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Category Archives: FAQ
Paraphilias vs Fetishes – what is the difference?
- Sunday, 20 February 2022 19:44
- Written by Mistress Ayn
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FAQs about Gender Play
- Sunday, 09 January 2022 13:35
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What is the difference between a crossdresser and a sissy?
Gender play raises a lot of questions and people often get stuck on the labels. In general, crossdressing is more of a positive transformation from male to female, experiencing all the wonderful female energy that goes with being pretty and pursued. Sissy play is more about humiliation; stripping away the male ego and replacing it with a caricature of a woman or a girl. This humiliation can be extreme and harsh or more benevolent and nurturing, like dealing with a child.
Both scenarios can be emotionally complex. This underscores the importance in choosing the right Mistress or partner to help you with the exploration.
Does desiring to be feminized mean that I am gay or bi-sexual?
Absolutely not! Some men get fully dressed for the first time and declare themselves lesbians. Others crave to suck cock, but I don’t think it’s done anything more than bring to the surface what has been swirling around underneath.
What happens in a feminization session?
There is no “typical” session when it comes to gender play. Sessions that involve feminization are as wide and varied as you can possibly imagine. They may involve forced feminization where the man is made to dress and behave like a slut and involve humiliation or it may be the opposite where a man wants to embrace his feminine side and feel the empowerment that comes from being a woman. The spectrum between these extremes is where we normally play.
Here are some possible activities:
- Dressing – from sissy to slutty to elegant.
- Makeup – trans makeup to full drag queen and anything between.
- Manicure/Pedicure – out at a salon or in the privacy of the feminization area
- Esthetician services: waxing, eyebrow threading, shaving, facial, etc.
- Full transformations that include makeup, wig, outfits, heels, etc.
- Sissy training – teaching you to act like a proper sissy, learning to curtsy, talk, walk, etc.
- Sissy maid training – learning to serve dominant females in various ways.
- Slut training – learning to suck a strap on, strap on training, etc.
- Medical scenes – enemas (getting your period), pussy/anal training, mock castrations/gender reassignment, etc.
- Public outings – this can include salon visits, dance clubs, dinner outings, shopping, etc.
As you can see, the options and combination of activities are almost endless and are defined by your imagination.
Here are links to reviews of sessions that involved gender play, crossdressing and sissy play.
Crossdressing help and feminization session
Pressing “Candy” into service at FemDom Mansion
Panty Slut Pamela’s overnight in the Dungeon
“Vanessa’s” gender reassignment
I also suggest read this interview at Simply Sxy about How to Explore and Enjoy Gender Play.
To set up your feminization session, visit MistressAyn.com, read through the and complete the experience/fetish form when you are ready to book. I also offer phone consultations and distance training for crossdresser and sissies.
What’s a Skype session with a Dominatrix like?
- Wednesday, 15 July 2020 18:28
- Written by Mistress Ayn
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Distance Training with Atlanta Dominatrix Mistress Ayn
Curious about having a FemDom video session via Skype or Zoom? You are not alone.
With social distancing still putting a damper on in person BDSM sessions, many subs are asking, “What’s a cam session like?”. The real answer is there is no “typical” cam session but here are some things that I have done:
- I had a sub slut dress himself in naughty lingerie and then stick household objects up his mangina.
- A sub and his sub girlfriend “performed” for Me on video while I directed them to do things to each other.
- One sub has an electrical unit that can be controlled on a desktop. I took control of his screen via Zoom and controlled the electrical while he was in self bondage
- I ordered a sub to gather every item in his house that could possibly be “pervertable” and we methodically went through each one and perverted it.
- I’ve done a double Skype with a porn star. She teased the sub with visuals of her body while I ordered him to do humiliating acts for our amusement.
- I’ve had sissies dress, strip, dance and otherwise entertain Me while I called the shots. Some even practiced deep throating.
- One sub was made to self administer an enema while I watched and then I decided when he could let it go. I watched the whole time of course.
The above are just a few specifics that come to mind. Chastity is also a great option for play and obviously self directed CBT, spanks, nipple play, orgasm control and such are staples for a video session. If you have your own toys, great. If not, we can make do with what you have sitting around the house or office.
If you know Me, you know I have a fabulous imagination. Just because we are limited by distance doesn’t mean that I can’t control you and be entertained by you. Miss sessioning with Me? Do the next best thing and schedule a video session via Skype, Zoom or Facetime today.
Tributes: 30 minutes = $90, one hour = $170
Tributes are payable when the appointment is booked so I can reserve the time and plan accordingly. Just like an in person session, you are expected to be on time. If you are late, the clock starts ticking without you. No shows forfeit the fee entirely.
FAQ #33: What is chastity fetish play?
- Tuesday, 09 June 2020 14:35
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There is serious chastity and there is play chastity. Chastity fetish play is just that, play. If you are looking for someone to control your orgasms on a short term basis to make you excited, enhance your libido and then listen to you beg – then short term chastity fetish play is for you.
I often use this type of orgasm control prior to a session. A submissive locks up a few days (to a few weeks) prior to serving Me in person. I tease him and deny him by making him look at photos or videos of Me, unable to touch, and he soon becomes desperate to do as I command. It keeps the sub focused on his upcoming service and puts him in a proper state of mind starting well ahead of the session.
For this type of chastity, you don’t need an expensive device. This can even be done with “virtual chastity” where no device is used, you are just on the honor system. With all chastity, if you cheat, you are just cheating yourself.
To add some chastity play to an upcoming session or engage in some short term play online, send Me an email at ayn@mistressayn.com to inquire. If you are interested in serious chastity with a key holder, I provide that service too.
Tribute Etiquette
- Wednesday, 28 August 2019 11:55
- Written by Mistress Ayn
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How to present your tribute:
- Have it ready – counting out your tribute in front of Me is uncouth. Whether intended or not, I see it as a passive aggressive move to remind Me that you are paying and therefore in control. It’s not the best way to start your session.
- Have it in a plain, unsealed envelope. Even if you have been seeing Me for years, I may count the tribute in private before we start. Especially if it’s a double or the tribute deviates from our norm. I prefer not to have to rip the envelope open to do this check.
- Don’t write anything on the envelope. I would prefer not to have a bunch of envelopes with “Mistress Ayn” floating around out there – either in your pocket or the trash. We all know who it is for.
- Just lay it down within eyesight upon entry. Don’t hand it to Me. Most of Us were taught not to touch the tribute. It’s a legal thing and I don’t know if it holds water or not, but I have always done it this way and it just feels better to Me. Somehow it’s less transactional and starts everything off right.
I can’t speak for all Dommes but this is how I like to receive My tribute. If in doubt, ask. It is your first live interaction with a Mistress, so get it right and start things off positively.