Monthly Archives: June 2020

Distance slave training and online FemDom sessions

Wednesday, 17 June 2020 22:00
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Online Slave Training

For those that can’t session in person or simply want to start or continue ongoing training via a digital format, the following online options are available. Click the links for more information about each program.

Online training works extremely well for a variety of submissive types and interests including chastity training, orgasm control,  JOI, cum play, anal training, cock sucking instruction, sissy dress up, exposure on Twitter (pre-negotiated), CBT instruction, Nipple Torture instruction, self administered punishments like paddling, face slaps, enemas, and pretty much anything else My kinky, devious mind can conjure.

Email Me at ayn@mistressayn.com to apply.

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Cuckold fantasy – making it real

Friday, 12 June 2020 19:29
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The concept of being cuckolded is quite common among men.  I hear it a lot in My industry – men fantasizing about their wives being with other men.  I agree it’s a hot fantasy but in practice I advise against it.   So much can go wrong that can end up tearing a couple apart, but it doesn’t mean you can’t safely enjoy the fantasy.  It just takes effort and imagination.

While doing some distance training with a couple it was revealed that the man had a long held cuckold fantasy and that the wife was resistant.  I gave them My stock advice to keep it in the fantasy realm but I also coached them on how to enjoy the fantasy.  Good fantasy fulfilment often involves at least a little mindfuckery and that’s exactly what we did.  The wife set up the fantasy by informing her husband that she had met someone online (they had been trolling cuckold forums/sites) that she wanted to meet in person.  She explained that she would feel better meeting this person out for a drink to break the ice and that she wanted to go alone so she wouldn’t feel inhibited.

She made her husband help her pick out her outfit and get dressed for the date, all the while telling him how excited she was to meet this guy. He asked her questions about him, she answered.  They made it real.

Once she got to the bar, she checked in as agreed and throughout the evening she sent her husband provocative texts, often leaving his texts unanswered, letting him stew.  She then announced that she was going to get into the car with the guy because the bar had gotten crowded and she wanted to get a look at his cock.  She later texted him a photo of an nicely endowed penis that was obviously taken on a cell phone in a car.  The husband started to doubt that this was just a fantasy . . .

This byplay continued for 3 hours while the husband got more and more aroused.  In addition to arousal he had feelings of jealousy and concern.  All of this is part of the cuckold game.

When she arrived home, she told him all the juicy details of her encounter including having impromptu sex in the guy’s car.  But now she was ready to fuck her husband and have him reclaim what was his.  He was to get the bedroom ready while she changed.  During this time, she rubbed some of her husband’s cum (saved from a previous scene) on her pussy.  When she stipped down for him, she instructed him to clean the other man’s cum from her pussy with his mouth.  The sex that followed was described as “amazing” by them both.

With some effort and roleplay you can make most any fantasy realistic and safe.  I debriefed them both via Skype after the scene and the wife (who had never quite “gotten” the fantasy) said she was extremely aroused during the scene.  Knowing that she was pulling her husbands strings was a power trip and then seeing how excited he was when she returned home made her excited too.  It was a win win.

A review of this couple’s online BDSM training including reference to this cuckolding scene can be found on The Buzz.

**Note:  My opinions are My own and may not be shared by others.  I do not hold Myself out as an expert on cuckolding but I do live a polyamorous lifestyle.  Along the way I have encountered other poly couples, swingers, cucks, hotwives, etc and My opinions about cuckolding come from those experiences.

Remote Keyholding and Online Chastity Programs

Thursday, 11 June 2020 16:48
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Chastity Keyholding for serious submission

In order for Me to be your keyholder you must be serious about being in chastity and be willing to give up control of your orgasms for a negotiated period of time.  If you are looking for someone to lock you up so you can then beg for release in a few hours or days, that is chastity fetish play, and this program is not for you.

Chastity Keyholder

Chastity Key Holding programs:

Basic key holding – $150 per month

Limited interaction.  One ordered orgasm per month.

