this.

Recently I read something about female ruined orgasms (yes, we can have them) and it was stated that we don’t get the same rush of dopamine with a ruined orgasm, so we don’t feel as satisfied and will often seek to immediately have another. I am guessing it is the same for the male physiology. I have noticed in longer sessions that after a ruined orgasm, the sub can usually recover and orgasm again relatively quickly.

Primary ways to ruin an orgasm:

  • Remove all stimulation as soon as the first signs of ejaculation start
  • Stop the flow – by squeezing the base or plugging the hole (this is usually a bit painful)
  • Create discomfort that short circuits the orgasm – a sharp slap to the balls or an increase in electrical current are good examples

The last two options are personal favorites of Mine.  I particularly like adding electro when using the Venus 2000 (the ultimate tease machine).  When the sub gets close, I alternate between turning the machine off and turning up the electro.  One way or the other, eventually that orgasms is going to get ruined.  Post orgasm CBT is also a favorite of Mine, but that is fodder for another article.

I even had some fun in clips lately with ruining orgasms.

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This clip is available on Clips4Sale and AynRules.com.

I started a discussion about ruined orgasms on Domina.ms’s forum, The Buzz.  If you wish to view or participate in this discussion, visit The Buzz.  I would love to hear your thoughts and even answer your questions.

 

Just a little BDSM / FemDom Humor

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All those pesky acronyms and abbreviations in BDSM

bus-1241459_1920For some reason kinksters love their acronyms.  Maybe it’s the need to be discrete in front of others or maybe it’s the geek in us wanting to have a secret lingo that only the “in crowd” understands.  Whatever the reason it can get cumbersome at times.  I remember a Domme texting Me once asking what NT meant.  A sub had listed his kinks in acronyms and she was drawing a blank on that one.  When I replied, “nipple torture”, she did the proverbial face palm.  Of course she knew what NT meant, but with all these to remember (plus subs occasionally make up their own) it can be difficult to recall them sometimes.

Recently on Twitter I announced that I was about to see a particular sub and listed the day’s menu in hashtag acronyms.  When he arrived at the dungeon he said he had been worrying all day what #SOT meant.  I pulled out My strap on and he got it – in more ways than one.

Below is a list some of the most common abbreviations used in Female Domination:

AB – Adult Baby
ATM – Ass to Mouth
BBW – Big Beautiful Woman
BDSM – Bondage & Discipline (BD) Dominance & submission (Ds) Sadism & Masochism (SM)
CBB – Cock and Ball Bondage
CBT – Cock and Ball Torture
CD – Crossdresser
CFNM – Clothed Female, Naked Male
CP – Corporal Punishment
Cuck – Cuckold
D/s – Dominant/submissive
FEMDOM – Female Domination
FT or FTT – Full Toilet or Full Toilet Training
GS – Golden Shower
NT – Nipple Torture
OTK – Over The Knee
RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink
SPH – Small Penis Humiliation
SOT – Strap On Training
SOW – Strap On Worship
SSC – Safe Sane Consensual
TPE – Total Power Exchange
TS – Trans Sexual
WS – Water Sports

The vote is in and the contest was won.

contestIt’s official. Ayn’s Army Ruled. To the Victor goes the spoils!  A big thank you to everyone that voted and encouraged others to vote.  The final tally is no longer visible, but I heard the end result was around 3000 votes to the nearest competition’s 2000 votes.  That’s a respectable margin.

Another big thank you goes to Goblin Fruit Photography for the entry winning photo.

My bespoke corset has been ordered and another photo shoot will be in order once it is delivered.  Be sure to visit Corset Deal’s website.  They even have men’s corsets.

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