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During every financial downturn my inbox fills with requests to be trained as a Dominatrix.\u00a0 For some reason when times are tough many ladies think that the adult industry is the place to turn, and it might be, but deciding to become a Dominatrix because whatever you are currently involved in isn’t working out may not be your best move.<\/p>\n
First, ask yourself the following questions:<\/p>\n
Do you enjoy kink in your personal life? Do you engage in BDSM personally?\u00a0 Do you go to public Dungeons or attend kink events?\u00a0 If the answer is “no” then you are probably looking at this profession purely as a means to make money and if that is the case, I can pretty much guarantee that you won’t last.\u00a0 Dealing with other people’s kinky fantasies day in and day out is not for the non-kinkster.<\/p>\n
Do you love men? I don’t mean just like or tolerate men, but truly love men?\u00a0 If not, take a pass.\u00a0 This profession is primarily about the male fantasy.\u00a0 The idea that you get to abuse men for a living may be your fantasy but it is not reality.\u00a0 If you can’t communicate with men, empathize with them, be confident around them and respect them, this is not the profession for you.<\/p>\n
Are you a disciplined self starter? As a Dominatrix you are self employed.\u00a0 There won’t be anyone there to tell you to answer your emails, place your ads, keep your social media up to date, participate in photo shoots, network with your peers, maintain communication with your clients, be on time and in general act like a professional.\u00a0 It’s all on you.\u00a0 If you could do all of the above, you could probably be successful in anything you chose.\u00a0 Are you sure you want to put that kind of effort into this?<\/p>\n
Are you working through issues? Trying to get a handle on personal problems like relationship drama, substance abuse, depression or anxiety does not mix well with the adult industry.\u00a0 Unfortunately it seems to be the first place many people turn but confidence and inner strength are needed to survive and succeed here.\u00a0 Otherwise it will exacerbate your issues and potentially chew you up.<\/p>\n
The four questions above are just a start.\u00a0 The hard truth is that it takes more than an attractive look and a leather corset to flourish and make a name for yourself in the industry.\u00a0 Skill, empathy and professionalism are pre-requisites.<\/p>\n
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\nDo something you love.<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n
That being said, if the above questions are not an issue for you, then being a Dominatrix may be the ideal profession.\u00a0 Imagine doing something you truly love everyday and getting paid for it.\u00a0 That’s how I feel.\u00a0 I have done many things in my life and have been successful at most of them, but I have never done anything that I enjoy more than this.<\/p>\n
\nMy story:<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n
I was introduced to FemDom by my significant other more than 20 years ago.\u00a0 \u00a0I went to clubs, read voraciously, hung around with lifestyle BDSMers and in general learned and tried everything I could, just for the experience – because I loved the kink.\u00a0 In 2009 I decided to make a change in my career path and took my knowledge of BDSM (there were still gaps even after 10 years) and combined it with my corporate experience and marketing expertise.\u00a0 I became a Dominatrix – but I still needed help.<\/p>\n
Nothing in life is free and I didn’t expect other industry professionals to help me for free.\u00a0 I still needed to know how the professional side of the industry worked.\u00a0 How do you screen clients?\u00a0 Where is the best place to do sessions?\u00a0 Where do you advertise?\u00a0 Etc, etc. So I sought out a mentor but I offered something in return.\u00a0 After all, you are asking a seemingly successful person to train you and set you up so you can basically go into competition with them.\u00a0 Why should they do that?<\/p>\n
\nWhat do you have to offer?<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n
So sit back and think about that for a minute.\u00a0 How much do you need and what are you asking for?\u00a0 Do you need to learn the FemDom scene from the ground up?\u00a0 Do you just need some logistical information to get the business side of things started?\u00a0 What is this knowledge worth and how do you intend to pay for it?\u00a0 Will you offer an upfront consulting fee or one paid out over time?\u00a0 Will you agree to rent space from the mentor if they offer such a service?\u00a0 These are legitimate questions.\u00a0 You need to have answers before you start knocking on doors.<\/p>\n
If none of this has discouraged you, then follow you dream.\u00a0 Me?\u00a0 I no longer mentor.\u00a0 I found it to be a thankless job that was unappreciated by most that sought my help.\u00a0 But there are people out there that will help you if you are sincere and offer something in return.\u00a0 If you want to take the time to email me, I can point you in the right direction.\u00a0 I still recommend connecting with local scene people.\u00a0 They can teach you much and even send you in the direction of those that may be able to help you further.\u00a0 The more you know before you enter the arena of professional domination, the more equipped you will be for success.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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