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Putting the Professional in Pro Dom

Often when subs talk about sessions or review them, it’s all about the activities, the Dommes appearance, the session space and so forth.  All of these things are important but what about what comes first and lies beneath the surface?  Professionalism.

Recently a submissive took the time to post a review that wasn’t a review of a particular session but of his experience with Me as a professional.  Like him, I believe when a Domme puts the label “Pro” in front of her title it should mean something.  It should mean that a sub’s time is just as important as Ours.  It should mean that respect goes both ways.  It should mean that discretion, cleanliness and safety are expectations that should not need to be worried about – after all, you are dealing with a professional.

This sub goes above and beyond to sing My praises and let readers know how professionalism in Pro Domination should work.  Frankly, it’s one of the most important reviews I have ever gotten and I am very appreciative of his efforts.

The review can be read on The Buzz.  For your convenience, it is posted in its entirety below:

So.. this isn’t a session review. You can see review after review of Mistress Ayn and how amazing She is in session and I am more than willing to attest to how true that is. Instead, this is actually something that is just as important but is rarely discussed in the reviews on this board and that is how amazing Mistress Ayn is as a Professional in this field.

If you know my name or have seen my posts you probably know I have been pretty prolific with my sessioning over the last few years. Therefore, I have dealt with many, many different Pro Dommes. Each Woman is unique, with their own set of rules and methods for dealing with clients and Mistress Ayn is no different in that respect . . .

However, by far, the single most professional and considerate Domme I have ever sessioned with is Mistress Ayn and IMO, She deserves to be called out, praised and known for this fact. Don’t get me wrong, She has Her pain in the butt rules like requiring you to fill out the form on her website before She will consider you as a client. However, She is also willing to give you the logical explanation of exactly why She requires that  . . .

Once accepted, setting up the session itself has always been smooth and easy with the expectations for confirmation calls and pre-session instructions communicated very well. She responds to emails in a timely manner and is perfectly willing to talk on the phone if I ever feel I need to ask/explain something interactively rather than just through text. At the session, She has simple and clear procedures that make you feel your clothes, wallet and other stuff is safe. It is clear that Her equipment is always clean and sanitized and She always separates what She has used during a session from what She hasn’t.

As praiseworthy as all of that is, all of those things are what most Pro Dommes do and other than the incredibly personable way that goes about all of the business surrounding a session, it is pretty standard for those who are truly great in this field. But, even beyond that She loves everything about what She does and She loves to be able to be creative and truly personalize the experience while insuring Her own enjoyment. Again, this is similar to most great Pro Dommes.

So, since these are things that a lot of great Pros do, you may ask what has driven me to write this today? It is that I wrote and asked Her for a reference for another Domme that She knows and who is planning a visit to Detroit. However, instead of just saying “Sure Asp, you can use me as a reference” or “Yes, tell Her contact Me in this way”, Mistress Ayn did something so simple yet so insanely professional that it just blew me away.

Instead, She offered to and then reached out to the Domme and vouched for me in order to make it easier on both myself and the other Domme. Its the kind of little thing that you see in great customer service organizations and yet almost never in this world. Not just to say yes to a request but to see how with just an extremely small effort She could make things easier for everyone involved.

It would be incredibly professional for a lawyer or a doctor or an accountant to do something along those lines with a colleague. Yet in this new world where the “Pro” in Pro Domme tends to stand for “Fuck You Pay Me beta boy” rather than actually being Professional in how a Domme interacts with clients outside of the service itself, it was just an awesome thing to experience. The thing is She probably considers it to be no big deal and just what everyone should do to help a good client connect with a Domme colleague, and that attitude is really why Mistress Ayn really puts the Professional in Pro Domme.

Well… I am here to say it is a very big deal to me. Oh, and as for when you are lucky enough to be within Her control, She is just as amazingly Pro at all of that as well (including the butt stuff).

Asp

FAQ #30 – Are you into financial domination?

I am often asked if I will participate in financial domination or blackmail scenarios.  The short answer is “no”.  I will occasionally play around with it as a theme on a NiteFlirt call or make you pay for unauthorized orgasms, but that’s about the extent of it.  I have no interest in any sort of long-term FinDom relationship.

Why?  I don’t find it particularly fun.  I don’t enjoy playing the bratty girl that expects you to open your wallet just because I tell you.  Call Me old fashioned but I think there should be some value for any sort of financial exchange and I can’t really wrap My head around a sub wanting that kind of domination.  In addition, I would never blackmail a client in reality, so pretending that I would just seems forced.  I’ve read extensively about financial domination, I’ve experimented with it and I just don’t find that it is for Me.

My lack of interest in it does not invalidate it as a real fetish or a real form of domination.  I get that there are submissives that see turning over their finances to a dominant woman to be the ultimate surrender of their private space and a powerful aphrodisiac.  I mean no disrespect to FinDommes that are good at their trade (although I think there are precious few of them that are genuinely good).  As long as the Domme acts responsibly and the sub is consenting, I have no issues with it.  But there is the rub.  Since FinDom is practiced primarily online, a new breed of Dominatrix has sprung up and problems are starting to arise.  More than one case has actually turned criminal when a FinDomme released private information about a client to the public because he refused to continue the roleplay.