 

Intermediate key holding –  $300 per month

Interaction every 10 days with specific instructions when unlocked.  Membership to My Fan Page on LoyalFans, that includes unlimited videos and other media  Exposure on social media (if negotiated).  One supervised orgasm or edging session via webcam per month.

 

Advanced key holding – $500 per month

More frequent communication. Weekly tasks, random checks, tease and denial, supervised orgasms or edging.  Membership to My Fan Page.  Exposure on social media (if negotiated).  Three webcam sessions/check-ins per month.

 

What you will need:

  • Chastity device – I will advise if you don’t already have one
  • Numbered plastic locks (if you don’t have a key safe)
  • Key safe
  • Suggested toys:  Hitachi magic wand or similar, butt plug set, dildo, prostate massager, etc.

I take chastity seriously.  Giving control of your orgasm to another is the ultimate act of submission and can be life changing for those that experience it correctly.  Chastity can re-focus your energies and clear your mind, make you feel connected to the female id, enable better orgasms (when you are allowed to have them) and potentially raise your self esteem.

All programs require a minimum commitment of one month.

FAQ

Q:  Will I be able to have an orgasm?

A:  Yes.  I think it is necessary that the male have a least one orgasm per month and I require that as a minimum.

 

Q:  If I need to get out of My cage temporarily for travel, doctors appointments, etc. is this allowed?

A:  Yes, under strict guidelines.

 

Q:  If I decide chastity is not for Me can I cancel?

A:  Yes, but you will not be accepted back into one of My chastity programs and no money will be refunded.  If you quit, it’s final.

 

Q:  I don’t currently have a device.  Will you help Me choose one?

A:  Yes.

 

Q:  Can I have you be my keyholder and have it culminate in an in person session?

A:  Yes, but if the time frame is short term, chastity fetish play may be more appropriate.

To inquire about being accepted into My chastity keyholder program, email Me via Contact the Mistress page of My website.

 

 

 

FAQ #33: What is chastity fetish play?

Tuesday, 09 June 2020 14:35
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virtual chastityThere is serious chastity and there is play chastity.  Chastity fetish play is just that, play.  If you are looking for someone to control your orgasms on a short term basis to make you excited, enhance your libido and then listen to you beg – then short term chastity fetish play is for you.

I often use this type of orgasm control prior to a session.  A submissive locks up a few days (to a few weeks) prior to serving Me in person.  I tease him and deny him by making him look at photos or videos of Me, unable to touch, and he soon becomes desperate to do as I command.   It keeps the sub focused on his upcoming service and puts him in a proper state of mind starting well ahead of the session.

For this type of chastity, you don’t need an expensive device.  This can even be done with “virtual chastity” where no device is used, you are just on the honor system.  With all chastity, if you cheat, you are just cheating yourself.

To add some chastity play to an upcoming session or engage in some short term play online, send Me an email at ayn@mistressayn.com to inquire.  If you are interested in serious chastity with a key holder, I provide that service too.

Stealing time – Don’t be “that guy”.

Monday, 08 June 2020 17:28
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As a professional Dominant the only thing I have for sale is My time.  Unfortunately too many want to steal it.  By stealing I mean:

  • Calling to discuss your kinks, ask questions that are available on My website or just chat.  I charge for those types of calls and have a NiteFlirt account set up just for this purpose.  I stopped answering My phone because 9 out of 10 callers are there to attempt to steal.
  • Emailing and requesting an extended session (Dommes are going to be really nice to you if you dangle a 3-4 hour session in front of them, right?) in the future and then attempting to ask questions, exchange photos, etc. leading up to that session – which probably will never happen.  That’s an old trick and most of Us are wise to it.
  • Setting up a session and then wanting to call to discuss the session in advance.
  • Wanting to DM on Twitter, Fetlife, Facebook and other social media.

An experienced Domme can spot these tricks a mile away and it’s one reason deposits have become so prevalent.  If you want a professional’s time, pay for it.  If you want to discuss the session prior, fine.  I will charge you for the call and if you follow through with the session in a timely manner I will apply half the fee to the session.  Most of Us do paid phone sessions, email exchanges and such in addition to real time sessions.  Just ask.  Don’t be “that” guy.

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