Often when subs talk about sessions or review them, it’s all about the activities, the Dommes appearance, the session space and so forth. All of these things are important but what about what comes first and lies beneath the surface? Professionalism.
Recently a submissive took the time to post a review that wasn’t a review of a particular session but of his experience with Me as a professional. Like him, I believe when a Domme puts the label “Pro” in front of her title it should mean something. It should mean that a sub’s time is just as important as Ours. It should mean that respect goes both ways. It should mean that discretion, cleanliness and safety are expectations that should not need to be worried about – after all, you are dealing with a professional.
This sub goes above and beyond to sing My praises and let readers know how professionalism in Pro Domination should work. Frankly, it’s one of the most important reviews I have ever gotten and I am very appreciative of his efforts.
The review can be read on The Buzz. For your convenience, it is posted in its entirety below:
So.. this isn’t a session review. You can see review after review of Mistress Ayn and how amazing She is in session and I am more than willing to attest to how true that is. Instead, this is actually something that is just as important but is rarely discussed in the reviews on this board and that is how amazing Mistress Ayn is as a Professional in this field.
If you know my name or have seen my posts you probably know I have been pretty prolific with my sessioning over the last few years. Therefore, I have dealt with many, many different Pro Dommes. Each Woman is unique, with their own set of rules and methods for dealing with clients and Mistress Ayn is no different in that respect . . .
However, by far, the single most professional and considerate Domme I have ever sessioned with is Mistress Ayn and IMO, She deserves to be called out, praised and known for this fact. Don’t get me wrong, She has Her pain in the butt rules like requiring you to fill out the form on her website before She will consider you as a client. However, She is also willing to give you the logical explanation of exactly why She requires that . . .
Once accepted, setting up the session itself has always been smooth and easy with the expectations for confirmation calls and pre-session instructions communicated very well. She responds to emails in a timely manner and is perfectly willing to talk on the phone if I ever feel I need to ask/explain something interactively rather than just through text. At the session, She has simple and clear procedures that make you feel your clothes, wallet and other stuff is safe. It is clear that Her equipment is always clean and sanitized and She always separates what She has used during a session from what She hasn’t.
As praiseworthy as all of that is, all of those things are what most Pro Dommes do and other than the incredibly personable way that goes about all of the business surrounding a session, it is pretty standard for those who are truly great in this field. But, even beyond that She loves everything about what She does and She loves to be able to be creative and truly personalize the experience while insuring Her own enjoyment. Again, this is similar to most great Pro Dommes.
So, since these are things that a lot of great Pros do, you may ask what has driven me to write this today? It is that I wrote and asked Her for a reference for another Domme that She knows and who is planning a visit to Detroit. However, instead of just saying “Sure Asp, you can use me as a reference” or “Yes, tell Her contact Me in this way”, Mistress Ayn did something so simple yet so insanely professional that it just blew me away.
Instead, She offered to and then reached out to the Domme and vouched for me in order to make it easier on both myself and the other Domme. Its the kind of little thing that you see in great customer service organizations and yet almost never in this world. Not just to say yes to a request but to see how with just an extremely small effort She could make things easier for everyone involved.
It would be incredibly professional for a lawyer or a doctor or an accountant to do something along those lines with a colleague. Yet in this new world where the “Pro” in Pro Domme tends to stand for “Fuck You Pay Me beta boy” rather than actually being Professional in how a Domme interacts with clients outside of the service itself, it was just an awesome thing to experience. The thing is She probably considers it to be no big deal and just what everyone should do to help a good client connect with a Domme colleague, and that attitude is really why Mistress Ayn really puts the Professional in Pro Domme.
Well… I am here to say it is a very big deal to me. Oh, and as for when you are lucky enough to be within Her control, She is just as amazingly Pro at all of that as well (including the butt stuff).
Asp
I received this letter via email a few days after spending time with a long-term submissive that I consider “Mine”. It’s safe to say we have a special relationship – the kind that longevity, pushing limits and extended sessions will give. It just made Me smile and I wanted to share.
Many of you are aware that I do a lot of work with couples and it makes Me seriously happy when I see couples enjoying the lifestyle. On a recent trip to DC I got an interesting email: a sub contacts Me saying he will be in DC on a business trip the same time I am there and his Wife/.Mistress has given him permission to book a session. That got Me excited. The idea of collaborating with his Wife and then executing a mutual plan was a treat and that’s exactly what We did.
Here is his review of the session. It can also be viewed on