If you seek financial domination, choose your FinDom Mistress wisely.  Negotiate the real world implications and have a written record of that negotiation.  The more exposed you really are, the more real and powerful it may feel, but the results, if things go wrong, could be catastrophic to your real life.

FemDom sessions in Washington, DC September 17th – 19th

Once again I am heading to the Nation’s Capital to administer some artful Female styled discipline.  For 3 days only I will be holding court and training submissives.  I am booking now for September 17th – 19th and My schedule is usually full well before I arrive, so book early to secure a place at My feet.

**UPDATE:  The 19th is fully booked.  There are still a few evening openings on the 17th and 18th.**

For those that have not sessioned with Me, here are My interests:

  • Body Worship – Respectful feet, legs and ass
  • Bondage – from the light to the extreme
  • CBT (Cock and ball torment)
  • Corporal Punishment – bare hand, OTK, hairbrush, floggers, paddles, crops, canes, whips, etc.
  • Electro torture/stimulation (ErosTek)
  • Face sitting and smothering (clothed)
  • Feminization – from pantying to makeup and lingerie
  • Foot Fetish – including boot and shoe worship – I have an extensive shoe collection and requests in advance are entertained.
  • Humiliation and degradation
  • Medical Play – including naughty exams, urethral sounds, enema play, stretching, toy play
  • Nipple torture
  • Strap on Worship / Training
  • Tease and Denial
  • Toilet training – golden only
  • Trampling
  • Sensory deprivation/sensory overload
  • Wax play
  • Venus 2000 – tease and denial and forced O

Things I am NOT interested in are full toilet (hardsports), blood play, adult baby or intimate sexual contact.

Most any other fetish can be accommodated, but if you are looking for something special, ask now before the packing is done. I will be hosting in a suite in an upscale hotel convenient to the Metro. The space is ideal for domestic scenes and a variety of role plays. I will be bringing a vast assortment of BDSM equipment for CBT, corporal, medical play, bondage, etc – along with the Eros Tek and Venus 2000.

When traveling I conduct sessions daily from noon until 10pm. I prefer email contact and an application is required for subs I have not sessioned with previously. My schedule in DC always fills quickly and openings are at a premium. If we have not sessioned together before, a deposit will be required to book.

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Reviews from DC sessions:

“It is easy to be intimidated by Mistress Ayn if you are a vanilla couple looking for some extra fun. Her website is impressive and features all kinds of devices that look scary to the uninitiated. But do not let that deter you. For a couple looking to explore a new experience she is the perfect Mistress. She puts you immediately at ease and is willing to listen and explore your ideas.” – Read Full Review on The Mistress Review.

“If she so desired, Mistress Ayn could spit roast you just by herself. I think I would describe this as Wicked and Wild. Her imagination is unlimited.” – Read Full Review on Max Fisch’s The Hang.

“Each time we visit with her, the intensity level seems to increase. I can’t wait to see what she has planned next time. Her mind is truly devious and diabolical.” – Read Full Review on Max Fisch’s The Hang.

“She creates quite a precious moment based on what you share with Her. Time with Her is not simulated, and Mistress Ayn is in total control the moment you encounter Her presence, yet you will feel quite comfortable as if it is entirely natural to serve Her.” – Read Full Review on Max Fisch’s The Hang.

“This was my first session with Mistress Ayn and her insight and skills enabled her to push all my buttons. I am not a newbie but I feel re-energized by Mistress Ayn. She is both beautiful and sensual but perhaps her best asset is her ability to create a fantastic mind fuck. If you have the opportunity, I highly recommend you book time with her.” Read Full Review on Max Fisch’s The Hang.

Doubles all week with Goddess Samantha

The week of August 20th brings something unique: both Goddess Samantha and I will both be in town and conducting sessions at Atlanta Dungeon. We decided to celebrate and you are the one that gets the present. We are offering doubles for the tribute of $400 per hour. If you have ever sessioned with Us before you know what great chemistry we have. If not, check out some of our videos together to see what you might have in store . . .

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AynRules.com

Double sessions are available daily from 2pm-8pm all week.  An application and a deposit are required to book.

 

 

She’s baaaack! Simone Kross Returns.

She’s baaaack!  Simone Kross returns to Atlanta Dungeon August 15th – 18th.  We had an awesome time doing doubles on Her last visit and hope to have fun on this and other upcoming visits.  I will be busy with a FemDom Mansion event the 15th and 16th (Simone is joining Me for some of that excitement as well) so I will only be available for doubles on Friday, August 17th.  This is a ONE DAY ONLY opportunity, so book now.

Doubles are available at a tribute of $400 per hour. Simone’s solo tribute is $300 per hour, so this is an excellent value.  Note that Mistress Simone is available for solo bookings August 15th – 18th  and can be booked by contacting her direct at – mistresssimonekross@gmail.com. For more information about Simone Kross visit her website: MistressSimoneKross.com.

An application and a deposit are required to book.

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