My First Time Experiencing Shibari—Japanese Rope Play – By Simon Benn
As I entered the dimly lit room, my heart was racing with excitement and nerves. I had always been curious about Shibari—the Japanese rope play, and finally, I had the opportunity to experience it for myself. First, I was welcomed by the rope domina, who introduced herself and explained the basic principles of Shibari.
She emphasized the importance of consent, communication, and trust between partners, which set a safe and comfortable atmosphere for the scene. As I felt the soft ropes tied around my body, I surrendered myself to the sensations, letting go of my thoughts and surrendering to the moment. The intricate knots and patterns created around me both restricted and liberated me, taking me on an intense journey of physical and emotional pleasure.
Long story short, this was my first encounter with this incredible Japanese rope play. Now, in this brief article, I will explain what Shibari is all about, how to prepare for it, and share a glimpse of my experience with you all.
What Is This Japanese Rope Play?
Shibari is a form of BDSM that involves tying up a partner using ropes for aesthetic and sensual purposes. It is a highly physical and intimate activity that requires trust, communication, and consent between partners.
The ropes themselves can be used to create various patterns and designs, each with its unique sensation and aesthetic. The experience of being tied up in Shibari can be both liberating and empowering, allowing one to surrender control and let go of their thoughts. Whether you’re a seasoned practitioner or just starting, the world of Shibari is full of exciting possibilities. Here’s how to do it.
Find A Trusting Partner
Shibari is an intimate and physically demanding activity, so finding the right partner is crucial. Whether you are a beginner or have experience, it is essential to play with someone you can trust and connect with. There are various ways to find a partner for Shibari, including:
- Experienced partner. You may want to look for someone already experienced in Shibari who can guide you through the experience. An experienced partner can also bring a new level of excitement and creativity to your play.
- Learning together. If you’re both new to Shibari, you might want to find a partner willing to learn with you. This can be a fun and exciting way to discover the art of Shibari together and grow as partners.
- Companion Service. You can also consider using a female or a male professional that offers Shibari services. This is a convenient option for those who want to experience Shibari without the commitment or emotional involvement of a romantic relationship. It is essential to ensure that the escort is reputable and follows all the safety guidelines for Shibari play.
Regardless of your approach, it’s essential to communicate openly with your partner about your preferences, limits, and boundaries before engaging in Shibari play. By finding the right partner, you can ensure that your experience with Shibari is both safe and enjoyable.
Consent And Communication Are Essential
Communication and consent are essential components of the BDSM play Shibari, just as they are with any other BDSM play. Therefore, before engaging in any kind of rope play, it is necessary to lay down some ground rules and come up with some code words.
Make sure that the activity is something that both you and your partner feel comfortable doing and that everyone involved has given their complete consent for the activity. Additionally, communication should not stop once the play has begun. It is essential to check in with your partner regularly during the play and make sure everyone is still comfortable and enjoying the activity.
Also, after the fun is over, it’s essential to have a debriefing session where both partners can discuss what they liked, what they didn’t like, and what they would like to do differently in the future.
Learning The Appropriate Techniques And Taking The Necessary Safety Precautions
Before beginning Shibari, it is essential to learn the appropriate techniques and take the necessary precautions. This will help reduce the likelihood of injury and ensure that you and your partner have an experience that is both enjoyable and safe to participate in. You can get started with Shibari with the assistance of a large number of resources and classes that are available online.
Supplies And Equipment
Make sure you have all of the necessary supplies and equipment before you begin. You will need safety scissors, rope (preferably made of hemp or jute), and any other BDSM equipment that either you or your partner might want to use.
Getting Started With The Play
You will be able to begin exploring Shibari as soon as you have gathered all of the necessary supplies and equipment. Begin with straightforward knots, and work your way up to more intricate patterns as you gain experience. Pay close attention to how your partner responds to the environment, and make it a habit to check on them frequently to ensure that they are both secure and comfortable.
Final Thoughts
When I first heard about Shibari, I was intrigued by the idea of incorporating ropes into my BDSM play. I was excited to try it, but I knew I had to approach it with caution and respect to maximize the experience. That’s why I made sure to do my research, pick a reliable partner, establish clear boundaries, and gather all the necessary supplies and equipment. Exploring the world of Shibari can be done in a manner that is both risk-free and enjoyable if you keep these tips in mind.
Let’s shake things up a bit this year. I did that last year with a move to Europe and it’s only been positive. This year is your year to make some changes and get out of your rut. I suggest you embrace your submissive/feminine side and see just how good a submissive you can be. Submission may just set you free.
Just before Dom Con New Orleans in 2019, Simone Justice asked if She could interview Me regarding My thoughts on public play. She was preparing to lead a DomCon Parade down Bourbon Street and the topic of public play, consent and ethics came up. I don’t think this interview was ever published so I thought I would post it here.